advice for future after displinary

silentwolf

hi as im facing disciplinary im just thinking of future if i get dismissed

i have been applying for new jobs as wish to hand in resignation if do not get dismissed

i also work volunteer and my volunteer manager as told me i can use her as references for new job if get interviewed

she told me not to use the job i wish to resign from

any advice on this

keyser666

No need to make another thread and no-one will give you any advice other than go through with the disciplinary as mentioned on the other thread. As advised do something and do not worry, watch the x factor or something for frigs sake

silentwolf

not sure why you being rude as was asking a total different question

this why the new thread as my volunteer manager as told me to take off my paid job from my cv and use her as reference's and i just wanted other advice on this

i dont feel comfortable going bck to the same job where this other co worker will be where the atmosphere will be horrible for both of us as i know for certain i will no longer acknowledge her

tomtontom

You need to grow up silentwolf - your colleague highlighted a H&S breach, this is no reason to ignore her, unless you want to get into more trouble?

ohreally

silentwolf wrote: »

i dont feel comfortable going bck to the same job where this other co worker will be where the atmosphere will be horrible for both of us as i know for certain i will no longer acknowledge her

I think you need to act like an adult (and quickly) or you will find your workplace issues escalate and will likely follow you into different jobs with you health/ wellbeing starting to suffer.

Edit: too slow, beaten by above post.

silentwolf

yes we was very close friends but not any more we both seem to be ignoring each other i will have think about things n decide wat to do later as too many people telling me different things

bye

[Deleted User]

Not sure I would listen to the volunteer place, sorry.

Believe in the Karma too

Know how you feel I've a team leader who enjoys telling me a senior colleague has tried getting me in trouble for this, that and the next thing, I wouldn't remove 6+months worth of a job for it from the CV,
(they hate it when I apologise and admit mistake often public because I'll always be the bigger person)
in fact I was more quietly pleased when software was installed which shows how productive of a day we all are, when not running around telling tales... sad really

Keep your chin and head up OP x

James_B.

silentwolf wrote: »

i dont feel comfortable going bck to the same job where this other co worker will be where the atmosphere will be horrible for both of us as i know for certain i will no longer acknowledge her

This sort of attitude is terrible, and will not help you in the future. Your colleague was in the right to report the incident, even if you'd have preferred that they speak to you instead (how would you have reacted had they done so?), so blaming them and ostracising them is attacking the person who was in the right in this situation.

You really don't seem to want to accept that you made a mistake, and that there's a process that follows from this. Why do you want to hit out at others for something that you did wrong?

Babbawah

I've always believed that there are a few fundamental basics that need to to exist between an employer & an employee for the relationship to succeed.

The first one is trust. Trust is the single, most basic & fundamental ingredient of ANY relationship. Not just between employer & employee. Where there is no trust there is no relationship.

The second one is respect. Respect is a two way thing, you give respect & you receive respect. If either is lacking then the relationship is somewhat broken.

I won't explain the third, the fourth, the fifth etc. If you need them explaining then you will never understand.

I don't care what the circumstances are or whoever is right & who is wrong. Your employer has chosen to put you through the mechanical motions of a disciplinary.

For me, this would be enough to force the decision to move on. Any employee facing a disciplinary cannot say that mutual trust & respect are still in place.

As to your OP, would I use this employer as a reference ? Of course I would.

theoretica

James_B. wrote: »

This sort of attitude is terrible, and will not help you in the future. Your colleague was in the right to report the incident, even if you'd have preferred that they speak to you instead (how would you have reacted had they done so?), so blaming them and ostracising them is attacking the person who was in the right in this situation.

Wouldn't the workplace have a policy that breaches should be reported and if your colleague hadn't reported the incident she too should be facing an investigation. By mentioning it to her you gave her an ethical dilemma and I can't say I think she chose wrongly.