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pattylabelle wrote: »

But we can use a digit more than once

But then you'd only have 3 mucky buttons:o

fairclaire

pattylabelle wrote: »

But we can use a digit more than once

The fact that the four digits are dirty would say they have all been used at least once

davemorton

pattylabelle wrote: »

EDIT: Hang on we are allowed to use a digit more than once so it is more than 24.

Oh, its too late for me to work this out, but then I thought, no, you cant use it more than once, as if that was the case, only 3 buttons would be dirty. Infact, it would be harder for someone to guess your code if you repeated a number, as they would not know (unless one button was more worn than the other) which number was repeated, hence even more permutations.

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

I think you just have to go with what you get out of it. DS2 has had quite a few obsessions now. Some last longer than others and I can see a shift in subjects as he gets older. He's getting onto more serious stuff now.

One obsession he has never changes though and that is The national Lottery In It to Win it Quiz show which is back on a Saturday night. He loves it and he was beyond delighted when it started again a few weeks ago. He was even more delighted that Dale Winton is still presenting it. He likes Dale and got very worried at the end of the last series that he'd retire because he was 60.

He is so lovably odd :A

I was just watching Jools Holland because Biffy Clyro were on and it made me thing of Zag. Hope you are ok Zag

Nothing. I don't get anything out of it at all, in anything except purely (nearly all the time) an altruistic sense. We are the only true altruists I suspect. And, in some areas with that, easily taken advantage of:(. The list is actually of no monetary benefit to me most times - I don't make anything out of it and I don't even put it onto my own website with a paywall to charge for the information - besides I wouldn't have a clue about how to do so so:o or wouldn't be interested in it:eek: - and in any event I'm purely altruistic and have no interest in making any money out of it. You don't get any money from reporting potholes, that your car doesn't run into and get damaged from as a result.

I don't do it for any personal benefit like that. (In fact, it makes it harder for me to do some glitches at A sometimes, usually on Wednesdays.) I guess it's done as an attempt to be a "service" to here - although maybe that sounds a bit pious. I guess I still just like doing it - despite, or maybe because of, it's "difficulties" (that aren't really) sometimes. However, in a sense, I can't stop either - and it's like an addiction but, on the other hand, I just do it when I like to. Should I go out later today and be obsessed? Or should I try to quit:rotfl:. Nah, I think I'll just go out anyway.:rotfl::rotfl: I'm not "trapped" - I don't feel that way anyway and, whilst yes, perhaps/clearly(?) there is something causing me to keep doing it, I think :doh:I'll go anyway as it "keeps me out of trouble" (maybe). What else would I be doing if I weren't doing that?:think: Maybe enjoying myself if it's a good day - but I'll get some summer days later on no doubt. It's gets me out and it's something to do. I suppose! Plus, on Monday, it's routine now as it covers for periods when the rest of my family are out, when I'd otherwise just be here, on my own (and, of course, as a person with Asperger's completely and absolutely fine with that as I enjoy more being on my own than being with people:rotfl:). People are just trouble sometimes:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:. It's okay - you need people to prevent you from going mad. But I maybe need them much less - and you know what I mean when I say they can be trouble. Too much trouble and more than it's worth, sometimes.

So, I've now already got my printed list - I did that several hours ago - fortunately I finished the updating somewhat earlier today - it took me another nearly twenty-five minutes again to obtain a copy and I have to keep printing a new one from complete scratch and in full again as they keep changing too much. So, I'm ready, in any event, to go out today and most probably will:cool:. I know there are some changes already to be made to the list, but it's stuck on what I have got from last Wednesday and changes will be made from new information to be collected later.

I know about the Doritos and the Pepsi etc. but they didn't get to the list:rotfl:. (Neither did the some of the Seriously Strong cheese that is supposed to be £3.50 vs £2 still, not sure if any CB is still available on that?) I actually had trouble getting motivated to go last Wednesday but, once I was there, I was stuck straight into it and then happily travelling to the next store and getting more details there. I have been getting 'fed up' with it in that sense but, now I've had a rest on Sunday evening, I'm probably more than ready to go back out again in the day! (I guess it just fits into my life as it is at the moment.)

Don't forget the Wychwood Hobgoblin Gold 4x500ml today!:D (I think I should add - I've now just thought about this! - this won't work against this price in Scotland - don't know what it might pick up there.)

