I'm useless

Jessicasalviora

Don't reply.

xapprenticex

Just keep at it, if its worth having it wont fall into your lap (though it seems to happen for some). Do you work, get experience and continue applying for what you really want.

Dont go to work to make friends, if it happens, great, if it doesnt, who cares? Just do your job and get experience.

If you are sure you'll fail, i guarantee you will. The subconscious mind plays a major role in how things turn out and if yours is switched to failure mode then you will so be more positive. Get a book on self esteem with good reviews off amazon.

paddyrg

I've been an employer in the past, and you'd be surprised how much is about being in the right place at the right time and having someone who can vouch for you. Just having a recommendation can go a long way when coming in cold.

Unless there's something you don't mention (face tattoos for instance, or poor hygiene) then it isn't personal.

If​ your friend is getting on OK at Tesco, maybe they can suggest you?

Fireflyaway

Have you got a CV and does it look decent? I know you didn't want to mention the first place you worked but maybe the extra experience would help? Obviously don't easy how bad it was.
You could try to get some more relevant experience. Do a Saturday job in a local convenience store etc.
On another note, I'm looking for a job and its harder now than 20 years ago so be patient. Did tesco give any feedback? No hurt practicing interview questions as well.

iammumtoone

Jessicasalviora wrote: »

So I've been looking for a job for a year, after finishing my school. Before I worked in complete sh*thole, where my menager treated me without respect, cussed at me, payed wrong amount of money, etc. I never put it on my CV... why you still gained experience there no need to go into detail why you left, once you have more of a job history behind you, you can remove it but as its your only job it will help putting it on I've started my new job about a month and half ago, and already I feel like same story is happening again. Clients already made me cry three times, what industry do you work in? maybe its the wrong environment for you I'm told to do tasks that they haven't told me about on the interview, this is normal I'm made to stay late at night, after my shift hours,again normal for some jobs, I assume you are getting paid, my coworkers dislike talking to me, even when I'm bubbly and smiley. give it time unfortunately some places are like this, just be friendly and polite to them and don't worry about it I HATE going to work. We aren't payed more for bank holidays as well...common in a lot of jobs, they are treated as normal days I really wanted to work at Tesco, I've tried so many times but failed, even though I'm fully flexible, meanwhile my friend tried just once, with worse experience than me, still in school and they took her. There's a job available again, I applied but I'm 100% I won't get it, even thought it's the same role as I'm working as now + my holidays are coming up in 2 weeks time. It's more like a rant, but can you explain to me, what I'm doing wrong? Or I'm just out of the luck? Sorry for bad English, I'm just done 500% I just want to score a job that I can be truly happy about. Btw my friend says the work is brilliant and it's a shame I didn't get it.

What one person thinks as brilliant another might not.

coffeehound

You could ask the recruiters at Tesco why you weren't selected. As well as finding out if there's something you can improve, it shows them you are serious about wanting to work at Tesco.

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sangie595

You've already been given some good advice, but I'm going to suggest something you may not want to hear, but which probably needs saying. Or two things in fact. The first is, what are your expectations of work? You say that you worked in a bad place after school and quit. And after only a month this new job is working out the same. In my experience a lot of school leavers have little idea about what is going to hit them when they start work. Perhaps you expected to get respect from managers - but in my rather lengthy experience, respect is earned not just given. School is cosy compared to work - you can't expect them to be the same. For example, whilst I don't believe that "cussing" someone is professional or useful, frankly, it also isn't unusual, especially if they have done something wrong. Work is nothing like school, and if you are going to quit every time an employer doesn't respect you or makes a payroll error, then you aren't likely to stay in any job for long.

The second thing is related. You left school and went to work. So we are probably talking about low skilled, low wage employment here. In other words, employment where they don't need to be worried about what you think because there are a hundred people waiting to take your place. And where it's probably an environment where "being nice" isn't particularly valued. Like I said, it may not be professional in my opinion, but there are thousands of workplaces like this around the country, and they are commonly associated with the lowest paid and unskilled labour.

So I'm suggesting that it may be you that needs to amend your expectations - or get yourself back to education and get some skills and qualifications. It isn't that there's something wrong with you, or that your are useless - it is more about the cultures of this kind of work exist in. If going back to education, an apprenticeship or whatever isn't an option, then you may have to toughen up. It's only a job, and a means to earning money to enable you to do things you enjoy.

sangie595

Ps. Unless you got sacked, leaving a job off your CV and having lots of unemployment is going to make you more likely to only be able to get this kind of job! An employment history and proof that you are a good worker is what gets you better jobs!

McKneff

Ask your friends to be brutally honest about yourself and your attitude. Ask them what you can do about anything negative that they say.
I am retired now but hey, ive come across some bolshy first time workers who think the employers are just there to pay them or they think they know better than the managers.

Reading your post is half giving me the impression that you need to be looking at yourself . Your colleagues may only be reacting to you.

getmore4less

read the above and look inward to your expectations 2 in a row could just be bad luck but maybe you.

If you do give up try you local pubs for jobs our spoons are always desperate for people and as long as you are not a total DH they employ just about anyone.

unsocial hours, ok work and very flexible, a good grounding for other work and dealing with people, one of the reasons they are always short is people move on to better things if they don't want to try for a spoon career, many keep their hand in by doing the shifts no one else wants and weekends even after they have left.

Perhaps give an example of what has made you cry(3 times is a lot in 6 weeks) it may give pointers to identify a way forward.

Jessicasalviora

I'm not some brat that came out of the school and expects mountains. I'm a normal girl, that just wants respect and a job where employers won't treat me like sh*t, so I've no idea, why some of say that I should look at myself. If people will cuss at me, I'll leave, because no matter how old I am, or how much experience I have, no one has the right to do that and life shouldn't be about going to work sad or depressed. Another thing is that I'll be going back to education, but I need money first.

What made me cry is people that are rude. I'm weak, because of my past, that's why I can't take negativity, but I'm trying as long as people don't go over the border. The only thing I wish for is a normal job, where I will feel happy.