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fairclaire

I've had to think about this very carefully before answering. It a reply to a PM I got that I don't feel the need to keep private.

Yes, I do feel guilty and I don't need reminding that my Husband fought for his country.

My husband has had the very best of care available and more. He has had the most supportive family anyone could ever need. All good stuff but only useful if you realise you have to use that to help yourself. All the people in the world can help you....but you won't get better unless you use it to help yourself.

No I'm not doing my kids out of a Dad. I have chosen to do what I've done over the years. My kids didn't choose to be in the position they are in. They have very little childhood left and IVE made the decision that it should be a peaceful and worry free time for them. Yes, they will still love, care about and worry about their dad......but their worst nightmares......which, trust me!, are real, won't happen.

it might sound to you like I'm abandoning a war hero. I'm not. I'm making a choice between someone who has given up and people who have a whole life in front of them. It's a no brainer.

There's no animosity or dis-harmony. He knows he crossed the line. He knows what's he's done and is still doing to his kids. He knows I'd get torn and put the kids first. The kids will see him whenever and as much as they like.....it's not a big contentious break up. I will deal with his affairs because he wants me to continue doing that. I'll always make sure he's looked after. I won't have my kids getting up in the night checking like I've done for years......there's no need for a whole family of mini suicide watchers

I welcome all views and opinions but I don't feel the need to answer this privately. I hope that is sufficient

David.

braveheart60uk wrote: »

Nah, I know the sequence, dark grey, grey and light grey

Ive had this conversation before on here and in real life :eek:when printing
MoneySavingExpert.com is in red and no matter what your eyes see if someone at an early age says that is red then whatever colour you see it as it is red to you.
So how does this colour blindness work or is it that you can not differentiate between what I see as red and green for example

David.

fairclaire wrote: »

I've had to think about this very carefully before answering. It a reply to a PM I got that I don't feel the need to keep private.

Yes, I do feel guilty and I don't need reminding that my Husband fought for his country.

My husband has had the very best of care available and more. He has had the most supportive family anyone could ever need. All good stuff but only useful if you realise you have to use that to help yourself. All the people in the world can help you....but you won't get better unless you use it to help yourself.

No I'm not doing my kids out of a Dad. I have chosen to do what I've done over the years. My kids didn't choose to be in the position they are in. They have very little childhood left and IVE made the decision that it should be a peaceful and worry free time for them. Yes, they will still love, care about and worry about their dad......but their worst nightmares......which, trust me!, are real, won't happen.

it might sound to you like I'm abandoning a war hero. I'm not. I'm making a choice between someone who has given up and people who have a whole life in front of them. It's a no brainer.

There's no animosity or dis-harmony. He knows he crossed the line. He knows what's he's done and is still doing to his kids. He knows I'd get torn and put the kids first. The kids will see him whenever and as much as they like.....it's not a big contentious break up. I will deal with his affairs because he wants me to continue doing that. I'll always make sure he's looked after. I won't have my kids getting up in the night checking like I've done for years......there's no need for a whole family of mini suicide watchers

I welcome all views and opinions but I don't feel the need to answer this privately. I hope that is sufficient

You could have answered that via pm to me :eek:

fairclaire

David. wrote: »

You could have answered that via pm to me :eek:

I felt the need to expose you

feeling naked?

braveheart60uk

fairclaire wrote: »

I've had to think about this very carefully before answering. It a reply to a PM I got that I don't feel the need to keep private.

Yes, I do feel guilty and I don't need reminding that my Husband fought for his country.

My husband has had the very best of care available and more. He has had the most supportive family anyone could ever need. All good stuff but only useful if you realise you have to use that to help yourself. All the people in the world can help you....but you won't get better unless you use it to help yourself.

No I'm not doing my kids out of a Dad. I have chosen to do what I've done over the years. My kids didn't choose to be in the position they are in. They have very little childhood left and IVE made the decision that it should be a peaceful and worry free time for them. Yes, they will still love, care about and worry about their dad......but their worst nightmares......which, trust me!, are real, won't happen.

it might sound to you like I'm abandoning a war hero. I'm not. I'm making a choice between someone who has given up and people who have a whole life in front of them. It's a no brainer.

There's no animosity or dis-harmony. He knows he crossed the line. He knows what's he's done and is still doing to his kids. He knows I'd get torn and put the kids first. The kids will see him whenever and as much as they like.....it's not a big contentious break up. I will deal with his affairs because he wants me to continue doing that. I'll always make sure he's looked after. I won't have my kids getting up in the night checking like I've done for years......there's no need for a whole family of mini suicide watchers

I welcome all views and opinions but I don't feel the need to answer this privately. I hope that is sufficient

You sound very reasonable and of course a loving mother who wants to protect her children. No one should be expected to stay with a partner who is not good for them or their children.
There is no excuse for hurting those who love you, you are doing the right thing, giving your children a future and not letting them be "hurt" by enotional turmoil.
You have done the right thing and I am sure everyone will agree with me

Sakura10

another Carex

14 items (11 different) on your bill qualify for comparison ASDA Tesco
+£6.35

0.01 x ASDA Carrots by Weight per kg £0.00 £0.00
0.02 x ASDA Mushrooms by Weight per kg £0.04 £0.05
0.12 x ASDA Onions by Weight per kg £0.09 £0.09
0.18 x ASDA Red Onions by Weight per kg £0.13 £0.15
0.01 x ASDA Broccoli by Weight per kg £0.01 £0.01
1 x ASDA Shades Softest Ever White Bathroom Tissue - 2... £1.75 £1.00
2 x Carex Original Protecting Antibacterial Handwash (... £3.56 £1.80
2 x Carex Antibacterial Moisturising Sensitive Antibac... £3.56 £1.80
2 x Carex Moisture Plus Hydrating Antibacterial Handwa... £3.56 £1.80
1 x Candyland Flumps Mallow Twists (12g) £0.10 £0.10
1 x ASDA Chosen by You Giant White Mice Bar (15g) £0.05 N/A
1 x ASDA Smartprice Clear Fruits (250g) £0.65 N/A
1 x ASDA Chosen by You Chinese Takeaway Prawn Crackers... £0.50 £0.15

Comparison total (compared products only) £13.30 £6.95

braveheart60uk

fairclaire wrote: »

I felt the need to expose you

feeling naked? :-D

Is there an magnifying glass included?

David.

fairclaire wrote: »

I felt the need to expose you

feeling naked? :-D

You going to show the photos :j:j
Get ready folks next doors garden is approaching fast :rotfl:

David.

braveheart60uk wrote: »

Is there an magnifying glass included?

Yours eyes are dodgy anyway we already know

braveheart60uk

David. wrote: »

Yours eyes are dodgy anyway we already know

Touche!
:beer: