Wedding Rings (merged)

Dormouse

Yep, I agree, I don't think it's weird either. No point doing something you don't want just because that's what most people do. Your engagement ring sounds lovely, just stick with it if that's what you want.

ribenagirl

I don't think it's at all odd to not want a wedding ring - I know tons of women who only wear their wedding ring (and not their engagement ring any more) anyway - you're just doing it in reverse!

You don't say whether you're having a church wedding or a civil ceremony - if it's church, you'll need a ring to bless - they'll bless whatever ring you're using as your 'wedding' ring, and if that's the ring that doubles as your engagement ring, so be it!

XXJULESXX

Thanks very much.

By this afternoon, and after hours trawling the net for something suitable, I decided I'd made up my mind, not to get another ring.

I don't wear any jewellery apart from my current ring and I don't want another one, least of all to take away the beauty of this one, just because that's the 'done' thing.

So that's what I'm going to do, thanks for your comments - bit more money to spend on my dress now!

Sheel

ribenagirl wrote:

I don't think it's at all odd to not want a wedding ring - I know tons of women who only wear their wedding ring (and not their engagement ring any more)

I've hardly ever worn my engagement ring , but i've not worn my wedding ring for years either . I just feel uncomfortable with them on , not a jewellery person at all. I did have an eternity ring but lost it and when I was given one of my late Mum's rings , said I would always wear it , but i've gone and lost or mislaid it , but to be honest I doubt i'd have worn it all the time. I can't see it makes any difference whether you wear one or not , doesn't make you any less married , although some men do get the wrong idea when they don't see a ring on your finger :rolleyes:

ribenagirl

Sheel wrote:

some men do get the wrong idea when they don't see a ring on your finger :rolleyes:

Yeah, dreadful, isn't it? Just this very morning I had to say, look Johnny Depp, I might have taken my rings off to do the washing up but I'm a married woman you know so hands off! :rolleyes:

BTW, I can really recommend investing in a nice soft babies' toothbrush to clean your nice ring up beautifully

LilacLillie

When we married...............back in the day of Feminism I refused to wear such a symbol, Wedding ring pah! Men didn't have to wear them, so why didn't we get that choice?
I said I might as well wear a ring through my nose (before they really did wear them in the nose).
I had also never been keen on jewellery and certainly didn't want to wear a ring. My husband bought one for the service, which I slipped off straight after and popped in my bag.
Over the years he bought me 2 more, which I also didn't wear. Goodness knows why, as I've never worn a ring in my life.
A few years ago we had our 25th wedding anniversay and our Vicar suggested as a gesture, we exchange silver bands.
We did, after explaining we both don't wear jewllery. I promptly got drunk and gave mine away and my husband put his on the cat's tail!
I do have my wedding and engagement rings................somwhere, but our kids have never seen them and I'd have a job to find them if they wanted to.
I think you should do what feels comfortable to you.
LL

shelly

I'd be lost without my wedding ring.....probably sounds sad to some of you but its true.Before I got married I didn't wear rings at all.I rarely wore my engagement ring because the environment I worked in was kinda rough on the hands and I was paranoid about damaging it.I love to see my wedding ring on my finger as it is who I am....I am a Mrs now and not a Miss anymore and I like people to see that.I know commitment and love is in you and your heart but my wedding ring is my outward sign to others of my commitment and love.I also like to see hubby wearing his ring....he had good hands to start with and his ring looks real good on him....lol...

But all that is just my opinion. .....I don't think its weird at all jules to not want another ring......you have to do whatever you feel comfortable with.Maybe you could get a nice necklace and bracelet set to wear on the day instead?

Hope all goes well for you whatever you decide.

ditzymuppet

Firstly... congratulations on getting married

I wear very little jewellery myself...so i can see why you wouldn't want to... maybe getting a silver/gold bangle might work? Or just use the money for your ring to a super duper honeymoon and a camera to remember your time on your holiday?!


~ditzy~ x

stec00

I have a 14carat white gold engagement ring and am now looking for a matching wedding ring. As it's difficult to find 14ct gold rings in the UK I will probably have to go for 9ct or 18ct. However, a couple of jewellers have warned me that the different metals may wear against each other and ideally the bands should be the same carat. Does anyone know whether this is true or is it just sales speak? I'm tempted to go for 9ct as it's supposed to be more hard wearing and white gold has to be re plated yearly anyway. Any advice anyone has would be much appreciated...

Thanks,
Anya

Rikki

What the jeweller told you is correct, the rings should be same carat. 9 ct is hardest having less gold content.
If your engagement ring is 14ct if you can't get the same I would go for the 18ct.