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Ex won't give back inheritance.

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Hello.

Posting this out of desperation and for advice, I've read things on threads of people with similar experiences. I just broke up with my ex, although it was going that way for a little while I think. Was a difficult relationship in terms of he got a job before me (we were only together for 6 months though) and was generally sometimes unpleasant and rude. Anyway, I was gifted a large sum (for me) of £10000 that I put into his bank account because I'm not good with money and we agreed he would help me to look after it. I started going to his work and helping him there, but wasn't being paid. Also he was quite accusatory every day of me doing various things - he didn't trust me. This was part of the reason I went to work with him and also partly why I felt pressurised to putting money into his account to look after. Now we have broken up he is saying that the money has now gone down to £2500 and he is only willing to give me half of that. It was 5 weeks ago that I put the money in. He did have wages so obviously feels he shouldnt have to pay me back my inheritance because "we were a partnership". I do have a mental health condition that means I do stupid things like over trust etc but now I feel very ill and powerless. I also dont expect all of the money back, but I think at least half so that we have both paid a similar amount for food etc over the past 5 weeks is fair. He will argue that he worked for a longer time than I had any money (although we both had a temporary job at the Beginning and had a bit of money from that). Anyway, This is a ramble but hope people have advice. What can I do??? Thanks.
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  • Keep_pedalling
    Keep_pedalling Posts: 20,646 Forumite
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    Unfortunately you are correct with the statement that you are not good with money. You could take him to the small claims court to try and retrieve it but unless you can prove this was not a gift you are going to struggle to get it back.
  • nobile
    nobile Posts: 574 Forumite
    Get used to never seeing a penny of that again.

    That is the sad truth.

    If you knew you weren't very good at managing cash, then trust me your 'now ex' knew it very well, as you filled his account.
  • chesky
    chesky Posts: 1,341 Forumite
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    You only knew him for six months and put your money into his account. If you never get your money back, at least learn from the experience. It sounds as though you have been taken advantage of by this horrible person, so try never to be in the same position again. Do you not have old friends or family you can trust to advise you about things like this?
  • Red-Squirrel_2
    Red-Squirrel_2 Posts: 4,341 Forumite
    I think it might be worth contacting Women's Aid. This sounds like a very deliberate exploitation of you, and financial abuse.

    There may not be much you can do about it, but worth a call I'd say.

    https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/helpline/#1447935545169-3f348b09-4541
  • 74jax
    74jax Posts: 7,930 Forumite
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    You gave him 10k after 6 months?

    How long have you been together now?

    Did you live together, did you split everything 50/50?
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  • bigisi
    bigisi Posts: 925 Forumite
    I think it might be worth contacting Women's Aid. This sounds like a very deliberate exploitation of you, and financial abuse.

    There may not be much you can do about it, but worth a call I'd say.

    https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/helpline/#1447935545169-3f348b09-4541

    I can't see anything in the OP to suggest the poster is a woman. Not saying they're not but you've made a massive assumption.
  • Malthusian
    Malthusian Posts: 11,055 Forumite
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    bigisi wrote: »
    I can't see anything in the OP to suggest the poster is a woman.

    Their username is "isitfran". Fran is almost always short for Frances and not Francis (or similar names).

    They also explicitly identify the other person as male, and I know this isn't very progressive of me to point out, but this gives a 90-95% chance that the OP is female.

    As for the matter at hand, I would advise seeing a solicitor for a free initial meeting before writing £10,000 off. But only when the OP is in a good place mentally.
  • Pollycat
    Pollycat Posts: 35,718 Forumite
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    The OP sounds quite vulnerable.

    I wonder if she has support.
    And if she doesn't, can anyone recommend where she can go for help.
  • AndyPix
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    I feel awful for you OP .. You have basically been robbed


    Do you not have any decent sized male friends/family that could go and "persuade" him to give your money back ?
  • pollypenny
    pollypenny Posts: 29,432 Forumite
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    You were only together for six months and you gave him £10k to look after at what stage?

    You must have been mad! Did he suggest that you put the money in his account? Was there no one else advising you?
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