Quit job after 3 days

Running_On_Empty

In your next job you need to develop some stamina and make sure you stick it out. In my experience, it takes six weeks to settle into a new job. Three days is pathetic, i am sorry to say and your 'issues' are simply a poor excuse to gain sympathy. Stop being a slacker and go out tomorrow and get yourself a job. As you say, there are plenty of minorities finding work so you in your very privileged position of being in a majority of white, straight, males should have no problem. 100 years ago, chaps like you were going into battle every day in appalling conditions and doing it willingly.

ettddan_2

Running on Empty. I'll say it once. My anger problem isn't a way of sympathy. It's telling it like it is. Some people are built to take stress really well but some aren't. Unfortunately, I fall under the latter and I rather wish I didn't.

Also, I'm not a slacker. I'm really trying desperately to find a better job and one that I can stick to. You're just going to use this as a 'quick fire' response to back up your claim of my being a "sympathy seeker", but whatever. Use it however you will. Being bullied all the way through school hasn't really left me with the most confident of personalities. When you aren't confident, you get targeted by customers and that isn't the greatest feeling in the world. It is only something I'd of not dealt with very well to begin with. As I say, I was told I'd be doing day shifts, however that turned out to be untrue as they failed to let me know at interview stage that it would be nights only.

superhooper1972

Yes OP you need an attitude change. You know I am in my forties now and started work at 14. At 16 I was getting up with the birds at 5am working as a postal cadet with 1 break.

Then various shift work jobs some of them 12 hour days/nights. Not to mention the factory where I had to strip paint from panels using acid that would burn your face to the bone if mishandled. Then climbing ladders in the freezing cold before settling on pest control which I love.

So whinging won't win you friends on here. All of us have had to deal with things we would rather not have had to do. Its called life deal with it and change that bad attitude.

missbiggles1

ettddan wrote: »

duchy, Maybe you're taking this the wrong way. Maybe you're actualy good with all of that stuff like minimum breaks and stress and bars and stuff. Some however, aren't. It's much easier saying that it's a walk in the park and comparing passive aggressive attitude to that of a child in a tantrum. Some people have mental health problems and it's hard to let go of anger for some. Maybe I've just been so sick of the way I've experienced things that THAT is what made me the person I am today. Maybe I'm just so fed up of being given all the !!!! to deal with that I think no more to it. Everyone has their own limitation, as do you. I didn't say there would be a perfect job. If I got a job in an office for the rest of my life with stress, I could cope with that kind of stress. But I don't do nights out. I don't mingle well with crowds of antisocial people. In terms of the Wetherspoons job, I went in blindly. I thought I would get the day shift as that IS what I had applied for. I know I would've had the odd night shift, but 6 to 2am every night? Especially when I don't have the transport? I literally wasn't told any of this before, during or after the interview. I was literally told this on that night. It's a case of finding a realistic job and then sticking with it. We've all been there.

So, didn't you realise that Wetherspoons was a pub?

Running_On_Empty

Arguing with people on here is not going to make you any friends and is yet another example of poor attitude which, frankly, you must address and change otherwise you will not deal with what life is about.

duchy

Sweetie no-one is "good at" minimum breaks and less than adequate training -but the grown ups get on with it.

Why should Wetherspoons waste valuable resources on people who can't deal with a busy enviroment, can't hack minimum breaks, slam things down in temper and can't see bottles on a shelf without prompting -and walk out within three days ......Maybe the pub you've worked in sees a lot of this so throws people in the deep end - and then spend the time and money training those who actually have an aptitude for the role.

I had all the training I needed (and more) in various pub chains when I needed the flexibility that bar work offered - but never was any of that training significant in the first few days - It is called sorting the wheat from the chaff. I've done it myself as a manager in leisure establishments - Why would I waste my time giving a lengthy training to a loser who quits after a couple of days? Far better to show them the basics -and keep an eye on them -and if they show an aptitude and stay (and don't smash things up in temper) train them -(and remember training isn't just about new starts it is also about development of existing staff). As well as training pub managers also need to do all the HR stuff, pay roll data entry, ordering, cashing up , head office communication , stock control - and a thousand other things- it isn't just about your needs.

An employee is in any job a small cog in a much bigger wheel and your perceived needs won't always coincide with the needs of the business on a day to day basis. Pubs tend to be very busy in the day too 12 til 3pm is often flat out - and in some ways more of a challenge than evenings where drink is the focus as there's a big demand for food - and very time sensitive as most people are on a lunch break (and as you've already mentioned not everyone gets an hour) plus lots of stock replenishment and cleaning . Your image of daytimes having less to do wasn't really realistic -in many ways evenings are easier as there is "only" the serving at the bar and keeping the glasses down to deal with ! No deliveries to deal with, no prep to do etc.

