Your partner doesn't drive, does it bother you?

DKLS

leeparsons wrote: »

I am sorry to say this, but your comment is offensive!

What a shallow person you are. Perhaps there is a reason they dont drive, like medical conditions. That has nothing to do with drive or ambition. You sound like a gold digger chav! I hope guys realize what you really are!

:rotfl: Chuff me talk about 2+2 = 5,076. I am offended that you found my comment offensive.:rotfl:
For future reference its just pixels on a screen, you should consider mindfulness.

pinpin wrote: »

Are you a guy or a girl?
Not to go off track but i'm just curious.

I've heard of girls be put off of guys due to a 'lack of ambition', but never the other way around (guys being put off of a girl for that reason)

Just one of those things. Venus Vs Mars etc.

I'm a guy and I couldn't care less if a hot girl who has a nice/fun personality has a lack of ambition! lol

For the record: Guy , I tried getting together with women whose only ambition in life was to get knocked up and play housewifey which is nice enough for a week or two but about as arousing and interesting as a wet bank holiday in north wales, for me there is nothing more attractive in a woman than a fierce intellect, sharp wit and drive/ambition to do more with their life.

Thankfully I found a wife who thinks her ovaries are just there to cause her a monthly annoyance, and has bucket fulls of ambition. She can also left foot brake, trail brake, heel n toe and drift a car.

Which like all skills can be learnt and as she has an interest, she is willing to invest time and money to acquire more skills.

Each to their own and all that. Those that are outraged please do feel free to carry on. :rotfl:

pinpin

maman wrote: »

With my ex I would definitely put lack of ambition on the list of why we're no longer together.

Sure. Like I said, I guess it's fairly common in women.
I've been dumped before because I don't have any ambition (or more accurately never had a clue what to do with my life along with being fairly unintelligent gives the same result! )

DKLS wrote: »

For the record: Guy , I tried getting together with women whose only ambition in life was to get knocked up and play housewifey which is nice enough for a week or two but about as arousing and interesting as a wet bank holiday in north wales, for me there is nothing more attractive in a woman than a fierce intellect, sharp wit and drive/ambition to do more with their life.

Thankfully I found a wife who thinks her ovaries are just there to cause her a monthly annoyance, and has bucket fulls of ambition. She can also left foot brake, trail brake, heel n toe and drift a car.

Which like all skills can be learnt and as she has an interest, she is willing to invest time and money to acquire more skills.

Each to their own and all that. Those that are outraged please do feel free to carry on. :rotfl:

Cool. Don't worry, I wasn't outraged . I was just curious.
Like you say, we are all different.

I could literally not care less if some gorgeous girl who I was with just wanted to be a housewife or just wanted to work in a shop for a career for example. Ambition is not a quality that I personally find attractive.
Not to say that I would find such monetary ambition unnattractive (although I can imagine some driven, one-track-minded future business tycoon lady to be hell to live with! ) It's just not on my radar. I'm indifferent towards it.

I'm pretty confident that most of my male friends would share my view, although as I mentioned, I'd also say that most of my female friends would share your view.

DKLS

pinpin wrote: »

Sure. Like I said, I guess it's fairly common in women.
I've been dumped before because I don't have any ambition (or more accurately never had a clue what to do with my life along with being fairly unintelligent gives the same result! )

Cool. Don't worry, I wasn't outraged . I was just curious.
Like you say, we are all different.

I could literally not care less if some gorgeous girl who I was with just wanted to be a housewife or just wanted to work in a shop for a career for example. Ambition is not a quality that I personally find attractive.
Not to say that I would find such monetary ambition unnattractive (although I can imagine some driven, one-track-minded future business tycoon lady to be hell to live with! ) It's just not on my radar. I'm indifferent towards it.

I'm pretty confident that most of my male friends would share my view, although as I mentioned, I'd also say that most of my female friends would share your view.

No worries Pinpin, your post was just curious and I totally agree what rocks one persons world doesn't rock another, my best mate loves big girls and bigger the better :eek: which wasn't to my taste but we made a good team as the majority of chunky monkeys have a skinny mate on a night out.

