Resigning from my job for the second time in two weeks

92203

Hi Everyone,

I was offered a job a few weeks ago, though declined it on the basis that my current employer immediately matched what I'd been offered. As I am quite happy there and get on with my superiors, I elected to stay.

The other company got in touch with me earlier this week and asked if there is anything they can do to change my mind. I asked for a £16K above their original offer (and what my current employers have matched), and to my shock they delivered.

I am accepting the offer (for career and monetary reasons), however am worried that my employer will take me resigning very badly.

Am I being unreasonable/dishonourable by leaving after agreeing to stay, and am I likely to be perceived that way. It is very important to me that I am able to get good references from them in the future.

I'm also quite worried about what the other company will expect of me for such a large amount of extra money (>£22K in total), so being able to get references from my current employer is essential, just in case things go wrong.

What are people's opinions on this?

Thanks

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TELLIT01

The situation is awkward but you just need to be honest with your current employer. Explain that the other company has made you an offer you simply can't refuse, but stress to your current employer that you aren't telling them that to get them to up their offer again.
My bigger concern is that you don't seem to know what the 'new' company expects of you. Surely all that was explained at interview.

t0rt0ise

Just go. And good luck.

ohreally

92203 wrote: »

Am I being unreasonable/dishonourable by leaving after agreeing to stay, and am I likely to be perceived that way. It is very important to me that I am able to get good references from them in the future.

I think the phrase is "!!!!!! in the nest".

Good luck with this one.

Dan-Dan

ohreally wrote: »

I think the phrase is "!!!!!! in the nest".

Good luck with this one.

or frying pan and fire

tomtontom

You need to speak with the new employer before doing anything. Unless you are currently underpaid, and/ or your role is very specialist, there's got to be more to this generous pay rise. Keep in mind that you have few employment rights in the first two years, you really need to be sure this is the right thing to do.

Unless of course you're already on £500K+, in which case it is a drop in the ocean

amandacat

They have offered you a massive increase in salary. Your current employer should not think badly of you if you explain that after turning down their job offer, they came back with a salary increase that you simply can't refuse.

Firstly, if your current employer matched their offer then they must really value you. Secondly, if your new potential employer offered you such a big jump then they must also see some major potential in you. This means you are an attractive candidate to both parties and deciding to leave after all should not be grounds for a bad reference.

It is unlikely they will provide an unfavourable reference if you go ahead and take this job after all. If they did this, then they are opening up the chance of having you take action against them and no HR department wants to do this. In my company we have a policy to simply give employment dates and roles in references. We don't even include reason for leaving as it is just too much hassle if the employee decides to take us to court. I know many companies have this same policy.

You do need to fully understand what is expected in your new role though before you potentially take it and regret the decision.

getmore4less

Did you even bother to find the market rate for this job.

Both companies have were taking the pee if this rise is the market rate.

As I said in the other thread the current company showed their hand when they only matched the offer, they should have bettered it.

xapprenticex

Dont do anything till the contract has been signed or youll end up with nothing

harryfrombarry_2

Just take the job and go for it. Don't worry what your original company thinks. There is no loyalty in business. If they wanted you out, they wouldn't be worried what you'd think. Everyone wants to improve themselves, and their situation, for their family. Its completely understandable to go.

KiKi

Just go for it. From your other thread you seem to have some specialist skill - and they want you for it. Your current company knew it - and they did nothing more than 'match' the offer. They were silly, they should have offered more.
Do it honestly, and explain the situation - and that you didn't expect the company to make a second offer, but it happened. Tell them you want to stay on good terms; most employers are good about this sort of thing if you're honest about it.
With regards to losing security / signing a contract first - it won't mean anything whether you sign a contract first or not (although of course it's better to). Even if you do sign a contract with the new company, there's no security for the first two years, but they obviously really, really want you, and you already have colleagues there who've said it's a great place to work.
I think you've made the right decision - go for it and don't be surprised if you feel a bit wobbly about the change at first! It's nice to be wanted!
KiKi