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Children's Party - Rant!
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I don't think you can say this is just parents, I live no where near a school with double yellow lines in front of my driveway and all and sundry park there and can't understand when I ask them to move.
Life is busy, people don't think, is it rude, well yes it is but people just don't think.
In my area it only ever seems to be parents who park with no thought.
The council put yellow lines along part of my road as they said it was dangerous for children to have to cross between parked cars. So all the residents make sure their cars are not parked there between 8am - 9am and 3pm - 4pm and what happens? All the parents park along there as though they think those yellow lines are there for them to park close to the schools.No, I don't think people should accept and not turn up, but I am afraid that is commonplace unfortunately.
But it should not be commonplace. Are we supposed to just accept that rudeness and no manners are normal now?
Surely now with mobile phones, social media etc it is much easier to let someone know you can't make it to their party/event? So even less reason to accept rudenesspeachyprice wrote: »Sorry, but I think it's sad that a little girl is never going to have another birthday party because her mum chose an iffy time and people didn't turn up at the first attempt.
If parents thought the time was "iffy" why say their child was going to attend? Stop defending rude, ill mannered parents who are teaching their children to also be rude and ill manneredThe world is over 4 billion years old and yet you somehow managed to exist at the same time as David Bowie0 -
The amount of people that just think this behavior is acceptable or understandable astounds me.:eek:
If you accept an invite, it's generally accepted universally that you have said yes your coming, how is it not rude/self entitled just plain bad manners to let the person know by phone/text/carrier pigeon/smoke signals, that actually something came up and you cant.
In an emergency at the very least an apology as soon as possible after the event is the thing to do.
If this is how people these days think social situations work then no wonder self centerdness/entitlement is rife.
Get a grip people, and while your at it get some manners.
It's not OK to be rude and its never going to be OK!
Sorry for the rant, but my jaw is hitting the floor at the level of people here that think its ok and find excuses for it, its just plain wrong end of!:(,Fully paid up member of the ignore button club.If it walks like a Duck, quacks like a Duck, it's a Duck.0 -
They have busy lives, something else may have come up, and they are probably not very close to the parent in question, so it wasn't a top priority to let them know... (and I'm sorry, but I can't believe that the OP is close to all 13 of these parents; she probably barely knew some of them...)
At least one parent is close enough to ask the OP to mind their child. Bloody cheek.supersaver2 wrote: »Funnily enough one of the parents that didn't turn up has text me this morning asking if I can have her daughter tomorrow morning as they know I'm a school worker so currently off work - no mention of the party, no apology. Needless to say I won't be helping her out anytime soon.0 -
AylesburyDuck wrote: »The amount of people that just think this behavior is acceptable or understandable astounds me.:eek:
If you accept an invite, it's generally accepted universally that you have said yes your coming, how is it not rude/self entitled just plain bad manners to let the person know by phone/text/carrier pigeon/smoke signals, that actually something came up and you cant.
In an emergency at the very least an apology as soon as possible after the event is the thing to do.
If this is how people these days think social situations work then no wonder self centerdness/entitlement is rife.
Get a grip people, and while your at it get some manners.
It's not OK to be rude and its never going to be OK!
Sorry for the rant, but my jaw is hitting the floor at the level of people here that think its ok and find excuses for it, its just plain wrong end of!:(
Look, you have your views, and other have theirs. And despite your gasping and outrage, people are entitled to their opinion!
Yes it ISN'T great to just not turn up, but the fact is that IT HAPPENS. Some people forget, and some people have emergencies come up, and the last thing on their mind is to phone some woman they are not that close to, to let them know little Courtney can't make the party! And yes some just don't bother! As I said IT HAPPENS...
People don't do it to be malicious, it's not personal, and it happens to everyone, and to throw your toys out of the pram and say you are never having another party for your child again, is to say the least, unreasonable.
Good grief! How DO people cope with life's GENUINE traumas?! :eek:Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!
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This situation reminds me of a friend from university. He was so flaky, cancelling things at the last minute, not showing up, or cancelling 2 hours after you were supposed to have met. I used to think it was just me he did this to but it turns out it was pretty much everyone.
He got married in the middle of winter and it had snowed heavily the day before. (The priest couldn't understand why anyone would want to get married when it was so cold and in between Christmas and Hogmanay but I'm sure he figured out when he conducted the christening 6 months later.) The bride's side had plenty of guests but only two of his friends (including me) showed up. There were lots of no-shows and late cancellations, even his own brother called to cancel an hour before the event. Whether people would have done this anyway because of his lack of social etiquette or whether is was exacerbated by the snow and people thinking, "he's cancelled for less," I do not know.
We were all adults though. It's worse for children. Imagine you have !!!!less parents who can't organise themselves so you don't get to attend your friends' parties. Who do they think will make an effort to attend a party for their children?0 -
dirty_magic wrote: »There was a story in the daily mail (go on - judge me :rotfl:) about this yesterday, a little boy in America had no one at all turn up to his birthday party. From the comments section it seems like this kind of thing is very common!
It happened to one wee boy in Australia (might have been the same story) but it appears as if he got an even better party in the end. I do love a happy ending.
http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/strangers-turn-up-four-year-old-birthday-party-melbourne_uk_572aff75e4b0ade291a150c50 -
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Look, you have your views, and other have theirs. And despite your gasping and outrage, people are entitled to their opinion!
Yes it ISN'T great to just not turn up, but the fact is that IT HAPPENS. Some people forget, and some people have emergencies come up, and the last thing on their mind is to phone some woman they are not that close to, to let them know little Courtney can't make the party! And yes some just don't bother! As I said IT HAPPENS...
People don't do it to be malicious, it's not personal, and it happens to everyone, and to throw your toys out of the the pram and say you are never having another party for your child again, is to say the least, unreasonable.
Good grief! How DO people cope with life's GENUINE traumas?! :eek:
Its Manners101 - if you accept an invitation and then can't make it you at least get in touch. If a genuine emergency, then you apologise after. Doesn't matter if you know them well or not - what has that got to do with anything?
Yes, I agree it happens but its still wrong and doesn't warrant shifting the blame to the OP for not being 'chilled' about it. Her 4y old daughter was upset - hard to stomach for most parents.
You live and learn with children's parties and timing might have been one factor for the poor showing but it STILL doesn't excuse the manners. Mainly a reason to decline in the first place.
OP, my 2 are teens now but we went through every party/birthday combo/style going over the years - keep an open mind. You WILL get to know who's who at school, it doesn't take long for the flaky, rude, forgetful, unreliable, cheeky etc to be identified.0 -
If parents thought the time was "iffy" why say their child was going to attend? Stop defending rude, ill mannered parents who are teaching their children to also be rude and ill mannered
I said in my very first post that it was rude. Please read before accusing me of defending !!!!less people. (Why is f eckless a banned word?)Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0 -
peachyprice wrote: »(Why is f eckless a banned word?)
I've had a few of those auto corrections and they make me laugh!
I had p r ick (of young plants) deleted as well as stop(male chicken) and (male chicken)erel.
Now I just use a substitute word such as ox in place of the perfectly legitimate anglo-saxon term bul lock which is very likely to be pounced upon.0
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