Feeling low today

vyvyan_2

I don't post very often but I am here every day (often for hours!)

I'm not even asking for advice - just sounding off today.

At work I've been asked to go for a night out before Christmas costing £25 per head. If we all chip in a fiver a month from now it'll be practically paid for. I've had to say no. I know that if pushed I could put in a fiver a month but that would have to come out of 'self spending' and I don't have a budget for that. In reality it would have to come out of the 'food and household expenses'. A fiver a month is not a lot of money but I can't bring myself to spend £25 on a night out. It totally goes against all I am trying to achieve. In my book that is nearly a month's petol or food.

I now feel really rotten and anti-social to boot. I've had to explain that money is really tight for me and I get these incredulous comments 'but it's only a fiver' but people can't see the whole picture. I know most of you can, which is why I'm posting today.

I know I'm being true to myself and doing what is right for me. I put in a lot of effort into managing my money and chipping away at my debt. I am satisfied that I am doing all I can to acheive my long-term goal which is 5 years away.

That's it - thanks for reading - whinge over - most go for now as I'm supposed to be working!

rayday2

I can understand how you feel and if you feel better keeping to your plan then good for you, it probably on the night would not just be £25 there would be drinks etc right near Christmas so I would turn it down too.

Saying that before all this we had never gone on a works xmas do anyway so we must be really unsociable!

supersavershal

£25.00 would only be the start you would want a new outfit, taxi to venue, hair done, and maybe money for drinks.These things always work out to be expensive.In my experience people usually get really drunk at these events and dont know who was there anyway.Im always a bit wary about socialising with my workmates I like to keep my work/social life seperate.Not that im a miserable person I just dont like the workplace buzzing with tales of what I did when drunk.

rog2

No need to feel rotten, vyv. I wonder how many others are in the same position, yet are paying simply because they don't have the courage of their own convictions.
Think of the hangover that you won't have. :beer:

floss2

:hello:

Don't feel rotten about it - as the OP's have said, the £25 is the tip of the iceberg for a Christmas do.

I think you are very strong to stand up & say "no" - at least you know that you have a debt-free date, which is more than a lot of people will know when out on their Christmas parties. :j

JCD_Capulet

Vyv don't let that get you down hon. I've not had a night out in longer than I can remember, and the last time I did go out my friends ended up buying me drinks because they know my financial position. You're not alone in how you feel, don't forget that.
I've been with my boyfriend now for six months and we've only been seen out together at a club once. It's hard for us both in our new relationship because we're both unemployed and can't treat achother the way we'd like to.
Just remember, once your DFD come's around you'll be completely free to do the things you want to when you want to x
your current situation isn't going to last forever hon x

vyvyan_2

Thanks guys - I've just popped back and seen all your encouraging replies. I had fogotten about the 'extras' such as drinks etc. let alone feeling mortified in my 'best jeans' and favourite t-shirt, so I feel more resolved now. lol

Where I work they always seem to be upgrading their phones and cars etc. going on exotic holdays and coming back with mahogany suntans. Nice enough bunch, but out of my league and I feel a bit out of place sometimes. Lucky for me all these holidays means there has been plenty of overtime available due to holiday cover and greedy me has done enough to pay for my car tax due end of this month £115 out right! Satisfied moi?

Re Christmas bash I would much rather go out for a couple of halves than an organised 'do' but maybe that's just me.

Just don't mention the 'C' word again to me today (Christmas I mean)
Once again thanks for your support :beer:

rayday2

We wish you a merry Christmas
We wish you a merry Christmas
We wish you a merry Christmas
And a Happy New Year

oops did I mention the c word

vyvyan_2

Thanks for that rayday2 ! :rotfl:

immoral_angeluk

Well done for standing up to them. DOn't let anyone pressure you into anything. x

tesuhoha

The fault is not yours but those people who say it is only a fiver. I have the same thing myself at work and they make you feel really mean and often I give in when I don't even want to go, much less spend the money. They make out that its such a big thing and youre so mean and missing out on a good night out and then when you get there they completely ignore you and would not have noticed if you hadnt been there anyway and its boring and a complete waste of time and youd rather be home watching the tv. If you get what I mean.