lacking confidence to leave a job I dislike

McKneff

When it is too late, a few months down the line, you will always wonder if you should have applied for it and always wonder if you would have got the job


if you carry on the same way you are now, you will still be in the same job when you get to a retirement age of maybe 68 or so. Do you really want that.


Grab life with both hands.....

redandwhitestripes

I can identify so much with this.
I have been in the same job for 19 years and earn good money but my commute is now early 4 hours a day in total.
I am 42 now with no mortgage and some savings to live off for a while but I just can't seem to make the break either for some reason.

I probably won't be much help with an answer but I think you are doing the right thing in thinking about it, weighing up the options.
Maybe something will come along and trigger you to make a move - that is what I am hoping for!

You certainly aren't alone in your thinking though.

SailorSam

redandwhitestripes wrote: »

I am 42 now with no mortgage and some savings to live off for a while but I just can't seem to make the break either for some reason.
You certainly aren't alone in your thinking though.

I was watching a programme the other day about happiness, and what it is that makes us happy.
One of the men they spoke to was speaking about his previous life as a banker in the City. Good money; long hours; a long commute; never saw his family but had the big house and flash car and 5* holidays. He'd packed it all in to be a gardener and his life was much happier.
What they never said was he had enough in the bank to enable to make the change. But the principal still holds about not staying where you're not happy.

casey

Hi All,
Well as of yet I have had no response to my application so I have to assume that I have not been successful.Just the act of applying and indeed looking for a new job has really given me the push that I needed.Thanks for your supportive replies.

Snakey

Chase them! Phone them up.

panika

Good for you, that u applied for that job.

Over year ago I changed my job. Before that happened I was really stressed. I already had a permanent job, got used to my colleagues, been working there seven years, it was quite good and safe job for a town where i live. I just didn't enjoy it.

I changed it for a job in completely different field, requiring 3 hours commuting each day.

Now I can say it was a good move. I learned a lot and I gained new skills I can use in different professions. I also passed my driving test and drive to work. I wouldn't do that if I still worked in my local town (I didn't need a car). I know that keeping a car costs, but being able to drive is required in more and more workplaces and I don't have to live by bus timetable.

So, good luck. You will get your interviews/job eventually. I filled many application forms before I got my job.

lexon123

To anyone stuck in a rut I would advise look elsewhere. Try a different industry, just apply anywhere that sounds remotely interesting. Any spare time you have, use it for job research, update your CV. Life is not forever, that job you're in that makes you dread going into work every miserable monday morning... is it doing your psychological health any good and is it worth putting up with? I didn't think it was possible to be employed and be happy and that too from a (former) socially detached manic depressive. But if i can enjoy (love might be too strong and let's face it we all have off days) work then anyone is capable of it if they have the courage to challenge themselves and venture out their comfort zones.

First step is to strip away lifes stresses. Reduce everything to zero and then re-calculate every elements value in your life. Improve your diet and focus on physically improving your health. Be less self critical. Don't look back on missed opportunities of the past. Re-build your self belief. Now get that job you never knew you always wanted!