Facebook incident with colleagues?

xapprenticex

The one who blocked you, is that the young one who was swearing? Can you imagine why they blocked you? And to think that you have been tagged into something else, i feel they are just bullying you or consider you a soft target.

lincroft1710

getmore4less wrote: »

Mag==rag as they were known.

I thought they were "ragmags". Some were very good, but haven't seen any for years.

Zeni

In a lot of ways I agree with sangie. If you are worried this will hang over your head you could be proactive and go to them yourself and say what happened and admit what you were at fault for. I feel like from what you've said and if they are seniority what they have done is far worse than what you have said such as suicide comments they weren't called for.

Jlawson118

Leo2020 wrote: »

Any of a persons friends can tag them in something unless you change the setttings in Facebook. Very harsh to get sacked because a friend tagged you in something but like you say you don't know how it works I would guess many employers don't either and might think the person tagged themselves (which you can also do).

My friend who I mentioned above who's colleague lost her job, he told me to be careful what I tag him in so that he doesn't get into trouble. So I asked "How does ME tagging YOU in something affect your job?" And he said it's basically down to association with a person, that they're communicating with the wrong people or something like that.

Bit harsh in my opinion though as it wouldn't be his fault. But we both just send each other funny memes or videos through messenger now and don't often tag each other in anything publicly whether it's a bit risky or not

Jlawson118

sangie595 wrote: »

Hmm. I'm concerned about this. Someone has blocked you. Which suggests that since this took place they have decided that the conversation was inappropriate. At best that means that they think you are an idiot. The worst case scenario is that they are going to raise this in work. I'm glad that you've learned a lesson - and I'm going to disagree with Aquagirl, but if you have seen the number of people dismissed because their trusted friend they work with reported something, you would never use Facebook, never mind include work colleagues in your trusted categories. I spend more time defending people on Facebook issues than almost anything else now. Even your friends and family can rat you out- it only takes one person to have a reason, and you may not even know what that reason is!

I think I'd have to say now that you can't ignore this. You need to speak to this manager, explain that in hindsight you believe that you've been very stupid being led along this path, and you would like to delete the comments but can't do so unless they let you. At this stage, as long as they stand, you are going to always be in danger of them coming out. Best to be proactive in addressing this. Whatever had been said by who now is history - what comes of it may not yet be.

And if that doesn't work, it's not a guaranteed strategy, but I'd be tempted to go to HR or my manager and " report myself"! Not complaining about the other comments, but simply explain it as you have here, that it all got out of hand, you've learned a tough lesson and you'd rather he heard it from you and not from someone else. If they then choose to act on the mobbing against you, that's up to them - but at the very least, it's you that gets the thefoot in door before someone else does.

Lesson 4 - join a union, so when everyone else lets you down, at least there's one person still trying to help you. Technically you are in a union, but I'm not sure how much help they can give in a workplace.

I got put in a certain department at work a few months ago that I was struggling to work in and was getting my main manager being very pushy towards me when I was struggling, so back then I was advised by a witness to join the union and I did My manager since then I've not really had a minute's bother with in other departments of my job. At the end of the day though I can understand him being pushy because he's being pushed around by his management

TELLIT01

sangie595 wrote: »

Even your friends and family can rat you out- it only takes one person to have a reason, and you may not even know what that reason is!

It doesn't even require somebody you know directly to 'rat you out'. The borders of Facebookland are so porous that something you post can easily move outside the area you intended it for.
I never used Facebook when I was working (now retired) but do now use it to a limited extent to keep in touch will a few people I used to work with. I would never discuss anything about the work environment with them because of the risk that an innocent comment could get them into trouble. The most I've ever asked was if one of them was still in the same office because I knew they were looking to move when I was there.
I can understand why Sangie says never have work colleagues as Facebook friends. You may be careful never to discuss work, but you can still get caught up if you are tagged in somebody elses comments.

Ozzuk

You recognise that you've been silly, but you are still 'friends' with these people...why? Remove them and keep work/private life separate.