Wife's 30th birthday

Lily-Rose_3

Flumina wrote: »

If the OP comes back I'd love to know what handbag this is that costs £1700 :eek:

They do exist.

Just google it. Some are worth much more than that. Plenty of £10,000 to £30,000 handbags for those with more money than sense!

BarryBlue

tea_lover wrote: »

I would splash out on divorce papers for her birthday - expensive but well worth it in the long run.

^ ^ ^ ^ This!


It will be money far better spent. You are in debt and she thinks she needs a £1700 handbag. I think you need a new wife.;)

themull1

Idiophreak wrote: »

Personally, I think it's time to ditch the "her debt"..."my income" etc...you're married, !!!!!!...You're a couple.

Know the whole "what's mine is yours" thing...that kinda covers debt, as well as "your" precious savings...

So, it's time for you to *both* take control of your *joint* finances and get this sorted. As a couple, you having savings and her having debts makes little sense...It will be costing you money and keeping you further away from getting a mortgage in your own right.

Time to get a joint account, sort the household finances from there, give yourselves a set amount of pocket money to spend each month then throw whatever's left into her debt until it isn't there any more.

As a couple, you have a debt problem. Time to tackle it as a couple.

As for the handbag? Time to remind her you're her husband, not her baby sitter.

I disagree - i've been married three times and i certainly didnt have our debts!! I didnt have any debt, i'm not taking anyone elses on. If husband had debt, thats his problem, sorry. No joint account, we each split the bills but have our seperate accounts. And if i did have savings, i wouldn't spend them on servicing someone elses debt. Marriage is a partnership, but you certainly don't have to pool everything to be in one! Or lose out. Once bitten, twice shy etc....

Bogof_Babe

Buy her a TK Maxx gift card for what you can afford and tell her to put it towards a handbag, as they have lots and lots in there, some of which are even designer labels. Better still, take her out for lunch then go around TK Maxx together, so she feels you really do care.

If that's no good and all you get is sulks, I'd be questioning myself (and her) about what she actually feels for you, and whether this is a true marriage. You know, 'love' and all that stuff...

(I have no connection with TK Maxx, other than it's my favourite shop!).

barbiedoll

I got my designer bag from TKMaxx. In fact, I "demanded" that my husband buy it for me for Christmas. He always asks me if there is anything special that I would like as he knows that I'm very difficult to buy for.

Now I know that my husband is very generous and if I ask for something, he will get it for me...within reason. I know his budget and I would never ask for something that he (we) couldn't afford.

My bag is real leather, has a nice shiny swingy tag with a designer name on it and it cost the princely sum of....£70!!

(I felt quite faint when I opened it on Christmas morning. I've never had such an expensive bag before! )

Unless you're Kim Kardashian, £1700 for a handbag is ridiculous. As Michael McIntyre once said, for that money, you could employ someone to follow you around, carrying all of your stuff! :rotfl:

gettingtheresometime

And to think I thought twice about buying my £4 bag from Asda!

AlexLK

OP, I think we may be married to the same woman. :eek:


Seriously, just tell her you're not buying it and that your savings are not for her birthday gifts. Perhaps a conversation about the debts wouldn't go amiss either, if she needs some support, provide it but don't be the one to bail her out.

Tire

Put the £1,700 into a divorce and dump that freeloading wench.

somethingcorporate

This thread is pure gold.

My wife is coming up 30 this year so I was hoping for some gift ideas but this one has me :eek: £1,700 on a handbag? I've never spent that on a car.

Gloomendoom

somethingcorporate wrote: »

This thread is pure gold.

My wife is coming up 30 this year so I was hoping for some gift ideas but this one has me :eek: £1,700 on a handbag? I've never spent that on a car.

My wife once bought me a car for my birthday.