Saying I'm not single

Justaperson

Thanks for the replys so far.

He has text me back saying that he does in fact have a bank account ( I wasn't aware of this)
Which is registered to his grand house. He said he only online banks but will go into the bank on Monday and get me a statement with address on.

Should this be enough evidence? He is not on the electoral role or paying council tax anywhere. The only things he has registered is a driving licence which he says is lost and this bank account.

georgiasdragons

I would say a bank statement is proof but he will need more than 1 month. They will probably ask for few months.

I don't get why they expect you to provide his proof. Only all your bills and bank etc In your own name.

Some ex partners could be difficult in this scenario

Justaperson

I doubt he will give me a few months worth, he doesn't want me knowing his business,. He said the bank can give him a short print out but will have his grans address on it and be stamped from bank.

I asked him to send for a replacement driving licence but he says no as he doesn't want to spend the money.

I suspect hes worried about his gran and mums benefits as he is not supposed to be living there either, and quite possibly because he works casually too.

I am so worried I feel like I cannot think about anything else!

bloolagoon

Justaperson wrote: »

He comes to my home to collect the children, he rarely comes inside and never stays over.

The helpline advisor confirmed it was from credit files and I have not denied I obtained credit in his name to them, I just didn't know it would lead to this mess.

My ex knows I did it, the kids needed new beds, he never gives me money and I didn't have the cash to buy them outright so that seemed ok to do at the time.

Do you not know where he takes your children especially if disabled. Can the school help I assume they see you both separately at school occasions given his violence.

sangie595

Justaperson wrote: »

He comes to my home to collect the children, he rarely comes inside and never stays over.

The helpline advisor confirmed it was from credit files and I have not denied I obtained credit in his name to them, I just didn't know it would lead to this mess.

My ex knows I did it, the kids needed new beds, he never gives me money and I didn't have the cash to buy them outright so that seemed ok to do at the time.

Maybe I am missing something here, but isn't obtaining credit in the name of someone else ALSO fraud? Just because it seemed ok to you doesn't mean that it was. He didn't obtain the credit, and he didn't apply for it. You did. And you must have legally signed for it in his name. That is forgery, deception and fraud. If he was ok with you doing it - he should have done it. I just don't see how this could end happily.

Justaperson

He never has them over night just one day a fortnight and this is usually a trip to the cinema or park for a total of around four hours.

My ex was fully aware I applied for the catalogue account and fine with it.

rogerblack

zagfles wrote: »

Really? Even if he knew nothing about the claim?

If I was feeling better I'd dig up the citations.

In short - from what I recall, and starting from the presumption that they are in fact living together, then he is expected to be other than wilfully blind to where his partners income is coming from.
This is even assuming it is not held that he knew of the fraud actively, or participated knowingly in it.

Icequeen99

rogerblack wrote: »

If I was feeling better I'd dig up the citations.

In short - from what I recall, and starting from the presumption that they are in fact living together, then he is expected to be other than wilfully blind to where his partners income is coming from.
This is even assuming it is not held that he knew of the fraud actively, or participated knowingly in it.

Well for tax credits at least - there is no way they could prosecute him or go after him for the overpayment. The legislation doesn't allow it - the single claimant is responsible for the claim solely.

I highly doubt whether DWP could do anything either.

IQ

poppasmurf_bewdley

If you have children, what information does the school hold for emergency contact, etc?

One of the first stops in this sort of enquiry is checking with schools to see what names and addresses are given for emergency contacts. If the school still lists your husband as a contact at your address, that will certainly work against you.

FBaby

My school doesn't ask for that level of information, only the address of the main resident and contact details of the other parent, but only email/phone. They don't have an address for my kids' dad.