Start date dilemma with new job.

[Deleted User]

Hi i'm in need of some advice regarding a new job and its start date.

I work in a industry (oil) which is in turmoil at the moment so jobs are hard to find. I've been offered a new job (much better job, long term security and package than my existing deal) and they want me to start work for them on the 6th October, the problem is my current job i finish on the 28th September after being away for 3 weeks so it gives me just over a week off before going away again for 4 weeks on the new job.

I've just separated from my wife and this would only give me one weekend to see my daughter then going away again for 4 weeks.

I've already handed my notice in at my current place and i've never burnt bridges, could i approach my current employer and ask to go home a week earlier?

Or do i just suck it up and complete the full trip, have just one weekend off then go away on the new job?

TELLIT01

You have nothing to lose by asking if you can finish a week earlier. The worst they can do is refuse the request. If you don't ask you definitely won't get to finish earlier.

[Deleted User]

I would be due to go home on a Wednesday, they have flights every Monday, Wednesday and Fridays.
Even if they let me go on a Friday flight it would give me an extra 4-5 days instead of just a week.
And tbh we are very overmanned here at the moment.

Just never been one for demands or burning bridges before.

bugslet

I'd explain the situation , ask politely and sweeten the deal if you think that would swing it your way, by offering to work some extra hours or whatever you feel might be appropriate.

They might be more than happy if to oblige if they are over staffed.

agrinnall

Presumably when you are back from the 4 weeks you will have a significant period where you will be available to see your daughter (are you 4 weeks on/4 weeks off?) so even if you only get the one weekend at this time you'll have plenty of time later on. If your current employer says no your only other option would be to ask your new employer to delay your start date, but I'm not sure it would be a wise move to jeopardize the job if they are hard to come by.

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agrinnall wrote: »

Presumably when you are back from the 4 weeks you will have a significant period where you will be available to see your daughter (are you 4 weeks on/4 weeks off?) so even if you only get the one weekend at this time you'll have plenty of time later on. If your current employer says no your only other option would be to ask your new employer to delay your start date, but I'm not sure it would be a wise move to jeopardize the job if they are hard to come by.

Yes thats it exactly, i don't want to jeopardise the new job as its a very good offer in a industry on its knees.
I'll ask my current employer if i can go home a few days early, if they say no then i guess i'm only having a week off then. I can't do anything to mess up the new job...

surreysaver

Even if your current employer says you can't leave early, surely the better pay and security may make not seeing your daughter for as long worth it? I know you don't wan't to miss time with her, but wouldn't the benefits outweigh the cons?

[Deleted User]

surreysaver wrote: »

Even if your current employer says you can't leave early, surely the better pay and security may make not seeing your daughter for as long worth it? I know you don't wan't to miss time with her, but wouldn't the benefits outweigh the cons?

Yes it does your right, just would of liked a bit more time with her between getting home and starting new that was all...