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Help with upsetting message
dankes
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Hi there,
I haven't logged onto here for a while, and have just received a really upsetting message from someone whose post I replied to. Without reproducing the message on the original thread to tell him to go away - I don't want to start the thread up again - it's hard to explain in detail why it's upsetting. On his thread, which sounded fake, he was using the idea of suicide to illicit sympathy and I said a friend of mine had killed himself so not to do that. And, also, not to reply with one of his long, rambling patronising posts. When I logged on earlier, I got a private message from him giving me 'advice' in a really patronising fashion about how to deal with bereavement.
Basically, what can I do about it? I don't want to reply to him because that would be engaging with him and would encourage him. I'm still so cut up from the death of my friend that I don't need this from this idiot and don't want to let it go.
Can anyone give me some advice on what to do?
Thanks
D x
I haven't logged onto here for a while, and have just received a really upsetting message from someone whose post I replied to. Without reproducing the message on the original thread to tell him to go away - I don't want to start the thread up again - it's hard to explain in detail why it's upsetting. On his thread, which sounded fake, he was using the idea of suicide to illicit sympathy and I said a friend of mine had killed himself so not to do that. And, also, not to reply with one of his long, rambling patronising posts. When I logged on earlier, I got a private message from him giving me 'advice' in a really patronising fashion about how to deal with bereavement.
Basically, what can I do about it? I don't want to reply to him because that would be engaging with him and would encourage him. I'm still so cut up from the death of my friend that I don't need this from this idiot and don't want to let it go.
Can anyone give me some advice on what to do?
Thanks
D x
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Report them to abuse then forget it.Barclaycard 3800
Nothing to do but hibernate till spring
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I am a bit puzzled by your dilemma? If you don't want anything to do with him & its upsetting you then why are you spinning it out by posting stuff on here about it.
Sorry, I just read the above & it sounds really harsh. What I mean to say is why don't you just ignore his message.Tallyhoh! Stopped Smoking October 2000. Saved £29382.50 so far!0 -
If their PM 'advice' is abusive report it....if not ignore it. Patronising is not abuse?0
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Hi, thanks for the advice. No longer need it as I am going to report it as abuse and move on. D x0
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Dankes
report it and leave it.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0
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