Not Entirely Serious, Hiding debt from others

Legacy_user

Hey all,

With all the hard work re-organising debts I'm giving myself tomorrow night off to see a film with a man, no less!
Thing is, the thing that bothers me most about my situation is my stupid pride, and also the worry it would cause my family, and I don't want people to feel compelled to pay for things, especially this new guy as he is so lovely and I don't want him to think I'm that sort of woman!
I'm prepared to put myself through no end of hardship, but I really don't want others to see it, and after all, I got myself into this situation, I should get myself out..

Have any of you come up with any fun/ creative ways to explain away frugalness etc?

Oh how I miss my shoe shopping!

angchris

ooo hot date, good on you!! i hope you have a great evening. why not jokingly get into the discussion of money (when the times right lol) and say pffttt i can`t be bothered with all this commercialism and people trying to rip me off i am going to challenge myself for one year to live off as little as possible and try and make/mend/blag anything i need. this should keep your pride intact and then he hopefully won`t feel pressurised into taking you out to expensive places a relationship is about spending quality time together and you can do that just as easily cooking him romantic meals at home, berry picking in the hedgerows and romantic walks hand in hand or getting up early and watching the sunrise

PasturesNew

I had a mean "date" about 2-3 years ago.

I don't date as I couldn't afford it. Then this guy asked me to go to the cinema with him. Now, a lot of people would say that if he asked, he should pay. And he DID know I didn't go out (ever!) as I was skint (big house/big bills, no income).

So, he said he'd meet me half way and we'd go in his car from there.
So I drove 15 miles. And he jumped in my car. No worries. We drove to the cinema another 15 miles away.

Now, he knew I was skint. His situation was: earning about £35k in the leisure industry and he'd been earning regularly for a number of years; small house (2-up, 2-down) that he'd had a few years, so small mortgage (estimate for the area/size is about £60-75k); he had a lodger; he worked just 2 miles from where he worked so no commuting costs. Loaded!

Got to the cinema, he asked for a ticket. Fair enough I thought - and I asked for one, thought he might OFFER to pay, but no.

After that we went for a drink. Then he said "it's your round now". Cheeky fookah I thought - he KNOWS I am skint! He wasn't EVEN good company.

Ended up taking him back to his car after that. He got out, I drove off sharpish. Never saw him again thank goodness.

Snaggles

Yikes PasturesNew, I would class that date as money well spent if it means you found out what he was like so early on and didn't get involved!

Personally I would just go for the 'honesty is the best policy' approach and say 'I can't, I'm skint' if he invites you anywhere expensive - if he's worth his salt (whatever that means :rolleyes:) he will be perfectly okay with that explanation.

seven-day-weekend

I'd just tell the guy you're on a tight budget and can't do expensive.

Have a great time!