Middle aged grumps

VfM4meplse

Just catching up on today's episode of "You and Yours" in the background.

It seems that the new danger zone for misery is middle age - above 40! Although I fit that age bracket, I don't consider myself to be middle aged but I have been through a v miserable spell. My free time during last few weeks are been spent concentrating on what makes me happy, and it's worked. Listening to the show has made me realise that I'm far from alone in both my feelings and conclusions.

One of the best remedies I've found is actually this OS board - full of happy-making tips!

lollyfin

I'm in that age group too and I honestly think I've got less grumpy the older I've got. Probably because I now spend more time doing the things that make me happy rather than doing things I think I should to please other people... those other people might say I was grumpier tho

[Deleted User]

Crikey I can barely remember being 40 :):) but I do have a great life and enjoy every minute of it I have my health back now a fantastic family and lots of amazing friends I am out and about most days and although retired (1995) my life is so busy I don't think I would have time to work(even if I could find anyone who would employ me :):)) far too old really but every day is a good one for me


JackieO xx

tessie_bear

i have been feeling as miserable as sin recently and have drawn a lot of comfort from reading the daily thread on the os board...very constant real people it isnt always happy but has such a kindness about it that has as i say bought me great comfort

i hope you are cheering up good luck
tessa

DigForVictory

Late 40s but what on earth are they on about? I've 3 school aged children, happily a full time job to help pay for said children - I just do not have time to be miserable.
Hacked off at points, sure, but full on miserable? I've my family, my health & my work, what on earth dare I grouse about?

VfM4meplse

DigForVictory wrote: »

I just do not have time to be miserable.
Hacked off at points, sure, but full on miserable? I've my family, my health & my work, what on earth dare I grouse about?

No-one is saying its rational, and certainly who would choose to be unhappy?

Working your way back from it is harder than you might think. The small things do help.

pigpen

I'm not grumpy I am just less tolerant of ignorance, rudeness and plain nasty..

On the whole I'm a happy little bunny..

HOWMUCH

Gosh in my forties I'd got young children and working full time and also had a part time job too. I was working 57hrs per week so didn't have time to be grumpy.

melanzana

I haven't seen the show, but I am waaaay beyond the 40s and retired early.

I can be grumpy at times, but so can we all.

However, overall, I now have the freedom to be happy, and I am happy and grump free 99% of the time!

It's all to do with attitude.

Hard_Up_Hester

I've had a difficult few months, still ongoing, but I have been feeling happier for the last few day & I'm hoping to stay that way.
Problems still abound with MIL's will, family member with mental health problems and my own money worries, but I need to find away not to be dragged down because of them.

HOWMUCH

melanzana wrote: »

I haven't seen the show, but I am waaaay beyond the 40s and retired early.

I can be grumpy at times, but so can we all.

However, overall, I now have the freedom to be happy, and I am happy and grump free 99% of the time!

It's all to do with attitude.

It's on Radio 4.
It made me laugh a few weeks ago they were on about the increase of women staying at home and looking after children had increased. They didn't mention why this had happened, my thoughts were is it because of benefits single mums are able to claim or child tax credits and working tax credits may be not worth the mum working. I think it wasn't a very good show to be honest due to the fact they didn't back up their research with facts as to explain why.