THE Prepping thread - a new beginning :)

moneyistooshorttomention

One consolation for you - not very likely to become a "village elder" - because I have my doubts whether many people think along the lines of there being such a thing these days any longer.

I've barely come across a "village elder" concept until moving here. I see some residual traces of it here - but iconoclastic incomers and local younger people together are probably replacing that idea with the more modern "We're all equal and each age group has something to contribute" idea.

Personally I'm heaving sigh of relief/grinning broadly when I see younger people in any context taking ideas my generation had to fight for for granted - and expanding on them for greater moves towards modernity/equality I could barely dream of.

[Deleted User]

There's definitely a hierarchy here in this village and the residents association is filled with village elders if that's an appropriate title to give them. They work pretty hard to make the village better for all of us who live here and are currently trying to get us a crossing in the village centre as the traffic has increased tenfold over the past few years.

I can only speak from personal experience but I've always been equal in every aspect of life and I've never had to fight for that it's been a given, I'll hold a door open for anyone who needs it be they old, young, male or female and give my seat up on the bus too. I've been lucky in that my dad never forced his views on me, my husband has never forced his views on me and we are a partnership, we work together, we work for the village and in the village (no we're NOT village elders) when it's needed. You get back from this life what you put into it. Being friendly, polite, helpful, cheerful costs nothing but gives so very much in return. We've fledged two very independent and equal daughters who are both in their chosen field and woe betide anyone of either gender who doesn't give them the respect and equality they deserve, both heavily involved in their communities too. I say again you earn your place, it's never given for free.

fuddle

It depends on what you think as an elder money. I don't put anyone on a pedestal but those I respect I think highly of. They're an 'elder' to me. My grandma - an unassuming housewife of a retired miner - was one heck of an elder.

It's just a respect thing. It's like I respect Lyn, Monna, Mar and so many people on here who have helped me. They're my elders and I respect them a heck of a lot. The ladies never once, in all these years, have made me feel foolish or unequal. They have encouraged me to be me and to try and the best part? I feel like I have something useful to add. I sometimes have a very different aspect but I'm listened to without being slapped down.

Now that money, is an elder in my eyes.

[Deleted User]

Just as well petal, at our age we'd only fall of the darned pedestal and break something wouldn't we? feet on ground, preferred place of dwelling!

moneyistooshorttomention

So are you saying you don't mean "elder" in the sense of someone physically older?

I know my own Respect List includes some people who are young enough to be my children:rotfl: - if they are people that are pushing onwards and expanding on things my generation had to fight for - ie things that are for the benefit of Society as a whole (ie across the whole country).

I know I've seen some "respect" recently going on for people just for being older and they've expected it - just for being older - and that is quite a different kettle of fish - and had a very different response from me. I will question just why people expect/sometimes get given "respect" for the fact they did something-or-other 20 years ago/30 years ago/50 years ago. That was then - this is now.

fuddle

Oh goodness me, no. I mean I know only too well money that I don't respect people just because they're older. I thought you would have picked up on that by now.

fuddle

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

Just as well petal, at our age we'd only fall of the darned pedestal and break something wouldn't we? feet on ground, preferred place of dwelling!

Pedestals are awful things I think. Folk on there have me fumbling and then have me question myself why I'm fumbling and why they're on there and then I get annoyed because it's normally not relevant to me anyway!

monnagran

It's far safer to have your feet on the ground. Less chance of falling.

[Deleted User]

Or being knocked off your perch!

mardatha

Plus everybody can see when you eat a jellybaby and they all want one.