Feeling like I'm a terrible parent!

Emma191

securityguy wrote: »

"I drive them to school only because most days it's on my way to work, so no big deal."

So on the days you aren't working, why do you still drive them?

Ahem, I have no reasonable answer to this other than I am a sucker!

Emma191

pollypenny wrote: »

Please tell me this is a joke, Emma!

When I read the first sentence I thought you'd done something terrible! Life changing or very nasty.

Was forgetting non-uniform day worth setting up a new persona?

Why the new persona? Probably stupid, but a lot of people I know could recognise me from my other user name, and to be honest I really did feel bad.

I'm a single parent, I work 4 days a week ( I know a lot of people do) but sometimes I feel I don't spend enough time with my children, or give them what they may need, yes, I know they need to learn independence and this they are learning, but, it doesn't stop my guilt at not being there sometimes, hence today's incident. Quite possibly people who know me wouldn't judge, but I'd rather not give them the chance, don't get me wrong, I don't care what others think of me as a person, but I wouldn't want my children being dragged into the equation, that's all, like I said, stupid, I know.

The outcome today however was better than I could have imagined, my eldest, although he possesses typical "Kevin" traits at times walked in and said it was his own fault for not remembering. Youngest wasn't so happy, told me I should have reminded him etc.. I gave him the speech of him taking responsibility for himself and so on, end result is they are both going to walk to school as well from now on as they want to make sure they're on time.

We shall see...:D

jp1964

OP, I think you must know by now that you are not alone! I have done this too, although in my defence, yer honour, I was not told by my son that it was non uniform day (he was in Year 8 at the time, so big enough to know better!)

Can I please thank jagraf and victory for the best laugh I have had in ages at the things their teens blame them for, just brilliant, I have just been reading this out to my 17 year old daughter, who sagely and not very convincingly, through her suppressed laughter, announced 'well I would not do that, Mum, I am the PERFECT child'

Don't you just love teenagers, bless 'em.

I am going to have a t shirt printed, I think, saying

'I survived FIVE of these little blighters'

with their pictures printed below!

Or perhaps a set of medals?

WantToBeSE

My 10 year old was sent in uniform today..i forgot it was CIN day.


I am human and make mistakes, no biggie He'll live.

fizz

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Exactly what I was thinking. I thought it was going to be something really serious.

I agree, was it really worth setting up a new account? There's been a few of these overly dramatic threads lately....distress over lost buttons anyone?!

This thread has made me giggle, but as my DD is 14 I understand the point:p

And as for the lost buttons:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

fizz.

fizz

jp1964 wrote: »

OP, I think you must know by now that you are not alone! I have done this too, although in my defence, yer honour, I was not told by my son that it was non uniform day (he was in Year 8 at the time, so big enough to know better!)

Can I please thank jagraf and victory for the best laugh I have had in ages at the things their teens blame them for, just brilliant, I have just been reading this out to my 17 year old daughter, who sagely and not very convincingly, through her suppressed laughter, announced 'well I would not do that, Mum, I am the PERFECT child'

Don't you just love teenagers, bless 'em.

I am going to have a t shirt printed, I think, saying

'I survived FIVE of these little blighters'

with their pictures printed below!

Or perhaps a set of medals?

5!!!! After the week I've had with my 'little madam', I salute you:beer:

fizz.x

PenguinOfDeath

victory wrote: »

Mine-the weather, having to use an umbrella because it is raining, the game not downloading fast enough, the internet, the hair products not making their hair look like they think it should, going on FB solely to 'stalk them', buying the wrong bread,having mud on his favourite blue shoes, there not being enough crisps in their packets,their rooms being too hot/too cold etc:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Not had over frozen ice cream yet:rotfl:

Are you my mother?!

duchy

Emma191 wrote: »

The outcome today however was better than I could have imagined, my eldest, although he possesses typical "Kevin" traits at times walked in and said it was his own fault for not remembering. Youngest wasn't so happy, told me I should have reminded him etc.. I gave him the speech of him taking responsibility for himself and so on, end result is they are both going to walk to school as well from now on as they want to make sure they're on time.

We shall see...:D

Yay
They are growing up
I remember telling my Dad he really didn't need to drive me to school as he was always running late and I was fed up with getting detentions for it. He was mortified but it didn't stop him continuing to make me late so I ended out sneaking out whilst he was washing and shaving (with my Mum's backing- she was as fed up with it as I was ) to get the bus.

Enjoy your non working day mornings not having to rush about . Maybe they could bring you tea in bed before they leave

lostinrates

When I was in secondary I used to board most of the time. In a period when I didn't I learned quite quickly that if I was quiet as we set of from home my mother forgot the school part of the journey and went straight to work.

At eleven upwards help and support is still needed, but getting dressed and laying out clothes the night before is really part of own responsibility. ( unless things like gym kit in the washing machine and you are still doing laundry)...but they should be saying..I need this by...Thursday.....and reminding you day before!

fizz

duchy wrote: »

Yay
They are growing up
I remember telling my Dad he really didn't need to drive me to school as he was always running late and I was fed up with getting detentions for it. He was mortified but it didn't stop him continuing to make me late so I ended out sneaking out whilst he was washing and shaving (with my Mum's backing- she was as fed up with it as I was ) to get the bus.

Enjoy your non working day mornings not having to rush about . Maybe they could bring you tea in bed before they leave

I lived a fair distance away from school and sometimes my dad would take me in...problem was he drove a Rolls-I kid you not! Then to add to my shame, he would slow down at every bus-stop in case I knew the girl. I used to hide in the foot-well:rotfl: Always felt better catching the bus:D