Getting a grip on my life...

FaceHeelTurn

Happy to day that I've now completely paid off my smallest CC I had then planned to tackle the next smallest, however after having a chat with my partner and thinking about it more, I'm going to throw everything at the larger debt. Have now paid of 21% of the total; I was originally aiming for 5% per month so I'm pleased to be ahead of that target for now.

Have moved office this week so my routine has been knocked out of place a bit and I'm exhausted from learning the new job. And as a result of that I haven't been bringing in lunches. Luckily, between lots of meetings in work, I've managed to blag a free lunch almost every day, so I'll be making the effort with packed lunches again next week.

Not feeling all that great outside of the debt busting world; my anxiety is feeling heightened at the moment, possibly due to the change in job/office, and my partner seems to be going through a bad phase of depression. She's been through CBT and has been taking medication for years (since before we met), and so this is the first time I've actually seen her so low. Her job has recently changed too, she's working extremely long hours, and so hasn't had time to get anything sorted for her new house. Of course, me being ridden with anxiety, can't help but feel it's my fault, and when I've tried to talk about it, she says she doesn't know what's wrong. I think since she's unable to deny that it's my fault, is making me feel worse. So my over-emotional, needy anxiety, and her depression are really not helping each other!

Anyway sorry for the non-debt related rant. Everything has been playing on my mind so I hope that writing it down will make me feel a bit better at least.

GlendaSugarbean

It's tough supporting a partner with depression. The main things to remember are that a) it is not your fault and b) they need to advocate for their own treatment (with your help and support). Would she be up for talking with her GP re: a meds review? It sounds like things have changed and she needs a little more support right now.

Anything concrete you and friends can do to help with the new house?

Keep on with it all, you will get there

FaceHeelTurn

GlendaSugarbean wrote: »

It's tough supporting a partner with depression. The main things to remember are that a) it is not your fault and b) they need to advocate for their own treatment (with your help and support). Would she be up for talking with her GP re: a meds review? It sounds like things have changed and she needs a little more support right now.

Anything concrete you and friends can do to help with the new house?

Keep on with it all, you will get there

Thanks Glenda for the encouraging words We had a good chat last night and she is going to go back to her doctor; I think CBT was and still is very useful for her in certain situations but she feels there is a deeper issue that she can't really deal with herself. Re the house, we're going mattress and blind shopping tomorrow! Once those are bought/delivered/installed the house should at least be liveable in, and then she can really start to make it feel like home. Thank you again for replying Glenda, it's nice to have some objective advice and reassurance :A

FaceHeelTurn

It's been quite some time since I posted and the debt busting has slowed down considerably. Still slowly improving but I'd like to get back into the habit of posting on here, to get back in the positive mind frame!

Since last time, I've at long last paid back money I owed my partner (at its worst was about £800), and have taken advantage of another 0% balance transfer and shifted about £1400 from one cc to another. I've also changed supermarket and can't believe what a difference this has made; I'm always shocked (pleasantly!) when I get to the till.

My partner is feeling a little better with regards her mental health. A change in medication and speaking to a counsellor is making her feel more hopeful about things, and now she has settled into her new home which has also been great