husband in debt denial

chevalier

indesisiv wrote: »

Where do your household bills, mobile phones, sky, utility bills, car costs etc come out of. Start by pulling together that information along with food costs etc to see where you are at as a starting point.

Here is where you could help. I assume all of these come out of the joint account. So you can go through these and check that you are getting the best deal. Then you can use this as a way of getting more involved by encouraging him to switch to the new deals (or you do it yourself if you are on the accounts).
Good luck
chev

chevalier

How are things going?

deux_x_m

Hi DD

I hope you are feeling better and have managed to speak to your partner.
I have been in his position rather than yours. My debts were large and my wife didn't know what they were. I had buried my head in the sand and didn't want to look at what I owed. Part of that was not speaking to her about it as I would have had to have looked properly at what I owed.
It was hugely stressful (along with stress at work) and easier to ignore and just hope that everything turned out okay.
I do hope your that you can speak with each other and get everything out in the open. It suddenly isn't so scary and you can make a plan together.
Good luck