Children's Party - Rant!

AylesburyDuck

paddy's_mum wrote: »

I've had a few of those auto corrections and they make me laugh!

I had p r ick (of young plants) deleted as well as stop(male chicken) and (male chicken)erel.

Now I just use a substitute word such as ox in place of the perfectly legitimate anglo-saxon term bul lock which is very likely to be pounced upon.

You cant say P ussy either, i had to say cat foot around people the other day.:rotfl:

sheramber

One little boy didn't turn up at my grandson's 4th birthday party. Nothing was said when they arrived at nursery the next so my son didn't ask.

Little boy and his mum arrived at the birthday venue the following week to find no party. Mum had got the date wrong.

One little boy was devastated and crying at arriving, all excited, to find there was no party. He had missed it.

Lily-Rose_3

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

And that i think proves my point.
Ladies and Gents i give you todays face of self entitlement.
Meh :rotfl:

Didn't think it would belong before the personal attacks started. I am NOT self-entitled, and you know nothing about me, so quit making rude assumptions about me.

I am NOT excusing the behaviour, so quit putting words in my mouth!!! I am just saying there may have been other reasons that the parents in question couldn't come, and maybe it was something personal and delicate, and they didn't feel the need to share it, with one of the mums at the school!

And despite one of the parents asking the OP to look after her child, that doesn't mean they are close. I got this quite often when my daughter was younger, from parents I wasn't close to, it was our kids that were fairly friendly.

I don't think the OP CAN have been so close to all the parents in question, otherwise a lot more children would have come, (or they would certainly have let the OP know they weren't coming.) I don't think the OP is as close to these parents as she is making out. Or maybe she thinks of them as friends, and they think of her as an acquaintance.

I only ever invited children who my daughter had known for a few years, and if I knew their parents well, and most of the time, there was a good attendance at her parties. 3 out of 13 suggests to me that the relationships between the OP and the parents in question are not close.

As annoying as it is, (and it IS annoying,) the OP cannot let it rule the rest of their life. And to say I shall never have a party for my daughter again EVER is just ludicrous IMO.

I know she is wounded and sore now, and to be quite honest I understand why, but to make that announcement is just a bit much! What if her child WANTS a party in the future? Saying 'you can't have one because hardly anyone turned up to a party when you were 4' is going to make the OP sound bitter and sulky. And it's not a good example to set to the child - letting grudges stick around forever, and getting people back.....not a nice trait.

The OP's reaction is understandable, but I simply cannot fathom never having a party for her child again because of this one thing.

As many people have said, the timing was bad, (late in the evening and in the school hols,) and the OP was probably not that close to many of the parents... And that's why many didn't turn up probably. And although some posters are calling everyone rude, I am just saying that it's not ALWAYS because people are rude that they don't turn up! And although I originally felt a bit for the OP, the subsequent posts from her are making me question my original thoughts.

I'm done on this thread. I have no intention of getting into a war of words with people who attack and flame anyone for DARING to have a different opinion to them!!!

AylesburyDuck

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Didn't think it would belong before the personal attacks started. I am NOT self-entitled, and you know nothing about me, so quit making rude assumptions about me.

I am NOT excusing the behaviour, so quit putting words in my mouth!!! I am just saying there may have been other reasons that the parents in question couldn't come, and maybe it was something personal and delicate, and they didn't feel the need to share it, with one of the mums at the school!

And despite one of the parents asking the OP to look after her child, that doesn't mean they are close. I got this quite often when my daughter was younger, from parents I wasn't close to, it was our kids that were fairly friendly.

I don't think the OP CAN have been so close to all the parents in question, otherwise a lot more children would have come, (or they would certainly have let the OP know they weren't coming.) I don't think the OP is as close to these parents as she is making out. Or maybe she thinks of them as friends, and they think of her as an acquaintance.

I only ever invited children who my daughter had known for a few years, and if I knew their parents well, and most of the time, there was a good attendance at her parties. 3 out of 13 suggests to me that the relationships between the OP and the parents in question are not close.

As annoying as it is, (and it IS annoying,) the OP cannot let it rule the rest of their life. And to say I shall never have a party for my daughter again EVER is just ludicrous IMO.

I know she is wounded and sore now, and to be quite honest I understand why, but to make that announcement is just a bit much! What if her child WANTS a party in the future? Saying 'you can't have one because hardly anyone turned up to a party when you were 4' is going to make the OP sound bitter and sulky. And it's not a good example to set to the child - letting grudges stick around forever, and getting people back.....not a nice trait.

The OP's reaction is understandable, but I simply cannot fathom never having a party for her child again because of this one thing.

As many people have said, the timing was bad, (late in the evening and in the school hols,) and the OP was probably not that close to many of the parents... And that's why many didn't turn up probably. And although some posters are calling everyone rude, I am just saying that it's not ALWAYS because people are rude that they don't turn up! And although I originally felt a bit for the OP, the subsequent posts from her are making me question my original thoughts.

