Advice about Enhanced DBS, Univeristy and Social Work

Savvy_Sue

Rambles2814 wrote: »

I unfortunately haven't paid her back, I have tried to ring and message her but she won't reply and has deleted me off social media.

I've been advised not to keep pestering her as this could make the case worse. If I had her bank details I would happily transfer it. I would personally go to her house but I feel like that might cause more hassle

Even if you do not have a cheque book, would your bank send one to you? (I know not all accounts offer this service on all accounts.)

And if not, can you not get a cheque raised at the bank and post it to her? No need to go into details: you can just say you need to get some money to someone and you don't have their bank details.

Actually - and this one costs a bit more - you can still buy postal orders at the Post Office. There, you get no proof that she's paid it in, so would be my least preferred method.

BTW, you described her as a 'friend'. This is not the way a friend behaves.

How much are we talking about?

marlot

sangie595 wrote: »

Ermmm.... You used the card once, but then again you used it several times, and it was totally accidental because you have several cards which I assume are yours but you happened to have her card (how? Not even my best friend has my card!!!)

The hole you are digging is bigger. It started out unbelievable and has ended up on another planet. They won't believe any of this - even I am thinking that you are not a suitable person to be working with vulnerable people, and that's based on your version of the story.

I lead safeguarding for a charity, and I agree.

If this caution came up on your record, there is no way that I'd be letting you near vulnerable adults.

Sorry to be blunt.

Comms69

Ok.


1: the OP knows where this friend lives, unless I've misunderstood the story regarding how she got the card. Post the money through
2: the OP knows where friend works. Drop it off there.


That's the advice if the story is true. However here goes.


This all sounds too rehearsed. Reason upon reason of how and why. I suspect 9/10, should such a thing happen, the conversation would be this:


OP: Hi friend, just realised I picked up your card by mistake after last Friday/x night out. I can drop it off for you or leave it at work.
Friend: oh thanks, hadn't even realised.
OP: By the way I sometimes use contactless payments, can you check your bank and let me know if I used your card by mistake, i'll transfer / drop off the money for you
Friend: No worries, I'll check and let you know. thanks for telling me.


Somehow two people who work in the same place, go out on nights out and stay at each other's homes end up falling out so badly over a few transactions that one of them calls the police? and the other doesn't return the money straight away?


Just doesn't sound right. If the OP is telling the truth, they've had all the advice they need. If they're lying it will come out and they will lose the course and the career.


I don't think someone intervening in the lives of vulnerable people, making life changing decisions and potentially taking legal action should struggle so much with such basic concepts or the 'right thing to do'

Manxman_in_exile

marlot wrote: »

I lead safeguarding for a charity, and I agree.

If this caution came up on your record, there is no way that I'd be letting you near vulnerable adults.

Sorry to be blunt.

I agree. I worked for a mental health NHS trust which was one of the first to have social workers TUPE'd over to them. The OP does not appear to be a suitable person to take on SW duties.

Manxman_in_exile

elsien wrote: »

Being picky now, but if you're going to do a degree you might want to start using correct English instead of made up words such as "she crimed it."

That's not picky at all - it's a valid point!