Resignation

mrc85

Evening all,

I needed to gain some input here as I'm feeling incredibly sick tonight.

For the past 5 months, I've hated my new job. It's a combination of things; not getting on with my new team, the completely new career path, the commute and pressure.
I worked for a large company for 4 years that made everyone redundant, so it was a bit of a kick up the backside to go into the careerpath I'd been studying in for the past year.
When I started in this particular field, I found it enjoyable for the first couple of weeks, however the pressure came on thick and fast as did the responsibility and workload.
I aired my concerns at the workload, the lack of training and my own capabilities to my manager, who assured me he'd give me support should I need it (which never manifested, and the workload tripled).
I've tried to get my head down and crack on, but Im on the constant end of criticism (which is on a daily basis and highly demoralising). This job was my opportunity to advance in the career I have wanted to go into for the past year, something I've worked towards, and it's gone horribly wrong.
For the past 3 months, I've told myself to crack on. Kept saying I can do this, and after a particularly awful week last week, have spoken with my fiancee (who's also going through a similar situation), and have admitted that I'm ready to give up.

After letting go in a rather weak display of emotion on my morning drive in last week, I'm now at the point where I'm ready to hand my notice in.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Out of their depth, sleepless nights (and when you do sleep, its nightmares of work), palpatations on your commutes in and evenings of misery and exhaustion?

Wits end, help.

missindecisive

I've been in that situation, put up with it for years...wish now I'd left sooner than I did..life's too short .

Takeaway_Addict

Would you not be better of accepting that you are leaving but don't hand the notice in. Use the time at work to start looking for alternate work knowing that soon it will be over, this should lift some pressure off.

And then start pushing back at work (cleverly, don't be belligerent or obvious) and only doing what you can do in your hours, if they sack you...so what? You want to leave anyway?

pmlindyloo

I feel very sorry for you - nothing worse than hating your job to the extent that it makes you I'll.

Just a couple of points.

If you are financially secure (have plenty of savings) then have one last go at getting some support with a firm notification that you will resign if it's not forthcoming.

And /or go to the doctor and get signed off sick. This might trigger the employer to take some notice and give some support. Of course it might also trigger him to dismiss you but that won't be a bad thing.

If you can manage financially then resign BUT if you will need support from benefits the only chance you may have of not being sanctioned is to get some evidence from your doctor that to continue working will worsen your mental health.

mrc85

Cheers for the kind words all, I wouldn't say we're in a completely secure financial position at the moment, but it's a real struggle to carry on.
The key piece of info that I'm missing from my post is that I've already been on self-certified sick leave a few times since starting, and with no leave left to take my only option for further interviews would be to take additional sick leave.
I have the forboding feeling that if I don't jump, I'll be pushed (similar thing happened with another chap recently who joined a couple of months after me - his contract was terminated a couple of weeks ago).
The crushing thing about all of this is that 'failure feeling' you get.

mrc85

Not the foggiest whats going on in the above posts, but I can see a lot of strange !'s.
An update, I was offered a temp position this morning back in my old career field doing something slightly different to anything I've done before, which I've accepted. My only concern now is how to hand my notice in. It's something I'm positively bricking it over.

Snakey

It sucks that it's all gone wrong, and you may never know whether it was the wrong career path or whether it was just that particular company.

I wouldn't worry about handing in your notice. You're over-thinking this because you are all stressed out. It's only making you anxious because it's building up in your mind as a big scary unknown. Chances are you will come out of that two-minute meeting wondering why you got all worked up over nothing.

Morally speaking, you gave it your best shot and you have been raising your concerns with your manager - surely he won't be too surprised to find that since those issues were not dealt with you've decided to explore other options. Also, if you've not really been performing from the start then he was probably going to have to have a difficult conversation with you at some point anyway. So all in all you might find you handing your notice in lightens the atmosphere and is a relief all round. Of course they might go the other way and decide to make your life hell every day of your notice period but that's good in a way as it shows you made the right decision.

