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If get a DNA test and it comes back inconclusive, what to think?
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You wouldn't be angry if your partner accused you of cheating?
You said that the test would come back as inconclusive if the father was a close family member. Is this something you think might be a possibility? What you do if you get that result is up to you, but I suspect most people would have a bit of a falling out with both the girlfriend and the relevant family member.
How is it cheating? It's just confirming something to yourself. What's wrong with that? I am sorry but I don't get it. I also don't get why my girlfriend has said she would finish with me if I did the test! I just don't get it. So I may have to do it on the sly. Not a problem- get kit and stash it in garage, when kiddy comes round to sleep (only him) do test. Get result on internet. Think it's unlikely you would get caught.
Out of curiousity, is this hostility I am getting from female posters? And is it because it's a threat to their power over men who don't know something as well they as they do? All women know the baby is theirs because it comes out of them. We men don't know that, but shouldn't we?
The results will likely come back as he's mine I suspect, then great. If it comes back as he isn't mine (I doubt) then that's not nice but I will move on and find another girl. If on the 300-1 chance it comes back inconclusive that would worry me as I wouldn't know what to do.
Inconclusive possibilities -
contamination of sample- (not problem do it again)
girlfriend slept with close relative (almost impossible).
DNA issue with test (can't change that and only way to be sure after that is to get girlfriend to test as well).0 -
You wouldn't be angry if your partner accused you of cheating?
Good point, now I understand where you're coming from. I still wouldn't be bothered if my partner got tested though! Why not, everyone has doubts. I don't think she cheated, but you never know. And as a man we can never be 100%0 -
applepicker wrote: »You wouldn't be angry if your partner accused you of cheating?
Good point, now I understand where you're coming from. I still wouldn't be bothered if my partner got tested though! Why not, everyone has doubts. I don't think she cheated, but you never know. And as a man we can never be 100%
Oh I see. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt.
IE she had cheated and there were 2 possibilities. But you're just insecure and don't trust your girlfriend. Good luck with the longevity of this relationship....0 -
What ridiculous posts! If he isn't mine, I will leave. If he is I will stay! Simple. Just want clarification. I assume the people posting such questions are female? of course men don't feel the same about a child which isn't theirs! Someone was going on about getting parental rights if he wasn't yours etc And this is the whole point of what I am saying. Women know 100% if he/she is theirs. If it wasn't they would probably leave like men, but they know 100% so of course this scenario never happens. Men don't have this luxury and getting this tests makes things more equal.0
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applepicker wrote: »
Oh I see. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt.
IE she had cheated and there were 2 possibilities. But you're just insecure and don't trust your girlfriend. Good luck with the longevity of this relationship....
Another woman?
No man is 100% about this! I am 98% sure he's mine.0 -
applepicker wrote: »
Oh I see. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt.
IE she had cheated and there were 2 possibilities. But you're just insecure and don't trust your girlfriend. Good luck with the longevity of this relationship....
Paranoia and a lack of trust, lovely things to bring a child up around.0 -
applepicker wrote: »
Another woman?
No man is 100% about this! I am 98% sure he's mine.
No a bloke, and a better one than you by the sounds of it.0 -
applepicker wrote: »What ridiculous posts! If he isn't mine, I will leave. If he is I will stay! Simple. Just want clarification. I assume the people posting such questions are female? of course men don't feel the same about a child which isn't theirs! Someone was going on about getting parental rights if he wasn't yours etc And this is the whole point of what I am saying. Women know 100% if he/she is theirs. If it wasn't they would probably leave like men, but they know 100% so of course this scenario never happens. Men don't have this luxury and getting this tests makes things more equal.
Really? What about people who adopt? Usually they love their child on the same level0 -
Why would my girlfriend get angry if I got tested for this? I wouldn't if it was other way round.
I don't understand this, if she wouldn't get angry about it then why are you doing it in secret?0 -
Just realised that this is quite an old thread and I was wondering if you actually ever did do the DNA test?0
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