Don't know what to do...

GTR_King

Ok so I messaged this girl on match.com about 12 days ago...

We messaged for a few days then gave her my number she gave me her as well (Few days later)

We spoke on IMessage for a few days (She kept bugging me to FaceTime Her) asked if she wanted to meet up got told I wanna FaceTime before I see ya.. (If I Didn't reply within a reasonable amount of time she would message again)...

She added me on SnapChat and sent me pic of her (Looked nice)

So we finally FaceTimed (Last Thursday) I thought it went well (Looked liked she has mild Autism like me)

she asked me a few questions kept saying my voice sounded posh... Mid way through a convo she Randomly did a Mr Burns Impression, she was smiling went bright red a few times laughing with me stuttered a few times, showed me her Tattoo on her Thigh.

Few Awkward silence's not many, I asked her on FaceTime if she wanted to meet up, she went bright red/silence for a few secs then Said yeah I would like to...

Spoke a bit on IMessage after,

She message me first (Friday) saying morning xx.. Spoke a bit on Friday through out the day (Short messages but replies)

Also said
Me: Are you gonna let me take you out soon? !!!128522; xx
Her: Maybe xx

Message her this Morning saying Morning Beautiful !!!128522; xx got no reply...

As I think she has Mild Autism (She hinted it on faceTime) should I message her again?? Or move on?? I don't wanna pester/annoy her??

What should I say? She seems nervous/shy person

freshstart11

I would leave it for a bit just wait to see if she replies at all. Don't overwhelm her with messages

GTR_King

So how long should I leave it??

was gonna say

Hey I really Enjoyed our FaceTime chat the other night! Would love to do it again Hope to hear from you soon xx

the If hear nothing from her move on..

But she liked my profile on match first...

freshstart11

if you don't want to wait to see if will message I would leave it a good few days.

Honestly though, if I wasn't replying to someone and they kept messaging me it would raise questions as may seem a little...clingy for lack of a better word. I think maybe Wed if you really want to but do give it time, it may be she is dealing with something in personal life right now.

If she doesn't respond, move onwards and upwards

marliepanda

Are you autistic as well? (Just curious as you!!!8217;ve mentioned hers a few times)

It!!!8217;s only Saturday evening and she might have had plans. If she!!!8217;s messaged you since the FaceTime I!!!8217;m sure she!!!8217;s still interested

GTR_King

Yeah I am but very mild.. and seemed like she is as well..

I been on 2 dates last 2 weekends (Not this one 2 different people ) They all seemed interested Including this one then fade away..

How can she like my profile and seem so keen/Interested to speak on FaceTime and seemed Interested when talking to her and saying would like to meet up to going cold/no reply...

Not the end of the world if she says noo..

But from the start of messaging all her messages have been short/don't know what to say...

All I want is for someone to like me for who I am.. (How hard can that be)

Last long term Relationship ended Oct 2013 (Over 3 years with her had a break in the middle) had loads of dates since then and few short term things 1-3 months at most with 3-4 girls...

NBLondon

Leave it a few days... She could have lost her phone, gone away for a family emergency or something. If she is shy (or possibly on the spectrum) then being too keen may frighten her. Some people do go silent as a test - but she doesn't sound like a game player so not likely. You've made it clear where you stand - leave her to do the same. If you have been ghosted (for whatever reason) then try to shrug and move on. If she was playing games - you're probably best out of it. If you get a response later in the week and it goes well - good luck to you...

jackomdj

I wouldn't be too happy with the morning beautiful this early on! I would leave it until she replies.

GTR_King

Update,

She messaged me on Sunday evening quite a bit (Not long messages) and few times today (Not loads)

Sounds like she is really shy/nervous doesn't what to say/hard at showing feelings etc

So gonna still talk to her and try to get to know her better

If she is truly interested she will wanna meet up/FaceTime again in her own time. Don't wanna pressure her..

Who knows if she is interested etc time will tell..

if she dose go cold/don't reply will leave it a few days to see if she gets back to me.. if she dose great if not o well

Still talking to others as well

LilElvis

GTR_King wrote: »

Update,

She messaged me on Sunday evening quite a bit (Not long messages) and few times today (Not loads)

Sounds like she is really shy/nervous doesn't what to say/hard at showing feelings etc

So gonna still talk to her and try to get to know her better

If she is truly interested she will wanna meet up/FaceTime again in her own time. Don't wanna pressure her..

Who knows if she is interested etc time will tell..

if she dose go cold/don't reply will leave it a few days to see if she gets back to me.. if she dose great if not o well

Still talking to others as well

Perhaps she's doing the same. You don't really know each other - I've probably had more interaction with some members of this forum than you have had with this woman. If you are really interested in her then why are you continuing to contact other women? It doesn't sound like you're that bothered if you're still trawling the net and she's better off finding a man who acts more like his age than his shoe size based on your apparent need to speed from "hello" to "committed relationship" .

GTR_King

I am interested in this woman,

I am gonna leave it a few days and let her contact me if heard nothing in 3-4 days time, I will say something like this,

I would love to take you out on a date, So I can get to know you better!! If your up for it, let me know a date and time, and I will pick the place.

If she says maybe or nothing at all I will move on & only reply to her if she wanna meet up

Usually after the 2nd-3rd date (Maybe 4th) that’s when I stop talking to other women and concentrate on the one..