Saying I'm not single

Justaperson

He comes to my home to collect the children, he rarely comes inside and never stays over.

The helpline advisor confirmed it was from credit files and I have not denied I obtained credit in his name to them, I just didn't know it would lead to this mess.

My ex knows I did it, the kids needed new beds, he never gives me money and I didn't have the cash to buy them outright so that seemed ok to do at the time.

Icequeen99

Justaperson wrote: »

He comes to my home to collect the children, he rarely comes inside and never stays over.

The helpline advisor confirmed it was from credit files and I have not denied I obtained credit in his name to them, I just didn't know it would lead to this mess.

My ex knows I did it, the kids needed new beds, he never gives me money and I didn't have the cash to buy them outright so that seemed ok to do at the time.

You may have a difficult time initially with this because HMRC are likely to say they can't place him anywhere else and you are saying there is no proof he is anywhere else. All financial data links him only to his address.

Also, you are the one who told the finance company for the credit that he lived at your address, but now you are saying you lied about that.

You need to send in everything you have to show you are single and let HMRC make their decision.

In the meantime, you should ensure he changes his driving licence and gets himself registered somewhere else and starts to pay you some maintenance.

IQ

Justaperson

Thanks iq.

I know it was very silly I can see that now but I just didn't think anything of it at the time, since I was made redundant I just can't afford anything outwith normal expenses like food and bills.

Do you think what I have sent is enough?

I have text asking him if he reg with a doctor or dentist to see if he can get me a letter from them, would that be acceptable?

He doesn't want to help me though.

Topcat1982

Justaperson wrote: »

I have text asking him if he reg with a doctor or dentist to see if he can get me a letter from them, would that be acceptable?

He doesn't want to help me though.

He needs to take this seriously. There was income support as well so you could be prosecuted for benefit fraud. Does he want you to go to jail. How would he look after kids with no address? Get him to hand over as many things as possible

Justaperson

Yes he does but unfortunately not everyone reacts logically to these situations.

Without going into details in the past my ex was very abusive towards me and the police have been involved, he's not a nice person and it's hard to get him to do anything he doesn't want to.

That is why I am so worried because I don't think he will give me anything.

rogerblack

Topcat1982 wrote: »

He needs to take this seriously. There was income support as well so you could be prosecuted for benefit fraud. Does he want you to go to jail. How would he look after kids with no address? Get him to hand over as many things as possible

'you and him'.

If the OP is held to be cohabiting with the ex, then the ex is likely to be jointly responsible for the overpayment, as they were living together.

zagfles

rogerblack wrote: »

'you and him'.

If the OP is held to be cohabiting with the ex, then the ex is likely to be jointly responsible for the overpayment, as they were living together.

Really? Even if he knew nothing about the claim?

HappyMJ

Topcat1982 wrote: »

He needs to take this seriously. There was income support as well so you could be prosecuted for benefit fraud. Does he want you to go to jail. How would he look after kids with no address? Get him to hand over as many things as possible

That's probably exactly what he wants to get custody of the kids then get housed by council.

Icequeen99

rogerblack wrote: »

'you and him'.

If the OP is held to be cohabiting with the ex, then the ex is likely to be jointly responsible for the overpayment, as they were living together.

Can you provide a link to something saying that?

The person making the claim is the only person legally liable for the claim.

IQ

FBaby

If he is so unwilling to help, than maybe you could stop helping with the car too? Is it a motability car?

Where is he registered to vote? 3 years is a very long time to not settle anywhere. I very much doubt that a letter from GP or Dentist would help. How could they say they have evidence that he doesn't live with you?