Ex-partner's father - separation payment

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

So why did you give them £5k and then took a loan from them for £3k at a huge interest rate?

Sprogladite

The 5k was (at that time) a separate 'separation' payment to my ex partner and I wanted closure. I was labouring under the misapprehension that she was entitled to a portion of my home under common law which I now realise is not the case.

The 3k was a loan to her father, however both the 5k was paid to him as was the ongoing standing order. Basically they have received £6525 from me so far.

Pricivius

There are two issues here that I think you need to separate in your head, unless they are actually one issue - it's not clear?

1. Separation payment of £5,000 to ex
You agreed to give your ex-girlfriend (via her father) £5,000 to buy out any interest in your property. It turns out she had no interest in your property, but you did not know this at the time.

2. Loan from ex's father
Your ex's father loaned you £3,000 to pay off your credit cards, which you did. You agreed to pay him back at £55 per month. You do not dispute the amount he gave you or that you agreed the arrangement.

It seems you are now annoyed about the separation payment as you realise you should not have agreed to pay it. So was it an £8,000 loan from ex's father or was it as set out above? It sounds like her father gave her £5,000 and then you repaid him the £5,000? So what you are now asking him to do is to get a refund from his daughter of £1,475 to pay off the remaining monies you owe to him?

If nothing else, this is bad form - you agreed sums of money and agreed repayment and now you have changed your mind. If you bought a house or a car, you can't change your mind 18 months down the line and demand a refund!

Good luck appealing to his better nature...

Sprogladite

Had a meeting earlier today, negotiated a final lump sum. Was obviously an unpleasant conversation however glad to have some closure. Thanks for your support guys - valuable advice that assisted me in clearing the issue.