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rose28454

fairclaire wrote: »

Not sure I can offer advice exactly Rose but didn't want to read and run.

It's hard to know what to say without knowing how close you are to your son. An email seems a bit impersonal though. Are you on good enough terms to talk to him in person? Or perhaps by phone?
I wouldn't personally make a big deal about the birthday if it was me. Some people place more importance on occasions than others. I'd be happy if everyone forgot my birthday :cool: But that's just me.

We all do our best for our kids. We hope that it will give them the tools to make the most out of life. Ultimately what they chose to do with those tools is down to them. Be blunt about the money (in a non argumentative way) If he's earning enough to pay you back then he should.

As for your worries about the alcohol. Do you think your OH might be the best person to maybe talk to him about it? You will know better than anyone that he won't listen to anyone about it of he doesn't want to but it's something you are aware of and it might help if someone had a chat to him.

I am quite close to him and he calls me every couple of days. He gets a little stressed if things are not right with us at home ( i.e. when his sister took the overdose ) like he cant cope. Its like he wants to put all bad things in a box and not open it. And I can understand it as things were tough for him and his sister growing up as I should have walked away and I didnt. But I think your right I am going to call about the money and let his Dad call him about the drinking as he usually lets me do everything.
Thanks for the reply and hope all goes well with DS2 and the problems at school. My DD was bullied at school and I am afraid as I was so desperately trying to keep her Dad sober I missed many of the signs.
On the plus side we have the wedding to look forward to and we are of shopping for Wedding shoes for her next week.

In other news I got myself a rowing machine on EBay yesterday for 99p! No one else bid for it.

Suzysnowball

rose28454 wrote: »

I am looking for a bit of advice.
As some of you know my OH and I split because of his alcoholism ( although he is 6 years dry now and we are on good terms). It had an effect on my grown up children and I do worry a bit about my son who drinks quite a lot socially. At the weekend DD went with her fiance and brother to stay the night as the brother was running the marathon and DS lives near Greenwich. I spoke to DS earlier in the evening and he sounded a bit tipsy but when DD arrived he answered the door very wobbly and promptly fell and banged his head and she put him to bed in the recovery position as he was so drunk. She was upset and mortified that once again she had to put one of her family to bed drunk ( she did it with her Dad a few times ). His wife had called her earlier to say he was drunk and on the way home but she stayed at the pub. It appears that his wife doesnt like us staying as my sister and I stayed a few months ago and she was quite rude.

Also DD reminded him it was my birthday on Tuesday but no card came and I finally got a call at 3.00p.m. even though he was home that day. I am very disappointed and upset as I worked hard for my children and we paid for him to go to private school but he doesnt seem to have learn any manners.

So question is would it be ok to send him an email to express my disappointment or do I call him. He also owes me over £800.00 for some things I paid for him but makes no effort to pay me even though he knows I have just taken a large drop in income and he earns over £35000.

Be careful Rose, maybe bring it up in a conversation about the alcohol and you hope he is careful especially with his Dad's addiction and then leave it. Plant the seed and then step back.
As for the money - definitely bring it up and say you need it for a new item ... Washing machine, car repairs, whatever a little fib won't hurt. Say he could pay half now and half ext month if it would help - good luck - Children are Children forever whatever age lol xx

Enterprise_1701C

rose28454 wrote: »

I am quite close to him and he calls me every couple of days. He gets a little stressed if things are not right with us at home ( i.e. when his sister took the overdose ) like he cant cope. Its like he wants to put all bad things in a box and not open it. And I can understand it as things were tough for him and his sister growing up as I should have walked away and I didnt. But I think your right I am going to call about the money and let his Dad call him about the drinking as he usually lets me do everything.
Thanks for the reply and hope all goes well with DS2 and the problems at school. My DD was bullied at school and I am afraid as I was so desperately trying to keep her Dad sober I missed many of the signs.
On the plus side we have the wedding to look forward to and we are of shopping for Wedding shoes for her next week.

