Resigning

MissD

oh just seen you're faced once again. tell her to get bar work etc to pay rent etc in meantime. apart from my other suggestions.

fufu_banterwaite

Inaflat wrote: »

I'm now faced(once again) with supporting her financially.

How many times before has she done this?

DCFC79

Have to agree with everyone else.

Inaflat

Ok, I agree with you all, but she's mine and you (literally) reap what you sow!

She hasn't resigned before, just had difficulty managing her finances.

I think other than she gets pregnant we are all on our own with these as far as help from the state

Undervalued

Inaflat wrote: »

And she has also been told to repay £2000 for training she received

The firm can only recover training costs if there was a SIGNED agreement in place. This is unusual in English law as in most cases a verbal agreement or an agreement formed simply by working there and getting paid would be sufficient. So it is worth checking.

Even if there is a signed agreement it must be reasonable to be enforceable.

Caroline_a

Inaflat wrote: »

Ok, I agree with you all, but she's mine and you (literally) reap what you sow!

She hasn't resigned before, just had difficulty managing her finances.

I think other than she gets pregnant we are all on our own with these as far as help from the state

Yes she is yours, but if you are expected to hand over money for something that is very unavoidable, then I think you get to call the shots. Give her a timescale to get a job/find somewhere cheaper/move back home, or you could end up supporting her living the life of Riley a long way away, while your savings dwindle to nothing! Tell her that when the x months are up then that is it, and she'll have to take any job, cleaning toilets, etc etc. And stick to it!

[Deleted User]

Inaflat wrote: »

She hasn't resigned before, just had difficulty managing her finances.

I think other than she gets pregnant we are all on our own with these as far as help from the state

Probably a bit harsh

If there is stil financial probs time to let her do a DRO and the like then - the one thing the government ever did right for people with such money worries, you then won't have to shoulder the financial mistakes so much and your daughter gets the best crack at living without benefits long term - trust me I've managed it

Hope something else comes along for her, don't write it of just yet xx

Comstock

She should claim JSA straight away. She will almost certainly get sanctioned (ie no money) for 12 weeks, but the sooner she claims, the sooner she can find out how long she is sanctioned for and get on with 'serving' the sanction - and looking for work. This will also open the door to claim housing benefit which will help with her rent- this *isn't* subject to the sanction period.

My suggestion is she claims JSA online at once, and gives a vague reason for the job ending eg 'end of contract' type thing. Then let the employer give their side and she can try and defend herself- but I don't hold much hope as they are getting much stricter on this.

She should also go to her local council and ask to claim Housing Benefit. *Don't* rely on the Job Centre to do this for her- get a claim in at once and let them know she is claiming JSA- don't at this stage mention any possible sanction- just say she is claiming JSA and wants to claim housing benefit. Don't phone the council- go in tomorrow and get a form and fill it in straight away because Housing Benefit can't be backdated.

So worst case is no JSA for 12 weeks and a delay of circa 6 weeks (depends on the council IME) for housing benefit to come through......

pickledonionspaceraider

barryboris wrote: »

Why the heck did she do a stupid thing like that. No offence meant but it's a crazy decision in this day and age (not to mention selfish as I assume she had no actual plan to support herself and automatically assumed you would back her again financially).

If I were you, I'd tell her that she made the decision to quit, and she should sort her mess out.

Ridiculous!

Oh and she won't be entitled to JSA due to leaving her job voluntarily.

This.

This is not rude, it's just a slice of reality, which OP's daughter desperately needs

JSA she will get a 12 week sanction for making herself out of work. OP I hope you have deep pockets for the next three months

dandelionclock30

I think there may be more going on for her than people realize.To walk out she could have depression or something like that.People can be very harsh but if she couldnt cope then she couldnt.
As long as she tried to sort herself ou and find something elce, then I would'nt mind helping her if it was my daughter. Its not the end of the world really.