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How much is enough

Hi I'm new to this and just looking some info I pay my ex £80-£100 a week for 3 kids IV also been buying shoes concert tickets getting their hair done making them dinner 2 nights a week and supplying pocket money while my ex won't put her hand in her pocket (living rent and bill free right now) sometimes can amount to over £150 a week and more as time goes on

Thanx
Stephen

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  • Stevie_Palimo
    Stevie_Palimo Posts: 3,306
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    You say your ex wont pay anything here.

    How is the rent, food and everyday household bills being covered at present ?

    What do you earn here and need as living expenses yourself and what does your ex get to ? , Once you factor all this in together and look at what the figures you can have a fair gauge as to what you should pay or failing that allow the CSA route and they may take more or less from you.
  • She lives with her mum with the kids I should b paying about 100 a week and don't mind giving my kids obviously but feel I'm being treated like a fool she seems just to expect me to pay all and iv bills of my own to pay although I always paid everything anyway but feel I shouldn't now still be expected to give money for food and then buy all clothes shoes and extras and her do nothing
  • Stevie_Palimo
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    Well if explaining this face to face does not work then tell her your going down the CSA route.
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