In other news I got myself a rowing machine on EBay yesterday for 99p! No one else bid for it.

Wow, I would love a rowing machine, especially for 99p! Rowing is hard work, if it is anything like it is in real life on the machine then be careful not to overdo it :eek:

rose28454

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

Wow, I would love a rowing machine, especially for 99p! Rowing is hard work, if it is anything like it is in real life on the machine then be careful not to overdo it :eek:

I use one at the gym and I have just got a new programme where I do 5 minutes with every minute split into 30 seconds going hell for leather and 30 seconds going slow. I have to go a few miles to collect it but there is an Asda on the way and I have an APG expiring tommorow so am going to kill 2 birds with one stone.

rose28454

Suzysnowball wrote: »

Be careful Rose, maybe bring it up in a conversation about the alcohol and you hope he is careful especially with his Dad's addiction and then leave it. Plant the seed and then step back.
As for the money - definitely bring it up and say you need it for a new item ... Washing machine, car repairs, whatever a little fib won't hurt. Say he could pay half now and half ext month if it would help - good luck - Children are Children forever whatever age lol xx

I am going to take FC'S advice and let his Dad speak to him about the drinking. I am quite happy for him to set up a monthly standing order to pay me back. He knows I have a wedding to pay for and he is not short of money as they both earn a lot of money and eat out at least 2 or 3 times a week and seem to spend the whole weekend out somewhere. DD owes me a small amount ands religiously pays me £20 - £30.00 per week even though she does not earn much! Kids what are they like.

Enterprise_1701C

rose28454 wrote: »

I use one at the gym and I have just got a new programme where I do 5 minutes with every minute split into 30 seconds going hell for leather and 30 seconds going slow. I have to go a few miles to collect it but there is an Asda on the way and I have an APG expiring tommorow so am going to kill 2 birds with one stone.

You should be a stick insect doing that!!!! That is seriously hard work.

Used to go rowing on the Avon as a child, had an aunt and uncle there, and I remember myself and my brother rowing desperately as we got rather too close to a weir :eek:

Sounds like you might make back what it costs you anyway, I just hope they are not the sort of ebayer that decides it has not gone for enough and they will not sell it to you:o

What I love doing is watching people that have never rowed before, they think it is so simple and no work at all :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: same with sailing, I have only ever sailed a small dingy, but people think they can get into a catamaran with no experience, in the sea no less, and just scud around :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

andi123

Morning. Has anyone got the b/c for the 2p dettol please also is it worth me testing dove today? Tia

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mrsmac10

Suzysnowball wrote: »

Be careful Rose, maybe bring it up in a conversation about the alcohol and you hope he is careful especially with his Dad's addiction and then leave it. Plant the seed and then step back.
As for the money - definitely bring it up and say you need it for a new item ... Washing machine, car repairs, whatever a little fib won't hurt. Say he could pay half now and half ext month if it would help - good luck - Children are Children forever whatever age lol xx

Rose you have good advice from many i would just add steer away from emails They can be hard to read as in the intent of the words and they can be stored forever

Take care and good luck x

rose28454

Enterprise_1701C wrote: »

You should be a stick insect doing that!!!! That is seriously hard work.

Used to go rowing on the Avon as a child, had an aunt and uncle there, and I remember myself and my brother rowing desperately as we got rather too close to a weir :eek:

Sounds like you might make back what it costs you anyway, I just hope they are not the sort of ebayer that decides it has not gone for enough and they will not sell it to you:o

What I love doing is watching people that have never rowed before, they think it is so simple and no work at all :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: same with sailing, I have only ever sailed a small dingy, but people think they can get into a catamaran with no experience, in the sea no less, and just scud around :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I am not a stick insect but have managed to keep 3 of the 3st 10 lb I lost in 2013 but am struggling to lose the 10lb I put back on. Had a gentle workout programme but decided to step it up as I like my food so think more exercise is the answer. The ebayer just emailed me and say to pay by PayPal and he gave me his address to pick it up tommorow night.