THE Prepping thread - a new beginning :)

tiredwithtwins

fuddle wrote: »

Looking after ourselves. There is a family member on DH's side who is now we'll into his 60's. I don't at all like him and he's not someone we keep in touch with. He actually gives me the creeps.

He's lived a life of binge drinking, eating terrible foods in vast quantities and now has type 2 diabetes to where his ankles have had to be fused as a consequence. Even having done through all that he still abuses drink and food. He's been battling something going on in his stomach that ordinary scans can't flag up because he's too fat. He's too much of a risk to have investigative surgery etc. This man has been in and out of hospital because of this, in pain and never really getting to the bottom of it.

Of course the hospital is carp, the staff are clueless, it's a ludicrous situation and I recoil in anger when I hear of his abusive ways to staff or that his wife takes in pies as snacks between the 3 course (and not too bad as I've had them) meals provided by the hospital.

My Facebook feed is full of his friends and family slating the NHS while I silently get annoyed. When is it his fault? He has abused himself all his life and didn't heed the warnings given when type 2 was diagnosed. He's costing the NHS a small fortune because of his ignorance and selfishness and doesn't even appreciate what has been done to help him in a situation that he has created himself.

The same for my aunty with COPD who takes her reliever inhaler so she can get up to go have a cigarette. I don't know how the heck I have the drive and education that I do when all around me is ignorance and selfishness.

So many mistakes in that piece. Apologies, I was on my phone.

im a nurse and can totally relate to this .. I see patients coming for outpatiens appointments get out the their cars (with their blue badges) have a fag, then walk into clinic, complain that the doctor just tells them to stop smoking and then leaves cursing us because we ''cant do anything'' ...
when are people going to be held accountable for their health and stop expecting the nhs to cure their problems when they do damn all to help themselves. that's where the money is being lost in the nhs ...

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Perhaps I am sad, I never have liked cities and crowds and really dislike being in big shopping centres. I'm not, despite perhaps how the post reads quite as scared of my own shadow as it may suggest BUT I am aware that things can happen randomly and suddenly that are totally out of my control and to feel in some sort of control myself I keep track of safe exits wherever I happen to be. It only applies to me, no one else has to follow suit and it hurts no one so I don't think there's any harm in being aware and staying alert.

Both the posts now deleted in case they've made anyone else upset.

pineapple

To each his or her own Mrs L. Not having a go or actually calling YOU sad (would I dare? :eek:)

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It would be a very dull world if we all had the same thoughts and opinions wouldn't it?

pineapple

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

It w1ould be a very dull world if we all had the same thoughts and opinions wouldn't it?

It certainly would Mrs L (though it goes without saying that half my neighbours are as mad as a box of frogs and I am the only 'normal' one :rotfl:)

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I'm very fond of frogs m'self, have a few boxes of my own to play with ..... draw your own conclusions!!!

pollyanna_26

thriftwizard Thank you for your pm I did write a response but replying to messages is often hit or miss . It either reaches it's destination or I keep being asked to log in when I am already logged in to check my inbox .
I can't work out the randomness of the situation .
I am one who opted to keep the green screen format when it was rolled out . Unlike most I find the new format easier to read so I read on that . I then log in which means I'm on the green so check pms and post on there .
If Bob , Nuatha or anyone else can fathom out why it is hit and miss I would be grateful .
Take care Angie and try to look after yourself when possible x

Greenbee They are indeed called hubs just like Amazon etc !
Thank you for telling us about your Grandfather and the link showing him at work . It would be lovely if that series was available . Lovely to hear of your GP brother too .

Karmacat Thanks for your kind words .

Dear Monna as always hits the nail on the head as does Cheapskate and others .

Regarding self help I am in total agreement we all when possible to live that way . We shouldn't expect every little thing to be laid on free and without effort . None of my family would dream of seeking paracetamol and similar otc meds on prescription , In a nearby Wilko 16 paracetamol cost 19p .
My daughter is on many meds but since becoming 16 we have purchased an annual ppc . I budget for that throughout the year but a monthly dd scheme exists for those unable to do so .
She is entitled to free meds but we leave those in greater need with a our share of the nhs pot .

I believe regarding the NHS a lot works and a lot no longer does .
So many trusts operate in different ways . The starting point for old stylers is setting a budget , making sure the priority's are taken care of before all else .
This trust and others were not managing the money . The person who was in charge here went his own sweet way , state of the art conference room tick . Taxies for staff to other areas for parties and nights out tick , non stop taxies ferrying bloods and other samples to pathology in the other hospital often one sample at a time tick along with actions that should have led to a prison term but were never openly revealed .
It took people risking and often losing their positions a few years of whistle blowing until he was " invited to resign " He left with full pension rights and a large payment to tide him over .
He was headlines in the locality and didn't give a damn .
Many things concern me in life but is the broken people most of all . Fuds has taken a long hard journey both mentally and physically to come to the place she is now in .
Early on on she reached out to the os threads asking how she could learn that way of living . She had her ups and downs but is now one of those wise in the old ways and in her turn will advise and encourage other newbies .
Sadly many who had poor and often damaging upbringings in unloving , uncaring homes or maybe in care or on the streets have almost no starting point to access a different type of life .
They see the have it all false and shallow things in life but not the solid , steady and real life .
I know that Monna and others on the threads has reached out where possible to many in real life and offered that smile , kind word ,a nice meal or just sat and listened while they get the relief of pouring out the words that need to be heard and are rarely .
I am not a crier but tears have been too close over recent events .
So many lives changed for ever or lost entirely .
Images of firemen , police , nhs staff and so many others in tears and beyond comfort .
Meanwhile the cuts have put greater strain on 1st responders .
True counselling and other mh help is promised but with nhs services overloaded and often unable to deal with existing waiting lists one wonders where that will come from .
polly

Shropshirelass

Pollyanna thank you for your long post, for taking the time to put into words what I believe many of us are experiencing.
I'm another who micro manages trips to town. I find the thought of travelling by plane train or tube very daunting. I don't enjoy big crowds as I am only 5'2", so a big bloke with a backpack would knock me over by turning round fast, and probably not even know he had done.
My heart goes out to elderly and vulnerable people involved in all these recent crises, being moved from pillar to post seemingly at the whim of 'managers' guessing what will be the next best thing to do.

pollyanna_26

Shropshire lass Thank you . Luckily DD and I have never been into shopping . It's a number of years since she was able to cope on public transport and i had to stop driving a long time ago when my physical health made it pretty difficult .
As a result we rely on a local taxi firm and for timed important appointments we have a little group of taxi drivers my daughter has learned to trust to the point every hospital trip becomes interesting and often hilarious conversation .
They are arranged well in advance and are unfailingly reliable .
Our main driver will pop somewhere and be only minutes away when we leave the hospital . Those two hospitals are quite a journey away from our local trust hospitals and DD was transferred there by our lovely GP after too many mistakes were made locally .

Many of us consider escape routes etc in view of unexpected events . My daughter from early childhood had severe panic attacks in our local , not large M&S . All attempts to discover the reason didn't offer a reason . In her teens she said it had a stressful floor . A few years ago she finally worked out that it was the fact she couldn't see a clear way out . There are two exits one on the high street the other in an offset area at the back , neither were visible from much of the downstairs . So I had a mini GQ who for years couldn't unlike GQ
identify why she felt panicky in there .
Take care x

Apologies to all for the many typos in my last post .

polly

maryb

Hi Bob just back from hols so have only just seen your suggestion. That looks neat and wouldn't take up much room. It says it gives you extra talk time. Presumably it just extends the battery life so she could equally use it to get internet access to work out travel options? Although the problem when she was caught up in the London Bridge business was that she had signal to phone me but no internet so she was reliant on me sitting at my computer looking up night buses