Clearing through the cupboards for a house move.

dekaspace

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Most TVs can be moved by one person but surely in your case there'll be the two of you?

Do you really need 3 big wardrobes in a 1 bed flat?

Its 2 bedroom, and the tv weights 75kg its a old one which I love.

Theres a possibility I can get rid of one of them if I can get rid of more than I think is junk in the current flat.

And I can't grip or lift things easily, I get so confused I assume thats disability related as I was never able to climb trees as a kid, and boxes and such slip out of my hands.

dekaspace

Slight spanner in the works, friend contacted yesterday to say he had job interview today, then he got a trial period next week at job, so if he passes the trial period he want sto take over tenancy in my flat.

Either way I will move my stuff but will cause some issues, at same time it means he can help me move some things in his car but im fearing at end of next week he won't get the job permanent meaning its more awkward to me.

That and my friend is the sort who is very untidy, been here 1 night and loads of beer cans and pizza box on the floor in living room!

pollyanna_26

Dekaspace Some advice . I can understand why you allowed friend to stay for interview however he needs to return to his own home today .
After waiting so long you now have secure and fit for purpose housing waiting for you . Do not risk this by any more complications as you will not get a second chance . You have stated a number of times you do have savings on various threads . Do the sensible thing and arrange proper removal in one day of all your things . Do not allow your friend to move items for you . That places you in a position of " owing him a favour " .
If he wants to live in your flat that is for him to discuss with the landlord after the keys have been returned and you are in your new home .
You have a fresh start ahead of you , be very careful you are not taken advantage of now .
Get sorted and get out asap .
Good luck
polly

dekaspace

Oh he went back today but hes coming back Sunday, and hes not the sort to expect favours in fact him staying over means he owes me favours.

But I was just thinking once I have everything out apart bar a bed and the freezer (and a few odds and ends) At that point if friend doesn't need to stay I will get him to pay the £20 for moving other things.

The reason I wanted him to help me move was so when the furniture needs to be moved there isn't boxes in the way so furniture can be moved quick and hassle free, its also why I wanted a shopping trolley, and looking at what I have left in cupboards I can get it across in 2 or 3 journeys with a large trolley leaving just the furniture, and computers and tvs.

missbiggles1

dekaspace wrote: »

Its 2 bedroom, and the tv weights 75kg its a old one which I love.

Theres a possibility I can get rid of one of them if I can get rid of more than I think is junk in the current flat.

And I can't grip or lift things easily, I get so confused I assume thats disability related as I was never able to climb trees as a kid, and boxes and such slip out of my hands.

But do you really have the amount of clothes to fill 3 wardrobes?

dekaspace

missbiggles1 wrote: »

But do you really have the amount of clothes to fill 3 wardrobes?

I never said it was clothes in the wardrobes, its boxes of stuff in there currently hence me realising when going through them theres a lot of junk.

pollyanna_26

Dekaspace I was responding to your post re a spanner in the works .
I have followed some of your threads and understand your anxiety and overthinking issues cause you problems .
You posted on your thread when you received the council offer of a flat about on 11th November . On that thread you mentioned a man with a van your social worker recommended at £20 per 30 minutes .
Instead of making things more complicated than needed if you booked that service for all your belongings it would not be too costly .
You are wandering into other possible problems when you need to concentrate on moving to your new home .
You don't have to be told that secure council tenancies are rare and precious nowadays . Councils do not like properties lying empty due to issues such as vandalism , squatters and even being unheated at this time of year .
I strongly advise you to stop looking at other peoples issues .
Apply yourself to deciding what really needs to go with you - paying for each item to be moved should concentrate your mind on the worth of stuff .
Sort and pack one room at a time . Dispose of rubbish as you go in the proper manner . Once you have seen everything to your new home go back and clean up . You can then settle down and enjoy your new start .
I am not trying to be critical at all but your friend needs to sort his own future while you get a hopeful new start in a clean and functional home and the chance to develop a daily routine which should be more likely to help you cope without so many panics .
The mention of a lot of beer cans littering the floor last night does not bode well for your friend either employment or housing wise .
I wish you luck now seize the day !
polly

dekaspace

pollyanna_26 wrote: »

Dekaspace I was responding to your post re a spanner in the works .
I have followed some of your threads and understand your anxiety and overthinking issues cause you problems .
You posted on your thread when you received the council offer of a flat about on 11th November . On that thread you mentioned a man with a van your social worker recommended at £20 per 30 minutes .
Instead of making things more complicated than needed if you booked that service for all your belongings it would not be too costly .
You are wandering into other possible problems when you need to concentrate on moving to your new home .
You don't have to be told that secure council tenancies are rare and precious nowadays . Councils do not like properties lying empty due to issues such as vandalism , squatters and even being unheated at this time of year .
I strongly advise you to stop looking at other peoples issues .
Apply yourself to deciding what really needs to go with you - paying for each item to be moved should concentrate your mind on the worth of stuff .
Sort and pack one room at a time . Dispose of rubbish as you go in the proper manner . Once you have seen everything to your new home go back and clean up . You can then settle down and enjoy your new start .
I am not trying to be critical at all but your friend needs to sort his own future while you get a hopeful new start in a clean and functional home and the chance to develop a daily routine which should be more likely to help you cope without so many panics .
The mention of a lot of beer cans littering the floor last night does not bode well for your friend either employment or housing wise .
I wish you luck now seize the day !
polly

About my friend drinking he does it rarely, as he lived with parents in a town with a population of 1100 up North so he treats a few days at mine as a rest and relaxtion sort of thing, about his cleanliness its more he just lets things pile up as it doesn't bother him, it annoys me as each time he comes down I have to spend about 30 minutes hoovering up and putting stuff in binbag and making bed again when he arrives (I make it to look tidy and put it on next washing maching load)

Its more he thinks its not a problem and he can do it another time.

It is the £20 per 30 minutes thing I have booked for next week but want to move as many small things as I can before then so its a simple case of moving furniture which is quick and easy, also means when stuff gets to new place I wont have to worry about where it goes as boxes are everywhere.

So its not me overthinking things in this occasion as much as wanting to move what small things I can so moving day is hassle free as possible.

Though when everything is out bar the freezer and bed (for friend) I will also leave hoover and carpet cleaner here and clean up then

missbiggles1

dekaspace wrote: »

I never said it was clothes in the wardrobes, its boxes of stuff in there currently hence me realising when going through them theres a lot of junk.

If you're not using them for clothes, why take them at all? Wardrobes are heavy and awkward to move and it just seems a bit pointless to have them taking up space just to be filled with boxes.

dekaspace

missbiggles1 wrote: »

If you're not using them for clothes, why take them at all? Wardrobes are heavy and awkward to move and it just seems a bit pointless to have them taking up space just to be filled with boxes.

I'd rather have wardrobes there to be neat and tidy then boxes all over the floor piling up, that also means I can just go into wardrobe when I want somethimg and take the box I need without them all crashing down.