See you later:wave:.

davemorton

1234 2314 3124 1324 2134 3214 1243 2341 3142 1342 2143 3241 1423 2431 3412 1432 2413 3421 4123 4231 4312 4132 4213 4321...............Think thats them all, better than counting sheep that was

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

This has been a very recent thing that I only realised fully yesterday he was actually officially reporting. I've yet to look at the website to see what the set up is and if it's an anonymous thing or not.
I was thrown off tonight by it being haircut night.

When I worked in the civil service we had people who were prolific at voicing their annoyance at one thing or another by various means. They were called persistent correspondents. If Lancashire county council are listening......I'm sorry :rotfl:

Do you know, I'd be embarrassed by this and try to keep my obsessions away from my parents. Thus - probably like now actually - I'm in my own home but if my father was to come and visit me - I'd actually shut the computer down and not be on this website in the same room as him. Fine being anywhere else (except perhaps !!!!!! sites or something:rotfl::rotfl::o:eek::rotfl: - you know, all I was trying to say was that I didn't mean I would literally be on any other website when my dad's here. I refuse to confirm or deny if I visit any !!!!!!:D).:rotfl::rotfl:

But, back to the point, if I was doing anything related to a special interest, such as complaining about X to such and such, I'd only ever write those letters when my dad was away from the room. As soon as he came in, the computer would be shut down. Even though it was obvious when letter after letter of reply kept being delivered to our house:rotfl:. I don't know if this helps you any. I wouldn't recommend trying to disturb him as if, like me, he may get made anxious. This was before I even 'knew' I had ASD. My father doesn't know I go to M and do what I do. And, at my age now, neither need he. Need to know;). He knows I'm usually out on such and such dates - but doesn't realise why I "need" to be - or what I'm doing. And doesn't realise the functional role that it plays in my life - much like going down the pub and having a conversation in a group of friends fulfills for most people.

Anyway, it's not harmful to anyone else and I can spent my time however I choose:cool:. (That said, I would not object if someone else gave me their different POV as I would listen to it - and then probably ignore it anyway:rotfl::):A.)

I don't know why I find my obsessions "embarrassing" in the sense that I'd shut them down if anyone 'too close' to me (such as my parents) were here. It's not that I view them rationally as embarrassing in any sense. After all, I post here about M with complete lack of any embarrassment. And it's not that I knew why I was doing something, in the time when I wasn't diagnosed with anything - although these days it makes perfect sense!

As for this one (the M list), I was already diagnosed when I first joined the website. And it started off as a continuation of something that I was already doing, on a much lesser scale, that then expanded into more items when I joined here and has expanded ever since:rotfl:. Thank goodness I am no longer using just my main M:rotfl::rotfl:. I would never have any items such as the Twarog on my list at all, that I currently have there, as those products aren't stocked in my nearest M. That's as a result of me being "asked to leave" (and then told to leave) quite a while back. - I then had to decamp to other stores and it's helped me expand my information ever since:rotfl:. (I sneak into my "forbidden" M usually twice a week:D.) The Holland's pies are only picked up as a result of changing stores yet again, after I got nervous of the SG at one of them later on, even though I still visit there quite often, as a supplementary store, and the SG to my knowledge isn't even there these days - but there's other logistics about that store that now make it a bit more difficult to use as a primary store. So, purely from a practical POV, I nowadays start off elsewhere, usually in my Twarog and Holland's Pies store:D.

fairclaire

Back to school tomorrow. I feel sorry for the kids having to be back at school in such good weather
Only a few weeks ago I was packing thermals in the PE kits so their skinny little legs wouldn't suffer

Savvy :kisses3: you are amazing

I'm attempting to go back to work for at least a couple of days a week tomorrow. My iron levels have recovered and other than a water retention problem that has seen me gain a whole dress size :eek: there's no reason why not.

Anon....I think you may just have a dirty or contaminated sensor. clean it up man :rotfl:

fairclaire

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Do you know, I'd be embarrassed by this and try to keep my obsessions away from my parents. Thus - probably like now actually - I'm in my own home but if my father was to come and visit me - I'd actually shut the computer down and not be on this website in the same room as him. Fine being anywhere else (except perhaps !!!!!! sites or something:rotfl::rotfl::o:eek::rotfl: - you know, all I was trying to say was that I didn't mean I would literally be on any other website when my dad's here. I refuse to confirm or deny if I visit any !!!!!!:D).:rotfl::rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: That is your business and I'm not your father:eek: but interestingly DS2 does shut down his windows when I walk in the room.