I'm definitely NOT a bar person but bar work met my needs for needing to earn whilst caring for my Mum who was frail and my young disabled son. Sometimes a job isn't what you want but it serves a purpose. No job is going to be perfect but any kind of work experience is going to help you find a job you like better for. Had you stuck out Spoons you'd have had "Ability to learn new skills, Food Hygiene, teamwork, cash handling etc" to add to your CV - all of which are transferrable skills as well as demonstrating to your next employer that you are reliable and have a good work ethic.

As for "It's unfaaaaaaair" Well yes sometimes life isn't fair and part of being an adult is accepting that and moving past that situation and improving your lot. Instead you've ended up unemployed and with a possible sanction.

ettddan wrote: »

duchy, Maybe you're taking this the wrong way. Maybe you're actualy good with all of that stuff like minimum breaks and stress and bars and stuff. Some however, aren't. It's much easier saying that it's a walk in the park and comparing passive aggressive attitude to that of a child in a tantrum. Some people have mental health problems and it's hard to let go of anger for some. Maybe I've just been so sick of the way I've experienced things that THAT is what made me the person I am today. Maybe I'm just so fed up of being given all the !!!! to deal with that I think no more to it. Everyone has their own limitation, as do you. I didn't say there would be a perfect job. If I got a job in an office for the rest of my life with stress, I could cope with that kind of stress. But I don't do nights out. I don't mingle well with crowds of antisocial people. In terms of the Wetherspoons job, I went in blindly. I thought I would get the day shift as that IS what I had applied for. I know I would've had the odd night shift, but 6 to 2am every night? Especially when I don't have the transport? I literally wasn't told any of this before, during or after the interview. I was literally told this on that night. It's a case of finding a realistic job and then sticking with it. We've all been there.

And to add, you'd be surprised at the amount of training. You've got food and drink health and safety to do, then health and safety in general of the bar, customer satisfaction, service. We were told it would've been at least 3 hours worth of theoretical training. It's not that part that I'm getting at. But really, the fact that I find it rather unfair they shove us on a very busy shift at first without training.

silverwhistle

ettddan wrote: »

And how is that? I mentioned before that I'm neither homophobic or racist because most of my friends are of homosexual orientation or of different race.

The point is that sexual orientation or race isn't relevant to this topic specifically. What IS relevant, is that big corporations aren't as equal as they'd have us believe, because they don't want bad press. They want to be seen as an equal company who hire anyone and everyone. It's all well and good that they are hiring people who're gay, straight, lesbian, black, white, asian, disabled etc... I'm all for that, but it would be nice to for them to also be fair in their decision based on a character who is any of the above with a vast knowledge of products, the company history and how they are to deal with customers.

What the heck was that post all about, has a post been deleted?

Either way, giving up after 3 days is not good, however you look at it. Tell yourself that you're going to give something a fair chance, even if it isn't ideal. At the moment you're just coming across as a victim, and being happy to be a victim. Be stroppy, stand up for your rights but never say "I can't do this" or "I'm a victim of circumstances".

System

I started off glass collecting when i got my job in a nightclub, after sticking that out for a few weeks (and lots of people didn't, theyd walk after one shift as they thought themselves above glass collecting) i progressed to the bar, i was basically taught how to pull a pint and how to pour a spirit then chucked on a busy bar 5 mins later on a saturday night.

was it easy? No. Was it stressful? yes. Did i quit? No, i just persevered and got on with it, gradually it got easier and i ended u ebing there for 2 years and got trained on 2 other departments.

Whilst i under stand your frustration, sometimes you have to stick things out, nobody know everything to begin with, though people you were working alongside most likely were in the exact same position as you to start with.

TrickyWicky

Wyndham wrote: »

So, you wouldn't go back to a call center, and now you're not sure about bar work and are looking to quit? I'm not saying these are the best jobs in the world, but you're coming across a bit as if you don't really want to work....

Here we go.. two jobs didn't work out for whatever reason in this day of governmental pro-screw-the-employee and you determined that the op sounds like they don't want to work :mad:

Some jobs just don't work well for some people and frankly if its not right, there is no point "sticking it out" and making yourself ill.

I've had great jobs, i've had **** jobs but i've also stuck out some of those **** jobs and suffered for it big time. It's never nice breaking down at work repeatedly.

It's usually those who aren't doing the grotty jobs who for some reason, think they're the ones that have the right to frown and insist other people stay with it which is crazy.

p00hsticks

silverwhistle wrote: »

What the heck was that post all about, has a post been deleted?

Yes - OP has deleted a post (probably because, as 'ohreally' succinctly put it, it made him "come across as a bit of a prat")