Pending disciplinary

LaurenAnn1991

I resigned about a month ago now.

They are pushing me to go on New Year's Day, which suggests to me that this is purely to dismiss me before my notice period is up. What I said was admittedly, somewhat offensive, but neither aggressive or violent in ANY way.

My GM offered to reschedule at a later date, however since then, the HR department has decided this is not possible & that I must extend my notice period? Ridiculous, I know.

I said that I would get a doctors note due to the stress & was threatened with 'we will ring your doctors & explain why you are stressed' - completely illegal.

The girl I offended in question is completely fine & does not want it pursuing. Frankly, it's become so petty & childish.

Tiddlywinks

LaurenAnn1991 wrote: »

Essentially, I referred to someone as a lazy dog on a well known messenger site with several other colleagues.

LaurenAnn1991 wrote: »

What I said was admittedly, somewhat offensive, but neither aggressive or violent in ANY way.

'Somewhat offensive?'

You criticised her (by calling her lazy) and insulted her (by referring to her as a 'dog').

The comments were made online and shared with colleagues - that's bullying.

I expect the company will continue with their disciplinary process and will mention this in any reference they might be asked to provide... frankly, you deserve it as you still don't seem to fully accept the gravity of your actions.

Tiddlywinks

Fluffybunny80 wrote: »

So you were already leaving and said something silly
Hardly crime of the year!

Good luck in your working career if you feel this is just 'silly' behaviour.

ohreally

LaurenAnn1991 wrote: »

I resigned about a month ago now.

Can you clarify "resigned". Have you tendered your notice or have you already worked the notice period, there seems to be uncertainty on your status?

Guest101

LaurenAnn1991 wrote: »

I resigned about a month ago now.

They are pushing me to go on New Year's Day, which suggests to me that this is purely to dismiss me before my notice period is up. What I said was admittedly, somewhat offensive, but neither aggressive or violent in ANY way.

My GM offered to reschedule at a later date, however since then, the HR department has decided this is not possible & that I must extend my notice period? Ridiculous, I know.

I said that I would get a doctors note due to the stress & was threatened with 'we will ring your doctors & explain why you are stressed' - completely illegal.

The girl I offended in question is completely fine & does not want it pursuing. Frankly, it's become so petty & childish.

It's a zero hours contract, you don't need a doctors note ( or to waste the doctors time with this nonsense)

- it's not illegal to ring your GP, get a grip.

Undervalued

Guest101 wrote: »

It's a zero hours contract, you don't need a doctors note ( or to waste the doctors time with this nonsense)

- it's not illegal to ring your GP, get a grip.

Whilst it is not illegal for them to ring the GP, it would be serious breach of the doctor's duty to his patient if he discussed the matter with the employer without the OP's specific permission.

Given that the OP is leaving anyway the only relevance any of this has it to what, if anything, the employer may say if asked for a reference.

The OP cannot stop them holding a disciplinary hearing but obviously they cannot make her attend.

As I said earlier, there is little practical difference between a reference that says "dismissed for GM" or "resigned whilst under investigation for suspected GM" or, come to that, a refusal to provide a reference at all.

Guest101

Undervalued wrote: »

Whilst it is not illegal for them to ring the GP, it would be serious breach of the doctor's duty to his patient if he discussed the matter with the employer without the OP's specific permission.

Given that the OP is leaving anyway the only relevance any of this has it to what, if anything, the employer may say if asked for a reference.

The OP cannot stop them holding a disciplinary hearing but obviously they cannot make her attend.

As I said earlier, there is little practical difference between a reference that says "dismissed for GM" or "resigned whilst under investigation for suspected GM" or, come to that, a refusal to provide a reference at all.

Indeed, and the GP would likely ignore what they had to say. But there's no point saying it's illegal, it just shows ignorance

Bogalot

LaurenAnn1991 wrote: »

Frankly, it's become so petty & childish.

Time to be looking in a mirror?

I did suggest ways for you to try to mitigate your situation, but given your attitude I doubt that is going to happen. Well done, the reference covering the last four years of employment is going to have gross misconduct on it.

RuthnJasper

Bogalot wrote: »

Time to be looking in a mirror?

I did suggest ways for you to try to mitigate your situation, but given your attitude I doubt that is going to happen. Well done, the reference covering the last four years of employment is going to have gross misconduct on it.

Absolutely.
Calling someone a "lazy dog" is disgusting. No matter what the poor girl says, she must have been humiliated.