Ex partner trying to get money out of me

csgohan4

paddy's_mum wrote: »

I give up!

I did not 'advise' the OP to give the man £5k. I suggested it might be one way to look at what she herself states is a very stressful situation and one that is unlikely to just disappear with the morning mist, especially if there is evidence to support his claim. - So you are suggesting or not??

Nobody want to reward a bully but equally, what is the point of spending thousands of pounds on non-recoverable legal costs and fees if a bit of adroit legal manoeuvring now could short-cut the whole rotten process.- So bullying pays?

If offering a greedy man some dosh in full and final settlement of his claim will avoid perhaps years of aggravation, stress and continuing dread about there it will all end, then I maintain that's a sensible use of money. - How is rewarding threatening behaviour sensible use of money??

Whether such a result would sit well with the OP is another matter entirely but sometimes the unpalatable smooths the way, as many a divorce settlement will testify. I bet the Queen didn't enjoy shaking hands with Gerry Adams and Co but something somewhere had to give before progress could be made. - Settling or fighting will both be unpalatable and stressful, at least fighting you know you will win from what the OP gave in info

At the end of the day, the OP will take as much or as little as she needs from the opinions offered and that is surely the whole point of any discussion.- Being soft is not part of the discussion

OP fight him and let him get what he deserves, a kick up the backside by the judge....


Don't let people roll over you, you determine your own destiny and what journey in life you take, not by others.

Paulinepgibbons01

Perhaps my response came across a bit strong regarding your post Paddy's mum I really appreciate everyone's comments and I admit I had thought exactly the same as You which was to come up with an offer as I do not particularly want this dragging out. There is a lot lot more to my story but I was trying to show examples of what my ex is capable of if he sees £ signs he will do anything if he thinks he will benefit including lying to solicitors and a judge.
I suppose what I really wanted to know is whether the paperwork I hold would be enough to stop him. I'm guessing he is the only one with that answer.
I have appreciated every comment regarding my question its good to see everyone's take on it. I know if it goes to court it will cost me at least £5000, I am seeing a solicitor on Monday so I hope he can offer me some good advice. Again thank you all and if you do have more advice please share it with me

Thrugelmir

Paulinepgibbons01 wrote: »

Again thank you all and if you do have more advice please share it with me

Focus on yourself and not on your ex. Whatever he did will come back to haunt him when the times right. Play the game your way don't get drawn into his.

getmore4less

I think you have to step back.

He was a partner and he was paying more than the share of the costs of living in the place as was also paying rent/contributions on top.

does that give the partner any beneficial interest?

If it could then there is evidence he was paying rent, the dispute then becomes was he a live in partner or a lodger.

all the other things he may or may not have done are side issues.