OH surrendered debit card!

evab_2

Hi all,

I have had a bit of a problem with DH constantly spending despite my best efforts to stick to a budget and also 'earn' little bits extra by doing surveys and using Quidco. Things came to a head this weekend when for the second weekend running he has spent a fortune on booze and takeaway, last weekend was because family visited and this weekend was a nightmare as it was the anniversary of a friends death whilst in the army (always a bad time for him as friend was right next to him when he died).

So he has been drunk for the last four days, missed work yesterday and today (currently in bed puking his guts up - ahhh good!). He finally gave me his debit card to hide so that he only has the £15 per week spending money we agreed, any thoughts on how not to make him feel like a kid - even though I want to?

SOA is fine on paper more income than outgoings but his spending has caused us to be -£400 in bank account and have had charges of £320 which I am reclaiming.

I know it's not a huge debt, but how do others deal with a not so MSE partner?

Thanks for listening!

southernscouser

I'd send the kids in with saucepans and lids and tell them to go wake daddy up.

evab_2

lol unfortunately dd at childminder but I think my persistent cough is driving him mad!

rayday2

Personally I would cut up surrendered card because it is probably just a bit of drunken remorse and he will want it back.

You could budget in like spending money for him and give him some money weekly but you would have to be strong to any objections or whinings he has.

He may have had tragedy in his life but so many of us do and turning to drink makes a huge problem sounds like he needs some tough love and less excuses he has a family.