Resilience from betrayal

Prometheus2

Amazing no but getting there slowly ..


Perhaps if I decided to fight hard enough I could have gained some money back even had better access I suppose. However the lead up to me leaving was incredibly stressful, toxic and more importantly having a big effect on the kids. The kids are very much all for their mum with me playing a side part through having to work a lot so when you’re 9 year old daughter tells you that you need to leave as you making everyone upset and mum loves someone else in the middle of being screamed at by your wife your no longer fun, attractive or loved and that I had to leave. It was then I honestly felt totally humiliated and therefore took the simple action to leave hoping that things would calm down.


Not saying what I done was right or wrong but for me it felt right as my greatest concern was the effect it was having on the kids and the toll it was taking on me. Yes we guys are supposed to be tough but if you apply enough stress it can start to have an adverse effect on your health. It really has taken me nearly 5 months to gain the kids trust as I’ve been seen as the bad guy but making sure that I’m in constant contact with them. I’ve slowly won them over ensuring that they now look forward to come to mine instead of dreading it.


Moving forward now I get to spend quality time with kids, reducing the inherited debt and have my own independent life devoid of continual arguments while beginning to look to forward to the next chapter. As to what the future holds I’m really not sure , be debt free and maybe I’ll meet someone who knows but for one at least I’m now ready to stand up and face whatever curve balls are thrown at me.


One thing I no longer feel is a failure and all I can say it can sometimes pay to take the path of least resistance. Get fixated on yourself not material


STB camping is great fun , bangers and beans ... any way its something I intend to take up once loan payment is finished in July as it'll give me the chance to get a car and freedom to move around. But tech free ! no doubt to the horror of my kids but I know it'll be fun !

Stb_2

Good man, don't forget the bacon!