Police caution: Lost job I was offered

lost_for_words

Well it could be 3. Two were on our local rail companies cleaning trains and another was for a hospital porter. As im on JSA what jobs can I go for now. I naively accepted a police caution as I had no idea it would stop me doing a job like the above but it has. So could anyone please advise me what jobs I can go for now. Someone on here might have had the same problem as me. Are there any help groups out there.

Many Thanks

Faith177

What was the caution for and when were you given it?

lovinituk

Presumably by not accepting the caution, they may have proceeded with a prosecution instead which would have been even worse?

lost_for_words

It was for my pushing my 11 year old daughter back into her seat on a train. I had told her off for coming back later than she said. She ended up crying and someone called the police. They come on the train took us off arrested me and drove my daugter safely back to their mum. The cctv looked very tame and prior to this we play fight rougher than this.

The most important thing is that my daugher loves me more than anything and I was so stupid for disciplining her in public. The hospital porter job as ask for an explanation so I am still waiting to hear but the rail companies wasnt interested.

Another_not_new_user

Telling her off is one thing. Pushing her physically isn't telling her off. I believe your version. But any employer who requires a police check is going to question seriously the impulse to resort to physical contact (which can easily become violence) when in an argument. For God's sake don't say that "I was so stupid for disciplining her in public" to anyone else. Physical threat is not discipline, and I can guarantee the hospital will see it that way. Your best response is "out of character", "worried sick about the whereabouts of your eleven year old daughter", and "would absolutely NEVER act in a physically aggressive manner normally".


I accept this may seem OTT to you, but the fact is that too many children have been harmed by parents whilst neighbours, friends and others have stood by making excuses for why it is not their fault. You will get much more credit from an employer for recognising what you did wrong than in making excuses about "play fighting" being rougher.

tomtontom

Hopefully since the incident you have also reviewed what is deemed appropriate in 'play fighting'.

lost_for_words

I told the employer exactly that. I was worried sick and have over 15 years of portering with no problems at all. I spoke to the person for quite a while telling her how worried I was. This was my birthday trip to the sea side to watch an air show. I gave them a wrist band each and they asked for more money to win a minion and be straight back but that didnt happen and I was so angry and relieved when they came back. My son was with me and another adult. There was no witnesses and poor cctv. She got angry and got up to go into the next carriage where her brother was ( he was in the toilet and my mate was waiting outside) and I said no I aint finished with you and when she got up again I stopped her again but how the law has changed over the years. I have been hit harder by the police than that back in the 70s.

Whoever called the police that night has truly made things worse for my daughter as I couldnt see her for 3 months and now with no job I seriously might have to sell my flat and move to Scotland where my dads side of the family are to downsize to a much bigger house.

lost_for_words

Tom. The first thing I said to her when I see her last week after she came running to me was why didnt you defend yourself against me. What if this was a stranger wouldnt you defend yourself. Her reply was, you were close. My kids adore me, I take them out almost every weekend to sea side resorts. Once they left the contact centre the first thing they said is can we see dad next week.

pmduk

Accepting a police caution involves admitting your guilt in the matter.

tomtontom

lost_for_words wrote: »

Tom. The first thing I said to her when I see her last week after she came running to me was why didnt you defend yourself against me. What if this was a stranger wouldnt you defend yourself. Her reply was, you were close. My kids adore me, I take them out almost every weekend to sea side resorts. Once they left the contact centre the first thing they said is can we see dad next week.

A child should never have to defend themselves against their own parent, or any other adult. Please don't blame the person that called the police, this is your own fault.

tomtontom

lost_for_words wrote: »

I told the employer exactly that. I was worried sick and have over 15 years of portering with no problems at all. I spoke to the person for quite a while telling her how worried I was. This was my birthday trip to the sea side to watch an air show. I gave them a wrist band each and they asked for more money to win a minion and be straight back but that didnt happen and I was so angry and relieved when they came back. My son was with me and another adult. There was no witnesses and poor cctv. She got angry and got up to go into the next carriage where her brother was ( he was in the toilet and my mate was waiting outside) and I said no I aint finished with you and when she got up again I stopped her again but how the law has changed over the years. I have been hit harder by the police than that back in the 70s.

Whoever called the police that night has truly made things worse for my daughter as I couldnt see her for 3 months and now with no job I seriously might have to sell my flat and move to Scotland where my dads side of the family are to downsize to a much bigger house.

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