Cherry takes the reins

Onebrokelady

Sorry you and DH have been poorly Cherry,I wouldn't be surprised if it was one of the many viruses going around at the moment,I have had some odd symptoms lately that dont really correlate to food poisoning and only lasted for a few hours 

I'm another one thinking of stocking some food up just in case I become unable to go anywhere due to the corona virus, I convinced myself I was panicking but I'm thinking it might actually be sensible to have some bits in, working in a hospital does put me at risk I suppose even though it's a very low risk 

Cherryfudge

in_need_of_direction said:

In NI, funerals generally take place three days after a death unless there’s a reason to delay.  It always amazes me how long the process takes elsewhere but I suppose time to proofread has to be a big help.

That seems really quick and well organised, INOD. My friends were amazed that we could have DFiL's so soon (10 days) as longer waits are common. DH had tomorrow's funeral service organised before the weekend and since then has been collaborating with DSiL who has been planning the memorial service and scattering of ashes, which will take place at the end of the week. It was decided to have two services as this one gives an opportunity for people who knew him here to pay their respects, and the Friday one is for older relatives and the people from his old church who can't travel all the way up here.

Cherryfudge

Onebrokelady said:

Sorry you and DH have been poorly Cherry,I wouldn't be surprised if it was one of the many viruses going around at the moment,I have had some odd symptoms lately that dont really correlate to food poisoning and only lasted for a few hours 

I'm another one thinking of stocking some food up just in case I become unable to go anywhere due to the corona virus, I convinced myself I was panicking but I'm thinking it might actually be sensible to have some bits in, working in a hospital does put me at risk I suppose even though it's a very low risk 

We are both feeling okay from whatever got us yesterday, though DH has now come down with either a localised rash or a spate of insect bites. However he isn't getting the worst of the side effects of the medication at the moment so I'm hoping that's leaving his system. Unfortunately the other new drugs that have been developed have similar side effects so either he goes back on his former medication regime (plus or minus steroids to counter the current flare up) or he may have to have surgery. We will have to see what the specialists advise.

I haven't managed to stock up on any more food today, it's been a bit hectic. I met DSiL for lunch (my treat) before work and before that I fitted in a bit of housework though tidy areas are limited to kitchen, lounge and bathroom. Work was quiet again and afterwards I chose an outfit to wear tomorrow. The family is going out for lunch after DFiL's service then will probably work on his flat later. Someone had a look round the other day which is encouraging as it's been on the market for ages.
Spending
Entertaining £17.35
Milk bill (housekeeping) £18.98
Dishwasher tablets (housekeeping) £4.20
These last two don't come out of the housekeeping cash as they are delivered and I pay them straight from the bank but I guess they still count as housekeeping.
MS & Decluttering
Nothing that I can think of.
Tonight I'm thankful for an improvement in our health, a quiet shift at work and lunch with DSiL.

Cherryfudge

DH and I are both soooo tired! But his Dad's service went well and afterwards the family got together for a good lunch. Lots of bitter shandies as they were a favourite of DFiL's. We spent the afternoon working on his flat and people chose keepsakes. DD handed me a box of laundry capsules which is a bit money-saving though some have leaked so I will have to keep the box right way up.
We did find some precious memories, and also took lots to charity and the tip: it was a big job and isn't finished yet but a substantial amount has been done by the eight of us. It was interesting to watch what people chose: DSiL has been boxing up photos, DH chose a lamp, DS1 surprised us as he is modern and minimalist but he picked an antique clock, while DS2 chose a phonograph and early vinyls. DD picked up ornaments and cleaning products while I asked for a vase, pie dish and tray. I am sure this says something deep and meaningful about us.
We were too well fed from lunch time to want much to eat and I cancelled a meal with friends as I wanted to spend the time with DH and besides, I had no room for another meal. We've been watching telly and had a quick trip to the supermarket this evening.
DSiL and I both have birthdays coming up but we don't really feel like doing anything and I suspect we both need a couple of quiet days. I'm meeting her for coffee tomorrow before she goes off to join other members of the family for a few days and we're all meeting up again for the memorial service at the end of the week. I think we just have to take it a little at a time and wait to feel up to doing celebratory stuff again.
Spending
DH and DSiL paid for lunch. I think mine was about £14.
Housekeeping £16.00
MS
10th coin saved 20p
Also I guess some savings due to bits from DFiL's flat like the laundry liquid.
Decluttering
Nothing from here, in fact I've brought in some small items.
Tonight I'm thankful for the minister who lead the service and spoke so helpfully. 

VelvetFreak

Glad the service went well Cherry x 
It's lovely that you have some nice keepsakes and you all seem to get along so well. 
When my grandmother died, a certain evil family member snuck over to her house and took all the good stuff (photos, kitchen stuff, anything worth money) while the rest of us were still at the wake  

in_need_of_direction

that’s horrendous 

Cherryfudge

VelvetFreak said:

When my grandmother died, a certain evil family member snuck over to her house and took all the good stuff (photos, kitchen stuff, anything worth money) while the rest of us were still at the wake  

That's appalling! People are worth so much more than things - why alienate yourself and make people think badly of you? 
Hopefully the good memories live on and can't be taken away.

Onebrokelady

Glad I'm glad to hear the service went ok Cherry,I think some quiet time is probably a good idea it will give you both chance to recharge 😊

Cherryfudge

It's been a low-key birthday by choice - didn't do much all day but went to DD's for tea, present opening and games. The children and their other halves came too and it was a good evening. Money-wise, I have garden, Am azon and book tokens as well as other presents so there are treats to come.
This morning DSiL set off to the area where DFiL's memorial service will be held, but first we had a coffee with DH. DH has also got bloods done to monitor some unexplained health issues but has had to increase medication for his main condition as the one he's switched to will take up to six weeks to take effect. It was good for years but he was taken off it because it didn't give 100% control of the condition.
I'm tired again - need a few nights of good sleep I think. I'm tempted to sleep on the sofa tonight so DH and I don't wake each other up! Last night he was restless because he didn't feel well, and then I woke up hungry despite having arranged things so I could sleep in.

Nearly forgot to say we have had a look at the DDs and SOs on the account that DH's money goes into, and done some rationalising preparatory to moving them over to my income. I realised I've been thinking that it needs to be done for the end of March but of course there will be a pay packet from his current employer at that point so they don't actually need to swap over till April. I've also done a bit of work to pull together DS2's share of the bill. This is the third time, and he's urging me to give it to him! I lost the first two lots of figures   and this time round I realised I hadn't allowed for his share of insurance so I still have those figures to find.

Spending
Entertainment (coffees) £10.65
Housekeeping £3.00
MS
Remembered to check the market and got two tins of fruit, three tins of soup and three tubs of margarine for £3 - probably saved about £4.
10th coin saved = 1p

No decluttering today.

I'm thankful for a lovely family to celebrate my birthday with, and nice pressies - and for DS2 having prepared a lovely anecdote about his grandfather to tell as part of the memorial service.

Honeysucklelou2

Happy belated birthday. Glad you were able to enjoy time with your family.