Need some reassurance re Child Maint Services

wendb69

My payments for my daughter ends with the CSA in September. I have already contacted C M Services and gown through the options with them. I have stipulated that I have no contact and neither does my daughter with her father - his choice. I explained that there was no way we could communicate.

Tonight a letter has come through the door from him saying that he has spoken to the CSA who advise that he now needs to manage the payments himself. In the letter he demands the bank details of my daughter to pay her direct - which is not happening.

Do I need to respond to it. Can I just leave it to the CMS to manage? What are the options ?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow

How old is your daughter?

wendb69

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow wrote: »

How old is your daughter?

She is 16. Only having to go to them because CSA are closing.

DUTR

wendb69 wrote: »

My payments for my daughter ends with the CSA in September. I have already contacted C M Services and gown through the options with them. I have stipulated that I have no contact and neither does my daughter with her father - his choice. I explained that there was no way we could communicate.

Tonight a letter has come through the door from him saying that he has spoken to the CSA who advise that he now needs to manage the payments himself. In the letter he demands the bank details of my daughter to pay her direct - which is not happening.

Do I need to respond to it. Can I just leave it to the CMS to manage? What are the options ?

You can be 'nice' about it and let him know that you are willing to go along the family arrangement route and supply your nominated bank acount details for him to contribute into, and that if this is not acceptable then you will have no option but to follow the CMS collect and pay proceedure which attracts additional fees for all of you.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow

"You can be 'nice' about it and let him know that you are willing to go along the family arrangement route and supply your nominated bank acount details for him to contribute into, and that if this is not acceptable then you will have no option but to follow the CMS collect and pay proceedure which attracts additional fees for all of you."


This. In a nutshell.

swingaloo

jondav wrote: »

wendb69 wrote: »

Tonight a letter has come through the door from him saying that he has spoken to the CSA who advise that he now needs to manage the payments himself. In the letter he demands the bank details of my daughter to pay her direct - which is not happening. QUOTE]


Why not? The money is for your daughter, not for you. At least this way everyone knows that the money is going where it should be.

Totally incorrect. The money is to help the parent with care to keep a roof over the childs head. Children dont suddenly stop needing feeding and clothing as soon as they are 16. Until they can support themselves then BOTH parents are still responsible.

WYSPECIAL

Assuming your daughter is still in FT education and CM is still payable then it is payable to you not your daughter.

Paying directly to your bank account is the usual way so if an amount has been agreed you could just give him the details of the account you want it paying in to.

If you want CMS to do an assessment to determine the amount you will need to apply to them and pay the £20 fee. Your ex will then pay this new amount directly to you.

[Deleted User]

The CMS will say you have to give him the chance to do direct pay, so you will have to provide him with bank details. I set up a separate basic deposit account as I didn't want him having my main bank details.


But you don't have to respond to his letter.

swingaloo

jondav wrote: »

swingaloo wrote: »

When did I say that BOTH are NOT responsible??? Please quote where I said that??

I think you must have miss-read the reply. At no point did I write that you said 'BOTH are NOT responsible'. (Perhaps you could quote where I said that!)


I said it was incorrect that the money should go to the child and not the parent with care as you seemed to advocate. It is not spending money for the child, it is to feed and clothe them and so until it is no longer payable it should go to the parent.