suspension on medical grounds

patman99

You either want your ex punished for the bullying (which should be the correct action) or you want to cancel the grievence and let him off scott-free (he gets away with being a bully and smiles at his 'win', then carries on looking for his next victim).

I hate to say it, but you may not have been his only victim over the years, so push for a proper grievence and make sure he gets what he deserves (even if that means suspension or dismissal). There is no place in the work place for bullies of any kind (even if they bully their victim outside of work hours).

Sure, your workmates will gossip, but only until they have something else to gossip about (and they may even congratulate you for being strong and standing up to him).

jobbingmusician

Can I just clarify, also, that suspension is supposed to be a neutral act. There is nothing derogatory implied to you in the fact that you are still suspended.

I totally understand that you feel continuation of the suspension is having a negative effect on your MH, but looking at it from the employer's POV they want and need to ensure that things are sorted out before you return, so that they are not at any risk of letting you return to an environment which could impact on you badly. THEY have to be the judges of this, to protect themselves as well as you.

FBaby

They have a duty of care towards you. The fact that you are saying that you now can work with him is not good enough considering that 1/ you put a grievance against him and 2/ you are saying that this affected you so much, you became ill for month.

They therefore would be careless to ask you to come back without making sure that it is safe for you to do so. That might be when they have either ascertained that coming back into the team won't affect your mental health again, or they have decided to sack him, however, they can't do that until they have gone through the process and agreed that his actions constituted gross misconduct.

They could of course have you back and suspend him, but maybe they benefit more from his professional input, or they just feel it is too much hassle for the sake of a few weeks, and as they are paying you your full salary, you are not really in a position to complain.