Im really unhappy in my new job (team)

Nicd1981_2

Iv'e only been in my new team 6 months and have started to consider I've made a mistake.
When I first started the job the lady who sat next to me seemed lovely, within weeks she was being quite abrupt and rude. Two other members of the team also dismissed me, or just blatantly ignored me. Then the lady handed in her notice. It came to light that she had gone for my role but didn't get it.
After she left I thought things began to look up, but then another teem member handed in his notice.
My new boss wasn't around much, so I had to ask team members for advice, help etc as although I'm qualified to do my role its a completely different industry to where I had come from. This became a source of ridicule for me.
My new boss also ridicules me in front of the team, and whenever I ask a question I'm basically asked to shut up (although in a funny way)
My new boss is a really nice guy, none of this is done in an aggressive way. However its emotionally distressing for me , so much so ive found myself sobbing with frustration in the toilets at work as I feel like I'm the'' BUTT'' of jokes. And my confidence is taking a terrible battering.
Before we broke up for Christmas there was a pivotal point where I ended up snapping, as I was again being mocked very publicly when I asked a question about a new task I was being shown. To which my boss said he cant wait for my 1-1.
I'm considering not returning in January, any advice would be greatly appreciated I must add I get on with everybody at work, have great friendships in other departments, just seem to be an outcast in my new team and cant understand why

dktreesea

The team wanted the other lady to get the job is my guess. When she didn't and they discovered you didn't hit the ground running and, in their opinion, are making a worse go of it than they lady who just left would have made, they're taking their frustration out on you.


My advice is look for something else, and be up front, saying you made a mistake when you took on your current job.

Nicd1981_2

Hi, Thanks for your prompt response.
Your exactly right, that's what I've suspected since I started there.
My role is completely different than what she did when she was there, plus ive corrected all her mistakes in the reports I took over from her. But Ive had to ask questions of the team with my boss not being around around and I suspect that's looked like a sign of weakness.
6 Months will look awful on my CV, but I think you may be right and ill have to swallow my pride and leave.

RuthnJasper

Nicd1981 wrote: »

Hi, Thanks for your prompt response.
Your exactly right, that's what I've suspected since I started there.
My role is completely different than what she did when she was there, plus ive corrected all her mistakes in the reports I took over from her. But Ive had to ask questions of the team with my boss not being around around and I suspect that's looked like a sign of weakness.
6 Months will look awful on my CV, but I think you may be right and ill have to swallow my pride and leave.

Good luck - I hope you have better success. It's a horrible situation and they sound like a really poisonous group of people.

It's them with the problems; not you. And probably only a matter of time before they all turn on each other like velociraptors; which will only serve them right.

xapprenticex

Sorry to hear about your situation, dont walk away from it, look for another job and when offered, THEN walk away.

Don't leave yourself out of a job/income because of them, because at the end of the day, its probably what they want.

I think your manager being new is going to join in with the largest group to be 'the man' and liked by more people. Just keep looking.

elsien

You've been there 6 months - was there not a probation period, where you were having supervisions and raising any training needs? Have you previously asked for support formally, and what was the response? If not, then I think you need to raise it (and follow it up with an email if done verbally) so you have a paper trail if you need it.

Your new boss is not a nice guy if he's telling you to shut up, and not being helpful with
your development. It may not be overtly aggressive but it's poor management all the same.

sangie595

Alternatively - because there are always two ways (at least) to look at a situation... Sorry. but you got a job that you had no skills or experience for over someone who did have the skills and experience, but who the new manager found intimidating (probably because she had the skills and experience). You were left, through no fault of your own, asking your staff to help you understand the job you had to do (because no, you weren't qualified to do the job if you had to ask them what to do). This sounds very much like a typical management blaming everyone else for their mistakes. If your predecessor made mistakes, how come they didn't notice? And since she never actually had the job anyway, how come they were her mistakes?

You have people handing in notice and noticeably absent management. Who take the !!!! out of you when present. So no, he isn't a really nice guy. And the problem is not with your team, your colleagues or your ex-colleagues. So I agree, get the hell out of there because the problem is the employer and their management.

pathtofreedom

Depending on the industry you work in is 6 months really that bad? That wouldn't bother me but I guess some industries are different. How big is the company? Could you look on any internal job sites for roles in other teams you could move to so you're with different people. Then it would look like it is longer at the same place if you did another 6 months in another position before you left completely.

Unless you're independently wealthy, it might just be worth looking for another role somewhere else and just leave when you get a new job if it is impacting you that badly. I wouldn't recommend quitting with no other role to go to, unless it is an industry where you can easily freelance like IT, where it might not take long to get a new role to start in Jan.

Nicd1981_2

To Sangie-Ok ill try and answer each of your points one by one.
I'm qualified and have been in a similar role for 8 years. This industry is completely new to me, so of course I have to ask questions. Yes its bad management as I was not trained when I started the role and have asked over and over again for my manager to give me some time to go over my training needs but his answer is always the same that he doesn't have the time.
The mistakes I found from the previous lady where on reports I took over when she left as the team was then a ''MAN'' down we shared her responsibilities between ourselves. I have had to redo the entire financial years reports as there were missing months data , and calculations where incorrect. She didn't do my role, but I have taken part of hers if you understand what I am saying.

Nicd1981_2

Elisien, My probation was 3 months. I didn't complain regarding issues with previous lady as I knew she was leaving anyway. I didn't want to come across as a complainer, and I do love the company. I did tell my boss that there are areas industry specific that I require further training on , and he promised to give me more time which he hasn't. This will be my second 1-1 coming up so ill discuss this with him, I just don't know how to approach it. I wouldn't want to ruin our professional relationship, but its either that or leave and I cant afford to be out of work x

Nicd1981_2

sangie595 wrote: »

Alternatively - because there are always two ways (at least) to look at a situation... Sorry. but you got a job that you had no skills or experience for over someone who did have the skills and experience, but who the new manager found intimidating (probably because she had the skills and experience). You were left, through no fault of your own, asking your staff to help you understand the job you had to do (because no, you weren't qualified to do the job if you had to ask them what to do). This sounds very much like a typical management blaming everyone else for their mistakes. If your predecessor made mistakes, how come they didn't notice? And since she never actually had the job anyway, how come they were her mistakes?

You have people handing in notice and noticeably absent management. Who take the !!!! out of you when present. So no, he isn't a really nice guy. And the problem is not with your team, your colleagues or your ex-colleagues. So I agree, get the hell out of there because the problem is the employer and their management.

I'm not a manager Sangie, I'm a member of staff. A member of the team. I think you have missunderstood