Responding to RSVP

BusyBargainz

Hi all, I am looking for a bit of advice regarding responding to an RSVP on a wedding invite I have just received in the post from friends that live far away.

I don’t want to just send a text or email, I thought it would be nice to write a little notecard out accepting the invite but I am unsure on what wording to put on the card.

Any suggestions are welcome! I assume I just need to put our names on there and the fact we will be coming but not sure on anything else? TIA!

arbrighton

Something along the lines of 'thank you for invitation, delight to attend, very much looking forward to it'

firebird082

As above. We were delighted that some people chose to respond with cards, as they are a lovely thing to keep. Depends on your generation to a certain extent - all the older folks are all written in the third person ("Mr & Mrs B Webb are delighted to accept x and Y's invitation to celebrate their marriage... " etc). Younger folks all just write a chatty little card ("thankyou so much the the invitation - really happy to say we can come, and we're looking forward to celebrating with you").

Write what you feel, I suppose!

burnoutbabe

they didn't include a card? odd! Normally you would confirm who is attending (so they know its just you or you and other half or even the name of your plus one)

but also any food choices and if not asked, whether you have allergies/veggie etc

Torry_Quine

burnoutbabe wrote: »

they didn't include a card? odd! Normally you would confirm who is attending (so they know its just you or you and other half or even the name of your plus one)

but also any food choices and if not asked, whether you have allergies/veggie etc

I've never had a card included or had to give food choices. Just bought one and sent it with a yes or no.

Valli

Etiquette rules advise that an invitation should be accepted in the style that it was sent, so a written invitation should be responded to in writing. You can write a brief letter, use a note let (there's a blast from the past) or buy a wedding acceptance card from a card shop. I know that Card Factory sell them. It is also possible to buy a 'sorry I am unable to attend' card.

However, in the invitation the method of acceptance may be suggested by the inclusion of an email address or a phone number. But if they have given a postal address they're expecting a written reply.

arbrighton

We sent RSVP cards with stamp etc on - possibly slightly old fashioned but hey- nearly everyone replied by deadline and food allergy info included (with the exception of my Uncle)

Pollycat

I too didn't want to just confirm our acceptance to the blessing (wedding is abroad) & evening 'do' verbally (it's our next door neighbour's eldest son & we've known them 24 years) so I bought an acceptance card from Card Factory.

burnoutbabe

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I've never had a card included or had to give food choices. Just bought one and sent it with a yes or no.

well most weddings I attend do have a choice of 2 items so you say which you have.

And as people forget to say who is going, its far simpler for the couple to design a card to capture all the details. They don't want Mr and Mrs and their 5 kids thinking they are coming if in fact its just Mr and Mrs invited.

Torry_Quine

burnoutbabe wrote: »

well most weddings I attend do have a choice of 2 items so you say which you have.

And as people forget to say who is going, its far simpler for the couple to design a card to capture all the details. They don't want Mr and Mrs and their 5 kids thinking they are coming if in fact its just Mr and Mrs invited.

Yes there is usually a choice but I've never been asked to decide weeks ahead with the invite.

Even if a response card is included that won't stop the confusion over who is invited. If they haven't read the invite properly to notice everyone isn't invited then how does an enclosed reply card stop that?

burnoutbabe

I've never seen it the case that you decide on the day, not sure how that would work with mass catering.

So if you have a family of 5, the invite is to Mr and Mrs, who think "oh we'll bring the kids" - if the response makes clear that they think they are bringing the kids (food options/5 seats reserved) then the hosts can ring up and tell them they are mistaken.

If you just write back (as say a singleton who has a plus one) yes love to come - well how does the bride/groom know if you are coming as 1 or 2 (or even what guest 2's name is). So they have to go back and confirm.

A well written reply card captures all this and avoids confusion.