I'm done on this thread. I have no intention of getting into a war of words with people who attack and flame anyone for DARING to have a different opinion to them!!!

So not excusing behavior but then going on to do just that,because well it just happens, while implying the OP is disingenuous so its all her own fault really, sorry what was that you were saying about personal attacks.
And yet we still have an upset child because it appears the adults couldn't actually adult?
I'm done too, so no need to flounce off, your own words are here for all to read.

catkins

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Look, you have your views, and other have theirs. And despite your gasping and outrage, people are entitled to their opinion!

Yes it ISN'T great to just not turn up, but the fact is that IT HAPPENS. Some people forget, and some people have emergencies come up, and the last thing on their mind is to phone some woman they are not that close to, to let them know little Courtney can't make the party! And yes some just don't bother! As I said IT HAPPENS...

People don't do it to be malicious, it's not personal, and it happens to everyone, and to throw your toys out of the pram and say you are never having another party for your child again, is to say the least, unreasonable.

Good grief! How DO people cope with life's GENUINE traumas?! :eek:

Of course people are entitled to their views and opinions but surely to think rudeness is acceptable can never be right?

Some people may forget or have some sort of emergency, but all the ones that didn't turn up? Highly unlikely surely?

Yes it happens but, on the whole, there is no need for it to. People can easily make a phone call, send a text, post a message on facebook surely? As I said before, it is far easier now to let people know when just about everyone has a mobile phone. Enough parents seem to spend half their lives on their phone and yet can't let another parent know their child can't or won't be making a party!

Back in the olden days before mobiles, social media etc, it seems people were much better at letting others know if they were going to an event or not. I guess people just had better manners.

Over 30 years ago I invited something like 150 people to my wedding reception and heard from everyone of them as to whether they were coming or not. Everyone that said they were coming did come!

supersaver2

Wow, things are getting heated!

Very interesting that people assume I'm 'mum' when in fact I'm 'Dad'! My wife normally would organise parties etc but she's just finishing treatment for breast cancer so it's fallen onto unorganised, 'bad planner' Dad to sort!

I can't answer all posts individually but I still think it's the height of bad manners from many people I've seen for over 3 years near enough daily.

My daughter was upset so not sure why I'd risk a repeat. At least taking her and her 2 closest friends out for pizza and cinema is guaranteed to cause no upset, even though that is appearing to make me a bad parent in the eyes of some.

Also I'm accused of being bitter and sulky with some not pleasant traits! All I wanted was to organise a party for my daughter and friends, nobody had to bring a present, they just had to come as they said they would! Some ver harsh posters on here.

pinkshoes

Crikey! I hope your child wasn't too upset??

This isn't always the case though. I invited 14 kids to my son's 5th party last year, or which 13 replied to say they would come. I had 100% turn out.

I only knew a handful of the parents.

I think it likely that the later time was the reason for so many no shows, but it is incredibly bad manners not to let you know.

We have only once not made it to a party when my son was feeling really poorly, so texted to apologise, then dropped off the gift and card the next day.

I would be tempted to mention it to the no shows, and say it would have been nice if they could have let you know...

AylesburyDuck

supersaver2 wrote: »

Wow, things are getting heated!

Very interesting that people assume I'm 'mum' when in fact I'm 'Dad'! My wife normally would organise parties etc but she's just finishing treatment for breast cancer so it's fallen onto unorganised, 'bad planner' Dad to sort!

I can't answer all posts individually but I still think it's the height of bad manners from many people I've seen for over 3 years near enough daily.

My daughter was upset so not sure why I'd risk a repeat. At least taking her and her 2 closest friends out for pizza and cinema is guaranteed to cause no upset, even though that is appearing to make me a bad parent in the eyes of some.

Also I'm accused of being bitter and sulky with some not pleasant traits! All I wanted was to organise a party for my daughter and friends, nobody had to bring a present, they just had to come as they said they would! Some ver harsh posters on here.

Opps, my bad. Sorry OP
In my defense of thinking you Mum i did actually say earlier i found Dads much easier to bear.:rotfl:
Edit.
OMG just reread properly and saw you wife is finishing treatment for Breast Cancer, please wish her a full and speedy recovery on my behalf.

janninew

Amazing how a thread over a child's party can turn like this!

I feel the OP has been treated a little harshly by some, lots of assumptions being made.

Simple to me, yes things can crop up to stop you coming but let people know or at the very least send a quick apologetic text after the party. No excuse for such poor manners, sure they wouldn't like it happening to their child

Chin up OP, enjoy the rest of your half term and put it in the past. :A

paddy's_mum

If Janet Morsy can phone to say she can't make it .....;)

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