Of course I keep a check on what he's up to and it seems he's embarrassed at what music he listens to, games he plays and pretty much anything he does. He has such low confidence Something we are working on. He has a thing lately where he says 'I'm a geek, get over it' but it's said really embarrassingly. I'm guessing that might be an opinion he's picked up from others at school.

Anyway we are getting there and we probably always will be. Love hearing your views on it Savvy.

I'm iff to bed now as after a very hectic few weeks we are attempting a bit of normality tomorrow. Wish us luck

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: That is your business and I'm not your father:eek: but interestingly DS2 does shut down his windows when I walk in the room.

Of course I keep a check on what he's up to and it seems he's embarrassed at what music he listens to, games he plays and pretty much anything he does. He has such low confidence Something we are working on. He has a thing lately where he says 'I'm a geek, get over it' but it's said really embarrassingly. I'm guessing that might be an opinion he's picked up from others at school.

Anyway we are getting there and we probably always will be. Love hearing your views on it Savvy.

I'm iff to bed now as after a very hectic few weeks we are attempting a bit of normality tomorrow. Wish us luck

Yep, I suspect same thing as me. Hope it's helped you understand it.

I don't know - it's not as if I'm doing anything wrong or anything. It's just - I don't know why I don't flat out overtly do my obsessions in front of others. Probably embarrassed that I have them? However, this was before I was diagnosed and I wouldn't have seen them as obsessions or realised why I do them at that time, so it doesn't provide an explanation about why. There's no reason to be embarrassed about something you don't know. I just 'do them in secret' and I'm not sure why. Perhaps the way I've been brought up? Perhaps afraid I'd be told not to do something or would just otherwise find it easier to do without "interference"? I don't know. It doesn't explain anything particular about my upbringing if your son is doing the same. As I said, I wouldn't recommend trying to disturb him - he'll only get anxious/upset I would have thought. Although that's just how it would be for me. As long as there's nothing criminal in his obsessions, then I don't really see that they cause that much harm or are anything to stamp out - and he enjoys doing the thing. Perhaps he's helping ensure drivers in Blackpool are less likely to encounter potholes in future and thus in a way doing a useful service?(:rotfl:)

Now, if he were making phone calls and wasting police time or anything, that would be different. The trouble with him would be however that any phone calls would never be hoax calls:rotfl: - and he'd always report them in the correct way (in other words no abuse of 999 etc. - if it were police matters, he'd be non-emergency line like you should do. I would hope - and, if not, he'd soon learn that was not what you do and, being a stickler for complying with rules himself, would ensure that he complied with the rules no doubt). That said, I've rang 999 before - on a single occasion in my whole life - when I thought something was up. And turned out to be wrong. But it wasn't a hoax as I thought something that required an emergency response was happening.

Savvybuyer

fairclaire wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: That is your business and I'm not your father:eek: but interestingly DS2 does shut down his windows when I walk in the room.

Of course I keep a check on what he's up to and it seems he's embarrassed at what music he listens to, games he plays and pretty much anything he does. He has such low confidence Something we are working on. He has a thing lately where he says 'I'm a geek, get over it' but it's said really embarrassingly. I'm guessing that might be an opinion he's picked up from others at school.

Ooh... embarrassed at the music? What music does he listen to, I'm interested! There is music that contains what might be, in some environments, embarrassing subjects or topics - is it anything like that? Otherwise than that though, is there any rational reason for embarrassment? (There's probably no rational reason for embarrassment full stop - it's just that certain things have taboos around them in our society. Or maybe you could say it was "rational" as it is rationally understandable in the context of there being a taboo.)

The lack of confidence might be to do with bullying because of his "difference". Although I don't know how or whether people bully others anymore now that more is known about the condition nowadays. (I'm sure children can still be nasty - and maybe inadvertent assumptions get made that mean people generally say things and aren't aware of the assumptions they are making - such as subconscious perception of which people are unaware but are supposed to put out of being able to influence them. How can anyone ever do that? Maybe I'm not explaining well - e.g. a job interview, they know you don't make eye contact and are to ignore it - however the lack of eye contact still gives them a subconscious impression and therefore no human being can actually ignore it.) I had low confidence - and people then told me I had low confidence, so I had even lower. And so on. I only finally got assertiveness when my voice broke - and it did so at a very late age. You can imagine the taunting I got because I still sounded like a girl at the age of 17.