On a more practical note, if you won't be looking for employment in that field of work again then it hardly matters what he thinks as long as you have given him no cause to give a bad reference.

mrc85

Snakey wrote: »

It sucks that it's all gone wrong, and you may never know whether it was the wrong career path or whether it was just that particular company.

I wouldn't worry about handing in your notice. You're over-thinking this because you are all stressed out. It's only making you anxious because it's building up in your mind as a big scary unknown. Chances are you will come out of that two-minute meeting wondering why you got all worked up over nothing.

Morally speaking, you gave it your best shot and you have been raising your concerns with your manager - surely he won't be too surprised to find that since those issues were not dealt with you've decided to explore other options. Also, if you've not really been performing from the start then he was probably going to have to have a difficult conversation with you at some point anyway. So all in all you might find you handing your notice in lightens the atmosphere and is a relief all round. Of course they might go the other way and decide to make your life hell every day of your notice period but that's good in a way as it shows you made the right decision.

On a more practical note, if you won't be looking for employment in that field of work again then it hardly matters what he thinks as long as you have given him no cause to give a bad reference.

Thanks Snakey. I've been getting more and more anxious as the day goes on. I've spoken to work to advise them I'll be seeing my GP this evening, as I feel completely out of control of my nerves, but I'm yet to advise them of my current situation.

The irony is, I feel bad for resigning. My other half (family and close friends come to it) think I'm being over sensitive and that I should be skipping about, but I feel genuinely like I've been hit in the gut.
I don't want to serve my notice on sick leave, but I can't help but feel it's my only way out. On top of this, I'm having real doubts about my ability with this new temp position. It all seems to have happened 'too easily'.
Snowballing out of control, rather daft.

RedfordML

mrc85 wrote: »

Evening all,

I needed to gain some input here as I'm feeling incredibly sick tonight.

For the past 5 months, I've hated my new job. It's a combination of things; not getting on with my new team, the completely new career path, the commute and pressure.
I worked for a large company for 4 years that made everyone redundant, so it was a bit of a kick up the backside to go into the careerpath I'd been studying in for the past year.
When I started in this particular field, I found it enjoyable for the first couple of weeks, however the pressure came on thick and fast as did the responsibility and workload.
I aired my concerns at the workload, the lack of training and my own capabilities to my manager, who assured me he'd give me support should I need it (which never manifested, and the workload tripled).
I've tried to get my head down and crack on, but Im on the constant end of criticism (which is on a daily basis and highly demoralising). This job was my opportunity to advance in the career I have wanted to go into for the past year, something I've worked towards, and it's gone horribly wrong.
For the past 3 months, I've told myself to crack on. Kept saying I can do this, and after a particularly awful week last week, have spoken with my fiancee (who's also going through a similar situation), and have admitted that I'm ready to give up.

After letting go in a rather weak display of emotion on my morning drive in last week, I'm now at the point where I'm ready to hand my notice in.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Out of their depth, sleepless nights (and when you do sleep, its nightmares of work), palpatations on your commutes in and evenings of misery and exhaustion?

Wits end, help.

Life is to short.

A couple of years back the working conditions and workload were excessive and the commue was poor, meant i came to end of line.

Spoke to my partner, resigned and used savings until I found a more suitable job after 3 months.

gl

mrc85

Thanks. I had a chat with my boss this evening and resigned. He was very understanding, and wants me to pop in for a chat one afternoon so we can leave on good terms.
I do now feel like a weight is being lifted, but once Im in a new routine will I truly feel resolved.
Thanks for your words of advice though all.

phoebebutton

Good luck in your new position MrsC, i totally understand what you are going through and recently quit my high pressure job for something which is much less pay but also no responsibility, less commuting and i feel amazing for doing so even though it's not a 'career' i have never been happier.I have quickly found there is more to life than the job you do.