Advice - Mortgage, Inheritance and Divorce

MrsLV83

So, I need some advice, Martin would be rolling his eyes at me, as I am aware you will be too.

So I split up with my husband January 2016.
August 2016 my father died, I spent the 8 days in hospital watching him die, my husband moved back into the family home to care for our children, 7 and 11 at the time.
When my dad had died, and I came home, he didn't leave, but lead me to believe we were sorting it out.
We renewed house mortgage, discussed buying a new car this year, we even went on a holiday for a week.
The week before Christmas, I had a text messaging from a man, saying my husband was sleeping with his wife, (He'd ready been caught sleeping with someone else 3 months after I kicked him out)
So, I kicked him back out of the family home again.

New Year we tried to sort things out again, but it was all one way - Me! - I sent the woman he was sleeping with at Christmas an email who confirmed he was still sleeping with her.

So, I have called it a day, I am not trying anymore, 19 years of my life, I am now turning my back on.

Anyway, we always said we would split the equity 50/50 - he put more money into the house, I looked after the kids and worked full time around the kids so he could earn the money to put in to our family home.

Last week, I found a new home for me and our girls, viewed it twice, fell in love with it.

He saw me returning with my daughter and just said "I'll see you in court" and drove off.

I'd have 75k equity out of our family home, 55k from the same of my dads home, once it haas been split with my brother. I recieved payment from my dads pension yesterday of £135k

I could now be mortgage free and have a stress free new life with my girls.

How do you think it would work once I see solicitor next week, I can't sleep with worry and panicking over this.

He is a self employed plumber, driving a range rover, with a brand new van and a rental property and also the 75k in equity in the home.

I'm not sure if this is the right forum to post this, but I could do with some aadvice before I see the solicitor to hopefully get some sleep.
Yes I should have got a divorce when we broke up last year and we wouldnt be having this thread

BISCUIT1

I am just going through this situation myself. From what advice I got the starting point would be 50/50 split especially as you have a long marriage. Some solicitors do free initial consultation or £20 for 20 mins so I would ring round a few. Best to try to get your ex to talk as solicitors bill will only rack up and most of them seem quite happy to help achieve this! My one seemed different and advised I could save money by doing the divorce myself which has been straight forward and just going back to him to write up a consent order once me and my ex have (hopefully) agreed the terms...just trying to sort this last bit out lol!! Maybe once he realises it will cost money to argue it out for the same result your ex will come round...good luck! xx

BISCUIT1

ps I have also lost my dad since we split and am due to inherit some money but only a small amount but my ex has agreed he will not seek to claim on any of this..fingers crossed he sticks to this as I am relying on this to help buy him out of the house.