Leaving a very new job for one I want...

debdeb12

Hello,

I was wondering if someone would be able to give me some advice on the repercussions of leaving a role after only four weeks.

I relocated last month and began job hunting immediately. I applied for a job that I would just love (can see myself being there for a good few years and it would look great on my CV and for the future). I was offered an interview and accepted. In the meantime, another job I applied for also offered me an interview which I accepted too - didn't want to pin all my hopes on the 'dream job'.

Whilst still waiting for first 'dream job' interview, I was offered a role at the second company. It seemed a nice place to work, people were lovely so I decided to accept it whilst still planning on going to the first 'dream job' interview. I was offered a second interview there and then which took place only last week (just three weeks into my current role)

Today, 'dream job' offered me a position. Due to probation, I am only required to give a week's notice at current place, and I have made the decision to be selfish and concentrate on my happiness and career prospects rather than worry about letting people that I've only known for a few weeks down.

My current employers are very small and have done their upmost to make me feel welcome etc. I am really beating myself up about what to do tomorrow when I have to tell them that I am leaving. I know it's probably because I am just a sensitive nelly at times, but I hate the thought of them having to go back through the recruitment process because of me.

I was wondering if anyone else had gone through a similar situation and if the outcome from the company they were letting down was left on good terms. It's really playing on my mind.

Many thanks for even taking the time to read this post - it's really appreciated. (Sorry for it being so long).

19lottie82

Yes it's pretty rubbish but you need to do what's right for you in situations like these. Plus as you only took the job on a very short time ago they will have a second choice from the interviews, I think.

FBaby

The same thing happened to me some years ago. Like you, I had to take the other job, it was exactly what I wanted and the salary was almost 1/3rd more. It didn't stop me feeling dreadful that I was letting down people who had gone out of their way to make me feel welcome (they had agreed to pay me more than those already employed doing the same role).

I called my boss and told him and he went mad. It was terrible and I carried the guilt for a long time, but ultimately, I forgot, I'm sure he did too and.... it got me on the ladder and I am not sure I would be where I am now, 15 years later if I hadn't taken that job.

szam_

Happened to me last year, a month after I started a new job after redundancy, I was offered a job doing more what I wanted with more progression opportunities.

My advice would be just to hand your notice in and be honest about it. I did and they were quite understanding as it was a step up for me and they wished me luck and vice versa.

I did give them a months notice rather than a weeks out of respect, despite my contract saying a week.

smifffy1989

Many people leave a job within weeks as it doesn't work out to be what they really wanted. You need to do what is right by you!

Mazzarati2000

This happened to me in 2005, just after graduation. The second job was a little higher basic and double ote. I was dreading telling them as they'd been lovely and I ended up handing in my notice the day the lady I was replacing left. I was honest and the boss was a true gent, he said he was gutted for them, but that he completely understood I had to do it, and that he hoped that one day when interviewing candidates I found him in front of me, I'd remember him, and give him a chance. Such a sweet way of making me feel better about the situation., I think he could tell in was uncomfortable about leaving them so soon. As others have said, hopefully they'll have a reserves list, with it being so recent. Do what is right for you, and be honest with them. That way you have nothing to hide/worry about. Hope your boss is as good about it as mine was, and that the new role is as rewarding as the one I went for.

PlutoinCapricorn

I have not done it myself, but I have seen it happen. A new person started, then said that she had just been offered a job with a company that would have been her first choice: she went to several interviews. She was offered her dream job because the first choice suddenly decided to accept another offer! Anyone who is good will get a few job offers: everyone knows that. It does feel bad to do this to what seems like a good company, but someone else may be delighted to be taken on in your place. If you show them that you are genuinely sorry, they will be glad that is is happening early on in your appointment.

Elfbert

My partner just left a job he had only been in for 2 months - it just wasn't really what he'd been told it was! He got on well with the people, but the role was very different to what had been described, and it became obvious quite quickly that it wouldn't be getting any better any time soon.

Then another company offered him a job - much more suited to his skills and background, so he took it, gave his week's notice and is now a million times happier!

I don't think it's something you can make a habit of, but doing it once really isn't a big deal, I don't think.