To be fair I did spend 12 years with a lass who was happy with her lot and had zero ambition, and in hindsight it was 11years and 9 months of my life that was wasted, her only ambition in life was to get DLA for her imaginary conditions and she was over the moon when she heard about fibro.

My first girlfriend, after her was the exact opposite she had 3 porsche's in the garage, her own business and was much better than the ex in every single way possible which was a real eye opener.

Dr._Shoe

My ex didn't drive because he'd always had big powerful motorbikes until he wrote his off shortly before he met me (he was OK though). He had taken a couple of lessons but found driving boring so didn't bother. That didn't stop him from criticising my driving though! I would just shut him up by suggesting that he drives for 23 years without a blameworthy accident before criticising mine LOL.

Pixie5740

Dr._Shoe wrote: »

My ex didn't drive because he'd always had big powerful motorbikes until he wrote his off shortly before he met me (he was OK though). He had taken a couple of lessons but found driving boring so didn't bother. That didn't stop him from criticising my driving though! I would just shut him up by suggesting that he drives for 23 years without a blameworthy accident before criticising mine LOL.

I had a non-driving ex (that I mentioned in a previous post) who would also critisise my driving. He was also a terrible navigator and would tell me to drive the wrong way down a one way street or point out parking spaces on double yellow lines. One day we went to the seaside and I left him there because I'd had enough of his criticism on the way there.

indiepanda

Pixie5740 wrote: »

I had a non-driving ex (that I mentioned in a previous post) who would also critisise my driving. He was also a terrible navigator and would tell me to drive the wrong way down a one way street or point out parking spaces on double yellow lines. One day we went to the seaside and I left him there because I'd had enough of his criticism on the way there.

I don't blame you! My boyfriend doesn't drive but when we go for day trips he's the model passenger, map reads well, changes the CD, always stays awake and thanks me for driving or tells me "well driven" when we arrive. I expect I'd be less tolerant of his non-driving if he was like your ex.

We live about 100 miles apart and it would be nice if he drove so I could get the train to his sometimes and still have a car for day-trips from his place, but it wouldn't really save me any time going by train, and these days I am pretty comfortable driving through busy London traffic to get to the motorway to his. He doesn't expect me to provide the car to use at his either, but I like to be able to get out and explore a bit further than we could walk.

athene

When I first meet my partner I would go on the train to meet him and he would drive 250 miles to see me. Since we live together now that must have worked for us. Now he is unable to drive for health reasons, I do all the driving. That's love for you.

maman

Pixie5740 wrote: »

I had a non-driving ex (that I mentioned in a previous post) who would also critisise my driving. He was also a terrible navigator and would tell me to drive the wrong way down a one way street or point out parking spaces on double yellow lines. One day we went to the seaside and I left him there because I'd had enough of his criticism on the way there.

Oh dear that opens up another can of worms!!


My DH is subtly critical of my driving as I am of his. IMO he's a bit of a tail-gater and I'm apparently incapable of deciding when to turn on the air con/heating ( or so it would seem from him fiddling with the controls).


Maybe having a partner who's a non driver is a positive bonus!!!:rotfl:

onetwothreefourfive

I don't get the assumption here that it is necessary to drive. It depends where you live, and what your priorities are. Admittedly I live in a city and I think it would be harder in the country, but I'm not in London.

For me to get to work the options in order of speed are probably cycle, taxi, bus, walk, drive. I have put drive at the bottom because you have to take into account time finding a parking space, otherwise it might be faster than walking, but I think bus lanes would mean that taxis and buses are faster than cars, and if I cycle I can go places that vehicles can't.

Having a car would be useful for things like going on day trips to the country (but depends where), and for transporting heavy stuff, but in general I don't think it's necessary where I live.

I don't see it as being essential for ferrying children either, my mum never drove when I was growing up, we just used buses (sometimes long and inconvenient bus routes but we survived, or maybe got a taxi if necessary)

I wouldn't care less if my partner drove or not, although I suppose it could be slightly annoying if it I had to always drive someone around, but maybe the solution is to try and move somewhere where it's less of an issue? or maybe the problem with the relationship isn't so much the driving?

Gloomendoom

I have just driven to southern Germany to attend a motor racing event. I'm going to pick up a load of booze on the way back.

It would difficult to do that if I didn't drive.