Should my personal experience affect someone getting a job?

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Scorpio33 wrote: »

I have been thinking and the question I ask you is: Was it only you that had this issue with her or were there (many) others with the same issue?

Perhaps. I don’t know. I never wanted to get close to her as a result. That being said, we still got on well when working together and I was never dismissive of her, but I was wary and kept my distance. She was/is a sociable one and made some close friends out of that team we worked in, which made me always wonder if it was just me. Hence, why I brought this to this forum in the first place.

Scorpio33 wrote: »

However, if there were many other people who also had the same issue you had, then it would have been better to say something now to the hiring manager as there would clearly be more to it than just your view point,

There was an occasion at a Christmas party where she threw herself at another colleague, despite both of them being engaged to their respective partners. She never made any secret of the fact that hers wasn’t a completely happy relationship. Her advance was rejected and she cried in the corner in embarrassment, which caused a bit of a scene. But everyone knows what Christmas parties can be like! The next day at work, someone else said to me how awkward that was and that her behaviour didn’t surprise them. The only time I delved a little into the gossip arena was when I asked what they meant, and this person told me that she thought she was a bit too indiscreet and should “tone it down” a bit. That’s the only time I heard anyone else say something consistent with my perception.