I suspect the embarrassment might be an inadvertent tone of voice that he has, sometimes things don't come out in the intended way. So he might not be embarrassed - especially as tones of voice are probably not the ones that most people have. Maybe the "I'm a geek..." is a coping strategy?:think:

I think if you tell him he is confident and praise him for that - it may start reinforcing in a positive way and then maybe he will be so. "You can be confident - you are confident!" That sort of thing. The complete opposite approach to my own parents' approach that, inadvertently, destroyed me.

(Or, actually, in the long run it didn't - but I was very unconfident throughout my childhood and then, when my voice broke, overreacted and went completely the other way (almost as overcompensation) - although, even now, I often don't feel able to say things - often I don't know what to say anyway. Or otherwise I either don't feel there is much point or I will be ignored. Or it takes a long time to think of the words to say - and they all have to be thought about in advance and remembered - it's not easy like writing things down effortlessly like I do. It's a communications disorder so there are problems with face-to-face communication like that. Then sometimes you can go on with a monologue for hours and have no problem finding words to say.)

Maybe it's good to be a "geek", or a "swot", in 2016? In my day - thirty years ago - it wasn't - and the word "swot" was used as a term of abuse. As a result, although I should have given the correct answer to every question and proved myself as swotty as I really was, I pretended I didn't know - in order not to be perceived as a "swot", and therefore actually pretended I was less good at school than I actually was. That's when you don't fit in at a school at which most children attend to carry out social conversation rather than :doh: actually doing schoolwork (which, :doh:, I somehow assumed was the purpose of school). How could I fall into error and believe that school was actually to do schoolwork? (I am being a tad sarcastic here.) I have since learned that I was wrong: most people don't go to a presentation to, :doh:, actually do a presentation - they go for the drinks and the socialising instead. Something else I never understood until I was aged 38:rotfl:. You know, if you say "come and attend a presentation", I somehow assume that that's what you want me to do?!?:huh::rotfl: What you should do, to help me, is make clear it's a !!!!-up instead:rotfl:. (But this website keeps wanting to change it to something that implies something even worse. Come on, it's a normal colloquial expression that research indicates most people consider to be very mild. Maybe that's the problem - anything colloquial is therefore out! Doh - I fail to get the point again! Anyway, I give up with it there - for now. See you later:wave:.)

Make clear it's a drink-up. Come on - does anybody even say that?!? No, is the answer. So that's not even a correct expression either:p:rotfl::rotfl:.

Make clear it's "a situation in which people drink alcohol somewhat", as I have to be prim and proper:(.

Booze-up. Ah:idea:, so that bit of slang is alright. Even though it's a slang word and therefore inappropriate for written text:p.

Notice how "swot", that can be used as an offensive (and yes it did upset me, very deeply, as child) term of abuse is perfectly fine but something of a mild nature that isn't aimed at everyone is completely out! This world can be confusing for someone like me can't it?:rotfl: It's because computer systems don't see context. But, then, neither do I (in theory) so it ought to be more attune with me. Actually, you can see why the one word was targetted but is completely irrational and illogical!

Even if you were to make clear it was a [drink]:(-up though, I still wouldn't believe you! And never would I ever know what was the appropriate form of dress - as I never know what events require casual clothing, some formal and some in between:o:rotfl:! Just clueness about that - I've gone to events before, in formal suit and tie, just to be "on the safe side" and then found everyone to be wearing jeans:o:rotfl::rotfl:. I can't win - I wore jeans last time, to an event, only to find everyone else wearing suits:o:rotfl:. Not that it mattered too much - it just got the one odd comment and then didn't matter at all the rest of the night!:j:rotfl::cool: At least the jeans were very tidy and smart:). (Even though they weren't "smart" as they weren't the thing really to wear:rotfl:.) Just so you know - I do ask sometimes, in advance, but sometimes I can't get in touch/can't find the organisers or some other reason and end up having to use my own judgement which is, of course, always wrong:rotfl::p:rotfl::rotfl:. Somehow I never got the memo, that was never written, about the expected clothing at every possible event - and, even if I did, it would be completely illogical and subject to Asperger questioning and challenging on every ground anyway:rotfl:. "That's just the way it is." "Well, that's not a good enough answer:p (...as it doesn't provide any justification as to why:rotfl:)." "Well, it's the answer you're getting." "So what - still not satisfied, my point proven again!":rotfl::rotfl:

See you later folks!:):wave: