Table for One

Princesssparkle

P.s. I really don't understand how to subscribe to threads anymore in the new style forum. Any tips would be great.

Hiddenidenity

I can't help on the new style. I'm still on the old.

Sorry things are tough this month, there will be bump sin the road but keep in sight there is light at the end of the tunnel x

Princesssparkle

I can't even remember how to get back to the old style. I'm honestyly not bad with IT but this has just baffled me.

Thank you for your post hiddenidentity. It's so nice to have the support and know I'm not going through it alone.

Was feeling like things were going ok until bcard emailed to say my 0% is running out (which I thought ended in April. Fortunately my other cc conveniently sent me a 0% on balance transfers offer but there will be a fee of about £20. Better than the 18% bcard wanted to charge if I didn't pay in full though.

When my balance has gone across I'll do a little money update.

Princesssparkle

Still don't know how to subscribe to threads! I asked the help people and they said there was a brown button at the top of the thread. Can't see it but if I'm being blind please do point it out!

Nothing really to report. Feeling skint as per usual. Are there any regular people in this day and age which don't feel skint though?

Had a quote for 2 windows and a door today as mine desperately need to be replaced £3.5k! I told him when he walked in that I was only after a quote to see how much I'd need to save up, told him I'm not interested in getting in any debt for them so no finance offers. He said don't you have any savings? I thought it's none of your bloody business! But yes I do and that's an emergency fund! Safe to say I won't be going with them and I'll be saving up for quite a bit! Notably after my debts are gone. Come on for a little peruse to lift my spirits.

Hope you guys are doing ok x

Chrystal

On mine there is a 'subscribe to thread' button at the top of the thread page, left hand side betweem the red 'post reply' button and the 'thread tools' button. No idea if this is the old or new format.

Keep your chin up and remember it's baby steps that will get you where you want to be. No good looking at the big picture and getting depressed. Have you looked at the challenges? ie paying a small amount of a debt every day? Suprising how much difference it makes over a month. You'll get there

Subscribing

Princesssparkle

Chrystal you've cracked it! I had to go to the bottom of the page, click "go advanced" then it brought up a text box and under this there was a subscribe to thread option woooo! Well done! Thank you.

Your post was just what I needed today to set my head straight and you're so right about the baby steps. Going to have a look at the challenges now. Good suggestion. Thank you x

Been naughty today! It could have been an NSD but I bought the full price version of an app I've been trying out for a month. It was £32 but it's a diary app and I write in it every day it's like counselling and makes me keep my head (and life) straight and i think £32 for the year is cheaper than even one counselling session. You can also have different notebooks in this app and I don't know if I posted on here but I'm starting a uni course in autumn so I figured I could use this app to keep my notes in too! I know I sound like I'm trying to justify it and that's because I am but there are precious memories in there and I'd hate to lose them.

Chrystal

Princesssparkle wrote: »

Chrystal you've cracked it! I had to go to the bottom of the page, click "go advanced" then it brought up a text box and under this there was a subscribe to thread option woooo! Well done! Thank you.

Your post was just what I needed today to set my head straight and you're so right about the baby steps. Going to have a look at the challenges now. Good suggestion. Thank you x

Been naughty today! It could have been an NSD but I bought the full price version of an app I've been trying out for a month. It was £32 but it's a diary app and I write in it every day it's like counselling and makes me keep my head (and life) straight and i think £32 for the year is cheaper than even one counselling session. You can also have different notebooks in this app and I don't know if I posted on here but I'm starting a uni course in autumn so I figured I could use this app to keep my notes in too! I know I sound like I'm trying to justify it and that's because I am but there are precious memories in there and I'd hate to lose them.

Glad you managed to get it sorted :beer:
I think if the app helps you it's well worth 62p a week! Just remember to keep a little pot and put 70p weekly into it - to allow for inflation - when you have to pay it next year :rotfl:

Anything that helps you stay focused has got to be a good thing. X

Princesssparkle

Haha brilliant idea about the inflation.

Princesssparkle

Received my four year anniversary badge last week. It actually made me a little deflated and feeling like I haven't come very far in four years. But I have! I have a working car, I can see now I have my glasses, I have my wonderful house with a roof over my head and despite still being in debt... things will tick along, crap does happen in life and the only thing that matters is what I choose to do about it rather than dwelling on how I got to this point.

Baby steps! Baby steps!

Had some issues with the ex over the last month which have sent my head in to spirals. My new journal has saved me though! £32 well spent there!!! It has however made me crappy at making lunches for work, doing washing and I've been living off crumpets for dinner =(!!!

Now that I've sorted the ex out and blocked him in every way possible (despite having already done so!!!!), I feel quite motivated to start actually looking after myself. Tonight will be the last night of crumpets for dinner, I will be making my meal plan just like I used to and tomorrow I will be going food shopping!

Done some money sorting. I'm in a total debt of £7,664.40 and I have got everything on 0% and have a debt free date of April 2020 and will be paying £265 per month towards it. I've got little savings pots set up for things which come out annually like water and insurances and I have a pot for car fixings etc. I think I need to do a new full statement of affairs to make sure I have everything down correctly and get some advice on if anyone thinks I could make some improvements. Winters coming up and the pony gets quite expensive with food and bedding although I have been putting money aside each month like was suggested to hopefully even out the costs over the year.

Contemplating getting a Christmas temp weekend job to hopefully make life a little easier or maybe start a small admin business up at home. My uni books have been delivered this week though and I need to see actually how much time I have spare after working full time, studying part time and having a horse. Feel exhausted just writing about it!

Sorry for my ramblings. Off to have a nosey on some boards now. x

Princesssparkle

*creeps out from under a rock*

Hello everyone *waves*

Well it’s been a hot minute hasn’t it.

I’ve taken some time out (well actually pretty much checked out of life in general) as I’ve not been very well.

It’s been a long, confusing and very hard process but I finally have a diagnosis of dissociative identity disorder. It’s somewhat a relief as a lot of things (which have been happening for years) all of a sudden make sense to me.

Basically what lead to my diagnosis was me just completely checking out and not being able to function and I have had to be off work which means half pay and all my debts are back.

I’m here again as I’m working on getting life back on track and beating my debts. 2019 is very much going to be about tidying up after the storm but the main thing to focus on is that it’s about making progress. Even though that may be baby steps.

I’ll do an SOA soon. It will change over time as my pay will start going back to normal when I phase back into work.

Looking for some support in that I’m not alone and also if anyone has/knows anyone with DID it would be lovely if you’d be happy to reach out. Health service has been pretty shocking in giving support =(