A Plan at Long Last
chris27
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So the time came finally a 4 weeks ago where I owned up to my partner on my debts.
I've been keeping it all to myself to shelter her from my stress, and all it's been doing is stressing me out, and then whenever she talked about money and holidays, and buying this or that, I wasn't able to commit, which made me sound like I was uninterested in doing those things or not enthusiastic.
So I kept getting frustrated that she was getting frustrated with me, and then I realised.....how can I blame her or get annoyed at her for getting annoyed with me, when she doesn't have all the information.
So I took the action to tell her, but before I told her I made sure that I'd got a plan in place.
I downloaded the snowball repayment spreadsheet and filled it all in.
I made a spreadsheet with all my outgoings and incomings on to track what I had left each month as well.
Armed with this I let her into my situation and showed her my plan.
What a relief it was.....and her reaction was totally the opposite of what I had feared. Totally supportive and now understands why I've been the way I have when she's talked about spending money on stuff.
There is now context.
My debts total £17'800 that I've spread across multiple 0% balance transfer cards, and now realising that 2 cards I'm paying interest on.
I should have my first card paid off by November this year, which will be one of the cards I'm paying interest on.
Then fully debt free by 2021 which sounds a long way away, but I know it will come quick.
I feels so much better now knowing someone else knows and is supporting me.
I've been keeping it all to myself to shelter her from my stress, and all it's been doing is stressing me out, and then whenever she talked about money and holidays, and buying this or that, I wasn't able to commit, which made me sound like I was uninterested in doing those things or not enthusiastic.
So I kept getting frustrated that she was getting frustrated with me, and then I realised.....how can I blame her or get annoyed at her for getting annoyed with me, when she doesn't have all the information.
So I took the action to tell her, but before I told her I made sure that I'd got a plan in place.
I downloaded the snowball repayment spreadsheet and filled it all in.
I made a spreadsheet with all my outgoings and incomings on to track what I had left each month as well.
Armed with this I let her into my situation and showed her my plan.
What a relief it was.....and her reaction was totally the opposite of what I had feared. Totally supportive and now understands why I've been the way I have when she's talked about spending money on stuff.
There is now context.
My debts total £17'800 that I've spread across multiple 0% balance transfer cards, and now realising that 2 cards I'm paying interest on.
I should have my first card paid off by November this year, which will be one of the cards I'm paying interest on.
Then fully debt free by 2021 which sounds a long way away, but I know it will come quick.
I feels so much better now knowing someone else knows and is supporting me.
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You have taken that first big step and it is great to hear that your SO is supportive and understanding.
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Well done you on opening up and starting to tackle this !!!9786;
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